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This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.
Started by Legacy.com Dec 28, 2017.
Started by David Heggi. Last reply by David Heggi Nov 22, 2017.
Started by denise. Last reply by Marsha H Oct 25, 2017.
Mary Jane....That certainly is something to think about. There are so many people that never find the right person to spend their life with. In fact, I know several people who never married and when I first lost Ken all I could think was how lucky they were to never have to feel this pain. It didn't take very long though for me to realize that although they'll never feel this pain, they also never felt the true love of a soul mate. I wouldn't trade my 30 years of love to avoid this pain.
It certainly could be worse, Mary Jane.
Sometimes I just sit on my bed staring at the in-box screen hoping for someone to log on who I can connect with. It's kind of like a night light when it's just me and a box of ashes.
I never get anything done either. I hope this passes.
David, I ask myself that question several times a day ..and I always come up with the same answer. There HAS to be a life better than what we have right now..otherwise why would we still be here?
gee, I have been trolling the web since I got up...no wonder I never get anything done. An IPad can be a terrible thing...I can just sit on my A$$ watch tv, and look up useless stuff online.
Try to have a good day.
Your words are encouraging, Steve.
I'll hold onto them for dear life on this wild ride: one day I'm a little better and can reach out to help others, and then the next day I'm a basket case. I hope and pray that there is a life beyond this.
Thank you Steve
You’re welcome, David. “
LOL. Nothing wrong with that, I luv feeling sorry for myself!
That was beautiful Steve.
Beard..thanks. Who knows..maybe someday I will get up the courage to learn. I can still hear my mothers voice: “you’re to stupid to learn to drive..if a leaf flies into the car, you’ll freak out and cause an accident”
Bob, bless his heart was secretly pleased that I would never be able to get in the car and drive away when we had a fight. His mother never drove either, until she left his father later in life and learned to drive. But she hated it and DIDN,t drive for very long.
Thank you Mary Jane,
I was feeling sorry for myself.
Dear Legacy Family,
I am always humbled by the thoughtfulness, caring and kindness we show one another on this forum, even after 3 years of posting I am always reading and taking away much more than I expected.
Just wanted to take time out to wish everyone peace, love and calmness in the coming days as all of our friends and family prepare to celebrate the holidays. For some of us it will pose challenges as we decide to participate or not, it depends on each of us and the decision we make we make to suite us, so there is no right or wrong decision...just follow your heart.
As the holidays grow nearer and near I look back to where I have been and to where I am today and I am completely humbled by shear starkness of where I was 3 years ago and where I am today. We all have many Angels looking after our well being (I believe that some of them are our departed loved ones, be it spouse or family member). No matter how darkly I saw my future, something or someone was pushing me forward, yes, kicking and resisting every step and yet I am still here and still not sure why.
So take heart dear friends when you least expect it your life will continue to change and evolve as will you, I know that even I when told this I thought, Not Me...humph!
Be kind to yourselves, take time to enjoy each new day even if it is a challenge just to get out of bed, in the long run it does pay off, I know because I am still here and I am still wondering if maybe Santa Clause really does exist....
Your friend and brother, always,
As far as your driving goes I am 4'11", so two inches taller than you. Today's cars get you up close enough and the seats are adjustable enough to get you over the steering wheel. You are right about the other drivers but do not let others limit you.
David, there is a famous saying from somewhere..”It is better to have loved and lost, than never have loved at all”
Years ago, before technology, maybe in the 80,s, I was involved in some telephone work..it was just answering the phones, and talking to people. I will not elaborate, but I never knew so many desperately lonely people were out there. I was shocked at the number of people who lived alone, and had never ever been in any kind of relationship. The sadness hopelessness, desperation and heartbreak in their voices was almost palitivable. I was kind, tried to console these people, but it was heartbreaking to listen to them..I had never known how many lonely people there were out there who had never found “someone” ..kinda like the song Elenor Rigby...but this was real, sometimes when I am feeling sorry for myself I think of those folks...and how fortunate I was to have has someone in my life for so long...as we all are here. Yes, our loves are gone, but we have wonderful memories to hold on to..and possibilities if we choose to do so. I can only imagine how those people felt, and to me it is horrible.
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