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A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.
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This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.
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Dear Mary Jane,
When I imagine my David's last day it is when we both know; it could not be just another day; otherwise there would be no last anything: our declaration of our truest feelings of love for each other, our promises to wait for each other, the I'm sorries for the countless times we should have apologized - all the things we wish now that could've been said. And yes, to hold him in my arms soothe his brow and whisper in his ear how so very much I loved him.-------Oh, this hurts so much. Tho it has to be said.
In the last months, every morning he would share his dreams with me. They were almost always dreams of his family and friends who had passed. To a fault, they would always tell him that they were OK now - not to worry. And that they were anticipating being reunited. he even encountered these same souls on the street who would turn and smile at him and then disappear as quickly as they came. You can imagine how unsettling it was for me: I knew what it/ they implied and told him so, But David was never afraid of death. Even though he loved life and had so much more, he yearned to be in Heaven with all his loved ones.
You had the grace of knowing; Bob had the grace to wait until you were out of the room ; David waited until I went to bed - we have to respect that.
A long relationship a long story.
Hugs, your friend,
I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved Joe.
I'm relatively new in my grief - a raw 3 months.
You're probably right that things don't get better as much as they just change. Maybe change is a distraction.
I'm glad that you have been able to wean yourself off the meds - I'm still on mine - I don't want those feelings; I want them blocked.
What would we do (differently) if we had just one more day with our loved ones? a very good question w/all kinds of painful what ifs should haves could haves. I know that I would do anything to keep him. He also had many plans - so much to look forward to.
Patti, it just hurts so damned much, doesn't it.
Hope that you continue to change for the better.
Hi all....it's been a while since I've posted....actually quite a while. It's approaching two years quickly that my husband has been gone and so much has changed. I almost in a sense want it all to slow down....but life does not slow down. Our children are all doing as well as they can - I think Christmas is always going to be difficult for us...Joe passed away on 12/23. I do read all of your posts and most of the times I'm knowing exactly how all of you are feeling but I just can't post....I don't know why....I think that if I don't post it still doesn't seem so real. Just this Sept I was able to slowly wean myself off my anxiety and depression meds that the doctor prescribed to me after my husband died....and I'm actually feeling things....it's not being blocked. I miss my husband every single day and wish I had just one more day with him....but I know I would continue wanting more. I'm still angry that his life was cut so short when we had so many damn plans - now I'm making my own plans and it makes me sad. I remember a few months after Joe died I was told by so many that things will get easier and I'll feel better. But things are not easier and I don't always feel better - but things are different and I'm able to accept that. I have no choice but to not accept it. I recently put myself out there on a dating website....I'm lonely and miss companionship. I met a guy who lost his wife a month before my husband died. He's a good man and we have a lot in common but I'm hesitant...I just wanted to check in with all of you and know that I am still here and still follow. Thinking of all of you during this holiday season and wishing you all peace in your hearts.
Mary Jane, I too go along with my life and go places and do things and I KNOW hes gone but it seems like I'm always saying to him, I guess your not coming back are you. its so weird to me since his ashes sit on his dresser and I kiss him goodnight, I just have a hard time grasping reality, I had looked at a real pretty bench at the cemetary to put his and my ashes together in and even went to order it but cant part with him yet, its just confusing .Hope this gets better, I too have trouble with my thought process and from what I understand its normal and will get better with time. I don't know about you but this whole thing is messed up and I'm tired of it, tired of the sadness and replaying the time he was dying, just want to be my old self but I think she is gone
last night we went to a Christmas remembrance ceremony for Greg and other familys that had lost someone, it went okay until they read his name, it was like a shock to hear his name listed along with others that have passed, why after 6 months do I still have to remind myself that hes not coming back even though I know hes not
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