Bereaved Spouses

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Need Advice:Grief and Chronic Fatigue

Started by Kaela Roster Federle. Last reply by Kaela Roster Federle Sep 25. 27 Replies

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Comment by Marsha H on September 30, 2017 at 3:12am

Dear Steve ...  I'm so sorry you are having health issues and the 'waiting game.'  I am sure the surgery won't be as bad as you imagine.  My prayers are with you and I'm sure everything is going to be OK. 

I've been fighting Sciatic pain and I wouldn't wish that on anyone.  I've been just resting and even physio is not helping at this time.  I am trying to find other options to relieve the pain because it's so debilitating.

You hang in there and know you have a lot of love, support and prayers coming your way.

Love your sis


Comment by Marsha H on September 30, 2017 at 3:07am

Dear Deb ...  I'm feeling very alone tonight as well and just like you I need Ernie's arms around me to tell me everything is going to be OK.  As Kaela said we carry our sweethearts inside of us in everything we do.  I still believe they are watching out for us even though we may not see or feel them in our worst days that we can have on and off.  Hold tight to those thoughts and know you are not alone; we're here as well.



Comment by Kaela Roster Federle on September 29, 2017 at 10:15pm


I know you are feeling alone. I'm feeling very alone and sad tonight too. It doesn't matter if people are around or not, we are lonely without our husbands. :-( I know you want to be in his arms. Just keep reminding yourself that you carry him with you. In everything you do, you carry him in you. He lives in you. My therapist keeps reminding me of that. I know it probably doesn't help but during our loneliest times and our darkest hours we can at least remember that our husbands remain alive within us.

- Kaela

Comment by deborah peck on September 29, 2017 at 9:13pm

Feeling very alone tonight, need to be in my husbands arms

Comment by Sara Murphy on September 29, 2017 at 11:33am

Steve......Thinking of you and hope all turns out well.   Definitely let us know the MRI results when you find out next week

Comment by Marsha H on September 27, 2017 at 5:20am

Dear Steve ...  So happy you got some good news and I'm sure the doctor can fix you up as good as new.  I'm praying hard all goes well for you.

Your Sis


Comment by deborah peck on September 26, 2017 at 8:54am

That is good news Steve, now I pray they can find out what is going on, good luck with the MRI s

Comment by Steve on September 26, 2017 at 7:58am

Well, the good news is that I do not have carpal tunnel or trigger finger, the nerves in my right arm and fingers are good.  It is the swelling of my right hand and the extreme weakness I have in my wrist and fingers that are concerning to the neurologist.  Thursday I go for my first MRI on my neck, followed by a second one on Monday for my right shoulder.  If all goes well, I will get the results on Friday next week along with a course of action to take.  Will keep my legacy family in the loop.  Thank you one and all for your support and prayers.

Comment by deborah peck on September 25, 2017 at 9:51am

Steve, I hope you get to the root of your pain with this test and they have a solution for it, must be very hard living with it but sounds like you guys are getting it figured out so praying for your health   Debbie

Comment by deborah peck on September 25, 2017 at 9:49am

Dear Chuck, yes music is definitely a trigger so to speak for me too, I recently did not attend a nieces wedding because of my fear of the wrong songs playing so even though I am sorry its that way for you too ,Its nice to know someone else "gets it" I'm sorry you had to go thru that with your dad, must of been so very hard for you when he asked that. I knew that my dad was going to do something because he asked me what my thoughts were and I told him that I understood, which I did, but didn't know when or how but the rest of my family did not understand at all so they have had a much rougher time with it. It sounds like you have been so busy I hope all goes well with the oil tank for you guys


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