Bereaved Spouses

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Need Advice:Grief and Chronic Fatigue

Started by Kaela Roster. Last reply by Sara Murphy 5 hours ago. 16 Replies

My love is gone...

Started by Chris Sky. Last reply by deborah peck Sep 12. 18 Replies

On the last day of our vacation my husband died.

Started by Andrew Berenyi Jr.. Last reply by deborah peck Aug 22. 33 Replies

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Comment by Marsha H on September 4, 2017 at 3:41pm

Mary Packer ...  Sorry, can't find your message here, but got it in my email.  I do understand anxiety and it's very normal when grieving.  When upset our muscles tense up without us even realizing it.  Restless sleep to our shoulders up to our ears because of the trauma of losing a spouse causes all those aches and pains.  I went through it as well.

Xanax is good for anxiety, but be sure that your doctor only puts you on it for a short-term as they are extremely addictive.  I know because my doctor didn't and now after years of taking it to ward of panic attacks I can't get off it especially because of my age (75.) 

You can also go to a pharmacy as ask for a lotions physiotherapists use here for massage for joint and muscle pain and it's called, 'P3 ...  muscle and joint pain.'  It has a strong mint smell and other good things in it such as Eucalyptus and it works wonders.  I use it and got a bottle of it for a friend of mine who was in a car accident and she said it works so well.  Hope this helps.

Please keep coming back for Legacy and let us know how you are doing.


Comment by Marsha H on September 4, 2017 at 3:52am

Russ ...  So happy to know you are doing OK since the storm and now the flooding.  I've been praying along with other friends here in Canada that this soon will come to an end.  I know only too well how long it will take for the poor people there to get back on their feet. 



Comment by Trina Mamoon on September 4, 2017 at 2:52am


Keeping you and your fellow Houstonians in my thoughts and prayers. Hurricane Harvey has brought destruction and devastation to countless many, but glad for your resilience and courage.

Best, Trina

Comment by Trina Mamoon on September 4, 2017 at 2:50am

Dear Deborah,

Thinking of you and sending prayers your way. Hope your anniversary day was not unbearable. Marker days are always extremely difficult. Hang in there! 

Hugs, Trina

Comment by Russ Macaluso on August 31, 2017 at 2:39pm

Thanks to everyone for your kind words ad prayers.  I am truly blessed because I had no detrimental affects from the storm.. Unfortunately for a large number of others that is not the case, It is going to take Houston a very long time to recover from this but we are resilient and we will come out at the other end even stronger and with a renewed faith in the people in our country, whose support has been phenomenal. Again, thanks for your prayers and please keep praying for us.  There a large number of people who are suffering and whose life has been turned upside down...Hugs

Comment by Sara Murphy on August 31, 2017 at 2:33pm

Deborah........Thinking of you today on what would be your 26th anniversary.  There's no easy way to get through these special days. Praying for peace and sending you a hug.

Comment by Sara Murphy on August 31, 2017 at 2:13pm

Russ....  I didn't realize you are in Houston.  You are certainly in my thoughts.  My company has many locations in Texas, Houston being among them (as well as Corpus Christi and Victoria).  I've also been thinking about my co-workers in Houston and hoping they're all safe.  The GM of that location called me on Tuesday asking me to approve an increase to his company credit card so he could charter a helicopter to fly over our building and assess damages.  I certainly feel for all of you.

Comment by Joanne Dobrow on August 31, 2017 at 1:52pm


Try to be good to yourself. Sending love and a hug.

Comment by deborah peck on August 30, 2017 at 11:07pm

tomorrow would be my 26th wedding anniversary, Not sure how the day will be. I'm so tired of crying and feeling weepy all the time and being sad and all the pretending that I am fine, My prayers are with all the hurt and scared people in Texas right now, praying for peace for them and everyone

Comment by Marsha H on August 28, 2017 at 4:04pm

Steve ...  Thank you for that very soothing song and it made my morning. 

Love your sis Marsha


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