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A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.
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This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.
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Dear Sandfly ... We all know how you feel on a first anniversary of a spouse's demise and yes, it's one tough day for each one of us, but does get a little better as time goes by.
I too have no children, retired and a very small immediate family I only see on/off. I know just how lonely it can be for you. As far as friends I did go through the same thing and I suppose they may feel we need to be alone on that special day thinking about our spouses.
You may at times feel you're going crazy or going to fall apart, but short of tears and memories of your spouse and the shock they are no longer with you, you will NEVER fall apart nor will you go crazy.
If you have a very close and loyal friend call them up and ask them if they would like to go for dinner or a drink so you are at least occupied. If this is not possible then what I do on Ernie's and my anniversary is buy a helium balloon and write love notes on it; take it to our favorite spot and let it loose to fly to the heavens in hopes he'll catch it. Although I can still cry doing this after over 6 years it's a good cry and I don't feel so deeply in heartache as I once did. It is true that time does calm things down, but we all know we'll never forget our dear hearts.
We're here for you Sandfly and I'm on late (live in B.C., Canada) so if you want to talk just vent and I'll answer.
Know we are all thinking of you so you're truly not alone.
Michelle, I am glad that you know what will most bring you comfort on the anniversary of the loss of your husband. I am so sorry for your loss. You will also be remain my thoughts and prayers. Debbie
Sandfly, You are approaching the anniversary with a great state of mind. I found that the days before the actual date were more difficult for me than the actual anniversary. I spent a lot of time during those days reliving events that occurred the year before. Please choose to do whatever you need to do on the actual day. If you need to grieve and further process your loss, please take the time to do it. I just experienced the second year anniversary of my husband's passing. I and opted to celebrate. I went to one of our old haunts and toasted him with a glass of wine. I then enjoyed a great seafood dinner at a newly opened seafood restaurant that he would have loved.
Please know that I will be thinking of you and sending my strength. Please update about how you choose to spend your day. Debbie
Sandfly, so sorry for your loss. We have a lot in common. My husband also passed in August 2016. I also live alone and have two sisters. He was my soulmate for 34 years, like yours my whole life. I think on his day of passing I will light candles and pray as that gives me some comfort. I hope you can find something to give you comfort and honor his memory.
Hello everyone, I am dreading the first anniversary. My husband died August 2016. Still stunned as I am writing these words. I live alone and have no family nearby, my side of the family all lives in Europe,his two sisters are closer but still quite a trip. David was my whole family for 32 years, we never had children. Have no idea f what to do on this day. A few months ago a brought up the discussion with his sisters about doing something special, I also mentioned it to friends.I have to say no one really said anything much.David did not like fuss but I just want people TO REMEMBER HIM. I have taken the day off work I am so scared I will just fall apart. I don't know what to do.
Mary Jane, It sounds like a great visit! The weather should be pleasant in October and not nearly as hot as it is now. I can't wait to hear all about your adventures. Debbie
Mary Jane....I accepted your friend invite. You can message me with your book suggestions.
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