Bereaved Spouses

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Need Advice:Grief and Chronic Fatigue

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My love is gone...

Started by Chris Sky. Last reply by deborah peck Sep 12. 18 Replies

On the last day of our vacation my husband died.

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Comment by Marsha H on September 11, 2017 at 12:50am

Deborah ...  I am so happy for you that you had almost a normal time of things and you certainly deserve it.  Like you, shortly after Ernie passed away my girlfriend took me to Bingo and I won $500, but that was a miracle in itself!  LOL

The Memorial Pond is so beautiful and what a lovely thing to do for Greg.  Family coming over is like take a pill for anxiety and very happy you all had a great time.

The highlight of my weekend was adopting out a little dog that had been so badly matted and had been with a homeless person who had to give the dog up.  All the volunteers and myself worked on him for an hour and he was such a good boy and lo and behold he was the first one adopted out to a great family.  We all had tears in our eyes, but tears of joy for a change.

I pray you have more peace and happy days in your life Deb.



Comment by Sara Murphy on September 10, 2017 at 9:55pm

Debbie.....I'm glad you had a nice weekend.  It's so hard to feel normal but when you have a day or weekend that gets close, I think it gives a little added strength to get through another day.  I hope tomorrow is a good day as well.

Comment by Sara Murphy on September 10, 2017 at 9:51pm

Chuck.......That's a beautiful story.  I can imagine Larry and Mark meeting as you say and keeping each other company until the 4 of you are together.  So often we don't think about the separation from our departed loved one's point of view.  I'd like to think they miss us as much as we miss them. 

Comment by deborah peck on September 10, 2017 at 7:45pm

This weekend has been the best so far since Greg passed, I finally went out with friends, we just went to play bingo but its something I enjoy and was so nice to get out of the house, then my brother came to spend the weekend with me and I invited some of my family over Saturday night to spend time with him too and everyone just sat around talking  at the memorial pond my brother in law and I put in for my husband ( pictures on my page) we talked until 3 in the morning and it was so nice and almost "normal". I hope everyone else had a good weekend, love Debbie

Comment by Marsha H on September 9, 2017 at 3:59am

Mary.Jane ...  Thanks for the nice compliment.  Have more pics on 'my page.'  I never thought of myself looking like Rue MacClanahan, but many have said when younger I looked like Natalie Wood.  When I was in San Fran many years ago in my 20's I had a few people come up asking for my autograph!  LOL  I'll send you a picture back then.  I can still get it or an older Jane Fonda.  I honestly don't get it.  Odd how people can look at a certain person who reminds them of a celebrity.  The picture by my post is the last picture of Ernie and I in Jan. 2011.  I can't believe I was with him then and 3 months later he passed away.   

Hope you are feeling much better and having some good days for a change my friend.

Comment by Charles E. Nelson on September 8, 2017 at 11:59pm

Debbie, Thank you so much.

Comment by Charles E. Nelson on September 8, 2017 at 11:38pm

Dear Mary Jane,

You have been in my thoughts  - I believe you said you were planning a trip to the outer banks with your daughter, and I sincerely hope it doesn't coincide with this monstrous storm - all the nation is watching and praying for a part of the country that had already been pummeled and now faces possibly an even worse blow.

The story was written after I had been without Larry for just over a year, and came to me as I sat on a bench in the backyard where I feed our family of chipmunks (some from my hand). I was having an inner dialogue with myself, and then with Steve's partner Mark about our growing friendship which was evolving into a closer bond. I asked Mark to please help me know if this - if I - would be good for Steve, and would he check with Larry? As I imagined the two of them discussing these developments the story suddenly formed in my mind and I knew I had to set it down before I lost it. Thank you for being so encouraging and supportive - I better find some way to start making money, and since I am unable to paint right now, writing gives me a way to express my feelings and remain sane (well, relatively so anyway!) If it eventually translated into something others might benefit from reading and generated a little income I would  be gratified.

I hope these days are finding you spared from too much pain and episodes of your EBS aren't too frequent. I know too well first hand how physical pain easily magnifies our grieving leaving us overwhelmed and exhausted!

I agree with you about our lovely Marsha - she immediately makes me think of Natalie Wood myself. Apologies Marsha for talking about you as if you weren't in the room! 

Be well, Mary Jane, and my prayers for you to have peace this weekend -



Comment by deborah peck on September 8, 2017 at 10:46pm

Chuck that was beautiful

Comment by Mary. Jane on September 8, 2017 at 9:55pm
MARSHA! Wow! You are a knockout!!! You remind me of some movie star, but I can,t think exactly who. RUe mcClenahand comes to mind, from the Golden girls, but there's someone else too! You GO GIRL!!!
Comment by Mary. Jane on September 8, 2017 at 9:48pm
Was that from your meeting with Larry? You should seriously write a book. Your prose is beautiful

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