Grief support groups, condolence advice, funeral etiquette and more
A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.
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This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.
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I agree with Debbie. getting your feelings out is what this place is for. As a group we can understand better than most what each of us is experiencing. We sympathize for the bad days and cheer when people have a good day. So remember someone is usually here and ready to lend support or just an ear.
David, its most certainly not ridiculous for you to post that you are having a bad day, some days are just worse then others and that's what this group is for to support one another when we need it most. right now the doc has me on Lexapro, he just increased it, Ive never taken anything like this but it is helping some. I slept last night the whole night, the first time since Greg passed but still woke up tired, arghh, . Debbie
Ive had 2 readings by John Edward, both times before Greg passed but my first husband and my parents came thru and stuff he said only they could of told him, both these times I just happened to hear about it on the radio and I called in and got thru both times, was so neat to hear that they are near
It's ridiculous of me to post that "I'm having a bad day" - for Heavens sake, we all are. Though. I have to say that I was in a crisis - you understand?
Yes, the Holidays are here, and we are not: we're wishing we were back when we could be with our loved ones.
You are exhausted too? It's good to know that it is a symptom of our grief and not something else. My Dr gave my bloodwork results a thumbs up the other day. So we agreed that my lack of energy is caused by that grab bag of dep/anxiety.
What kind of anxiety meds do you take, or have taken, Deborah?
They are there to use, and we are lucky to have something that may help, as one of my therapists once told me. Of course we don't want to be dependent, but by golly we need whatever relief that is available to us.
I hope you too get some rest - if we sleep all the time that's OK
Thank you for thinking of me, Deborah.
No, I wasn't the only one....but he spent a lot of time on my Joe. There were about six of us...in a room of about 500 people. Things he said were so amazing....but again I just don't know that I was ready for it....I remember before it started I was holding my sisters hand and told her how nervous I was and that I thought maybe we should leave. I'm glad we didn't....it was so obvious it was my husband. The things he said were things that were so private....he even talked about my spending habits and that my husband was worried about me...that made me smile....he said I spread my husbands ashes in the mountains....I didn't but his buddies did and he said "but not all of them" and he was right I only gave them some ashes to spread because I wanted to keep some and the kids wanted to keep some. It was just so eerie but also comforting. I would like to do a private reading next time.
I would LOVE to see Theresa Caputo for a private reading...but I don,t ever see it happening. And, I would want a private reading, not a group reading. You were actually blessed to be singled out. All I want to know is if BOb is OK. I FEEL he is.. About 4 years ago, I had 13 year old grand niece by marriage die instantly while taking a shower. She was 13 years old. I won,t elaborate, as I have been trying to get her family to come to Legacy, so don,t want to violate their privacy...but they had a private reading with John Edwards. He told them something that NO ONE except her brother knew, that he had removed some small item from her room..the experience was amazing..and eased a big part of their grief. So I DO believe in mediums..but when you saw Mr Edwards, were you the only one out of all the others who,s loved one came through? That must have been so special.
Sara: I too went and saw John Edwards last May in Buffalo. Out of all the folks there he read me....it was so strange. Good thing my sister was with me because I was sobbing that I honestly did not hear much of anything he said. It was the first time I had ever attended anything like that....he talked about the UNYTS donation my husband was able to provide for so many other living people....it just was too much to be honest....my heart hurt after leaving.
Mary Jane - I've also watched that show on tv and ended up turning it off....for the same reasons you are not enjoying it.
On another note....yesterday I had to go for a cervical biopsy. The last time I had one done I was in my early 20s so over 25 years ago. It really isn't too bad but my god...I was a mess. I just wanted Joe to be there with me. I had to do it alone....it was so difficult. I so needed him yesterday. I can't wait for this week to be over....but I've discovered that the month of December is just so difficult for me. THe 2nd anniversary of his death approaching....the holidays....it's such a mix of emotions....I almost feel like going back on my anxiety pills....they are sitting in my purse and it feels like I may be needing them.
david, I'm so sorry you are having a bad day, its so hard isn't it. I would be thrilled beyond measure if Greg could come back but only if forever, that we could both pass at the same time so neither of us would have to go thru this. Ive been reading everyones post and seems everyone is more active on here with the holiday season here, I think it makes us even more aware of what we are missing and we are all reaching out to each other right now. As for me I find myself exhausted all the time, something I didn't do at first, I just want to sleep all the time right now, I know it is normal and will pass. I hope you get some rest tonight. your friend Debbie
Patti.......I do watch This is Us and I remember that scene. I was thinking how true that is.....that anything "happy" that will ever happen will always be clouded with sadness. As it is, my every thought is "Ken should be here for this". I've been to a couple of Mediums so I know he still is here for everything, I just can't seem him and share with him the way I want. The same is true of Joe....when the time comes and grandbabies are born, he will be there to witness it. The love and connection never dies.
Mary Jane...I've seen a couple episodes of that show as well, not my favorite (I only watch it by default) but I did watch the first episode of the season because I knew they had killed the wife character and was curious how they handled it. I was VERY disappointed. In the show they referenced that she had passed away a year ago as if it was so long ago and they were all over it. I'm guessing the writer of that episode hasn't lost anyone special, least of all a spouse.
P.S. Now I just want to go throw up.
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