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A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.
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This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.
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Christine ... Don't feel badly about getting your stepson and his wife to put Marshall's ashes in the companion urn. I didn't have to do that so I can imagine how difficult it would have been if you had to do it. I forgot to tell you that on Valentine's Day, our anniversary and Christmas, I always get a card still for my Ernie. I've done it for almost 7 years now. I just feel he knows. Call me crazy!
Everyone deals with especially Christmas in their own way. Because Ernie and I loved Christmas and 1 minute after midnight on Christmas Eve we'd have our own private Christmas I just had to keep up with the traditions so each year up goes the tree although I don't decorate as elaborately as I use to. Some how I just can feel him around on Christmas Eve and if it's my imagination I don't really care! You do what is comfortable for you.
I hope if you get invitations from family or friends that you will accept one or two of them. It won't be easy and it sure won't feel the same without Marshall there, but it's good to be around loving family and friends. You may not realize it at the time, but that helps you heal too.
I just feel you are a fighter and stronger than you think and you know deep in your heart Marshall would not want to see you not take your medication or take your own life. Boy, I sure thought of it many times, but something just stopped me.
Take good care of yourself and we're here for you.
Deborah P. I am so happy your surgery is over and all went well. I just knew it would. So proud of you as I know it wasn't easy for you. Rest and take good care of yourself.
Chicago Beard ... What a beautiful quote and thank you for leaving it. It does say exactly how much we give to those who have passed away.
Last night my step son and wife came over and put my Marshall s ashes inn the companion urn I bought for us. I just couldn't. I know it was hard for him but bless him. I have friends calling,stopping by,texting but they even said they can't imagine what I'm feeling. I had the house decorated for Christmas except for the tree. He loved it so much but I couldn't do it. I guess too soon so I took it all back down except the village that I made. My heart isn't in it. Tomorrow morning I see the therapist so we'll see how that goes. I'm not hopeful but ill go for now. It does help to be able to talk to you all on here. You know and understand. I feel worthless, useless, and have no desire to leave the house. My purpose in life was to love my husband and love we did. We always said that no matter where we went, or who we were with, when that door shuts at night it's just the two of us. Now there's just me and I don't know how long I will be able to do it. But I will try.. I guess that's all I can do for now.
Thanks. I felt the same way when I saw it which is why I copied and pasted it here.
Very glad to hear that your surgery went well and that you are not feeling too much discomfort. Hope your heeling goes better as each day goes by. Sending prayers so that your pathology report comes out negative, clean.
Chicago Beard, what an elegant way to describe grief. I couldn't stop the tears when I read your post. Thanks for sharing this with us: simple, beautiful, yet so deep.
So my surgery went good, not too much discomfort and the scar will be along the underside of my jawbone, so that's good, go back next week to have stitches out and get the pathology report. so I think its all good
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