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A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.
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This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.
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TO MY LOVING EXTENDED FAMILY ... FROM MY HEART TO YOURS! BE STRONG AND 'DANCE' NEVER GIVE UP AS THERE IS THAT LIGHT AT THE END OF THE TUNNEL.
This month, having two anniversaries for you, will undoubtedly bring forth many emotions and tears - I'll be thinking of you and sending many prayers your way.
Thank you for sharing the words your pastor kindly spoke to you. When I read the words " Believe in yourself " I glanced to a note taped on the shelf above my computer - it reads " Never doubt yourself - or me ". That note was placed there surreptitiously during the first year of my grieving for Larry during a visit. I found it a few hours later, and it will be forever placed where I will see it every day wherever I live. She will never grasp the tremendous impact those few words written in her lovely hand have had on my healing.
Sadly, the reverse can also be true sometimes, when people casually dismiss our feelings with a lightly tossed out comment. This happened to me yesterday when, during a phone conversation, I said that it was exactly two years ago that Larry had to admit me to the hospital. the rather glib reply was " Time flies ". Without thinking I said " Not for me it hasn't...the last two years feel like two million". This was met with the sound of crickets - meaning silence.
If only people knew how easily their few simple words spoken to one who is broken-hearted with grief can either comfort or wound. But we here know - a sad lesson we have learned the hardest of ways.
Jay, I wish you peace in your heart, and hope you will take care of yourself well as Stephen would wish you to do - I know first hand how health issues can magnify our difficulties and make our loss all the more painful. I hope your issues are not too burdensome and are resolved easily.
Dear Mary Jane,
You have just solved the problem of some of my own disappearing posts - thank you! I wrote something on page two this morning, then lost it completely. I will now try again on the first page.
See, you're helping us all out already my friend -
Mary Jane.....Yes you are making sense. Our comments post chronologically so regardless of what page you're on, you have to post on page 1. Glad you solved your mystery. It must have been driving you crazy.
Marsha.......I'm sorry the news for Tootsie wasn't better. I myself have never had pets but my sister went through this a few months ago so I have an idea of your suffering. With my sister, she got lucky as the tumor was removed and Roho is back to her old self. I'll be praying for the same outcome for Tootsie.
Dearest Trina ... Thank you for that lovely post. I feel as if we've known each other before and I swear, our spouses have sent us to Legacy for a good reason. I always come here when I know someone is in need, but also when I have a problem or lose faith. I've been a Christian for years and go to Bible Study which is Thursday nights.
I don't think I would have been as strong as I am if it hadn't been for Legacy and my extended family. It doesn't matter than new members come to this forum and each one amazes me that they reach out with love and encouragement even though they, themselves are grieving deeply. I am so proud of each and every person on here. I know we'll all get through this because of the strength and love we each radiate to each other.
Thank you for thinking of my little fur baby as my two dogs are all that is left that Ernie and I enjoyed. I'm a realist so I know one day they will pass too, but it doesn't make it any easier. So, I pray, sometimes I get angry, I cry and then I slap myself silly and get moving and fight the fight.
Know hon, we are all here for you as well and I hope the move you made is one that fills you with hope, joy and peace.
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