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This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.
Started by Legacy.com Dec 28, 2017.
Started by David Heggi. Last reply by David Heggi Nov 22, 2017.
Started by denise. Last reply by Marsha H Oct 25, 2017.
Sorry to hear about Tootsie prognosis. We had to go through that with Diane's dog Roxie. She said she knew I was okay because Roxie didn't like men very well, but took to me right away. They suspected tumors, did Surgery they were all over. Had to have her but down without waking up. People that aren't dog owners don't understand how much of a part of the family they become. I'm sure you gave Totsie a home and Love that most dogs could only dream off. That's the best thing we can do.
Marsha.....I'm so sorry to hear this news of Tootsie. My heart is breaking for you. I wish I had that magic wand and could make this okay but all I can do is pray for peace for both you and Tootsie.
Dear Rolland ... Thank you so much my dear friend to take the time to acknowledge my sweet Tootsie and to let me know some of your private life regarding Janice and her parrot Oz. Yes, they do become a great part of our lives and I understand totally that Oz is a connection to your dear Janice; same applies with my 2 dogs with my Ernie and I. Once they are both gone that's the last connection to the life Ernie and I have and I also understand that's a frightening thing one doesn't want to look forward to. When Ernie passed away April 27, 2011 our dear comical cat Molly (10 years old) passed suddenly and no warning 5 months after that and now yet I face another loss. I'm angry to a degree and I suppose it's because I can't make her well. It's about quality time with Tootsie as nothing else can be done for her. I refuse Chemo or Radiation and not because of money, but it's a terrible thing to put your pet through with the same outcome in 99% of this type of cancer.
May I suggest that you put in your Will where Oz will go when it is your time because many people don't do this with their pets and as you know Oz will live to be a ripe old age. Just a suggestion in case you haven't.
I hope your days are more peaceful Rolland and again that you for your concern and encouragement.
My dear extended family ...
I got an unexpected call from my vet about my little dog Tootsie and the news stunned me. The tumor is cancerous (carcinoma) and spread. I have to go in to see him tomorrow to see whether to take the tumor out (fast growing) and God only knows how long she'll have or, take the tumor out and get a little more time together. I am so full of heartache as she's been such a sweet and loving companion and was part of Ernie and I and that's what makes it so damn hard! I am been crying my eyes out wondering when all this hell is going to end and I find a little peace and joy.
Thanks for those that encouraged me and kept my hopes up and I love you all for that.
TO MY LOVING EXTENDED FAMILY ... FROM MY HEART TO YOURS! BE STRONG AND 'DANCE' NEVER GIVE UP AS THERE IS THAT LIGHT AT THE END OF THE TUNNEL.
This month, having two anniversaries for you, will undoubtedly bring forth many emotions and tears - I'll be thinking of you and sending many prayers your way.
Thank you for sharing the words your pastor kindly spoke to you. When I read the words " Believe in yourself " I glanced to a note taped on the shelf above my computer - it reads " Never doubt yourself - or me ". That note was placed there surreptitiously during the first year of my grieving for Larry during a visit. I found it a few hours later, and it will be forever placed where I will see it every day wherever I live. She will never grasp the tremendous impact those few words written in her lovely hand have had on my healing.
Sadly, the reverse can also be true sometimes, when people casually dismiss our feelings with a lightly tossed out comment. This happened to me yesterday when, during a phone conversation, I said that it was exactly two years ago that Larry had to admit me to the hospital. the rather glib reply was " Time flies ". Without thinking I said " Not for me it hasn't...the last two years feel like two million". This was met with the sound of crickets - meaning silence.
If only people knew how easily their few simple words spoken to one who is broken-hearted with grief can either comfort or wound. But we here know - a sad lesson we have learned the hardest of ways.
Jay, I wish you peace in your heart, and hope you will take care of yourself well as Stephen would wish you to do - I know first hand how health issues can magnify our difficulties and make our loss all the more painful. I hope your issues are not too burdensome and are resolved easily.
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