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Bad and even worse days

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Comment by deborah peck on December 22, 2017 at 5:28pm

Patti the poem is for you

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Comment by David Heggi on December 22, 2017 at 11:56am

Dear Patti-

I hope this special day tomorrow will be easier on you this year.  I know it will bring a lot of good memories, and no so good ones, as your loved will not physically be there to share it with you.

God bless,

Your friend,

David H

Comment by David Heggi on December 22, 2017 at 11:44am

Mary Jane, Marsha -

Such a touching, beautiful video.

It made me cry too.

Comment by Patti on December 22, 2017 at 9:54am

Thank you everyone for the pep has helped.  Tomorrow is the day....the day Joe left me.  My niece wrote a beautiful post on facebook this morning...I was already at work...saw it and fell to pieces here at my office.  I've pulled myself together but I fear one little thing is going to set me off.  Fortunately, I work in a small office and my coworkers understand and are very comforting...but the last thing I want to do is cry in front of them.  I will spend the day with our children tomorrow....which I'm looking forward too but I do think it is definitely delayed grief.  Last year at this time I was focusing on my son - he is a heroin addict and I put him in rehab one year ago yesterday so I think I kinda got through the holidays last year focusing on him and not my loss.  He is clean a year this year and now it seems like the holidays slapped me in the face.

Comment by Mary. Jane on December 22, 2017 at 9:28am

Marsha sent me this video. It made me cry with happiness. It is one of the most beautiful,loving video I have ever seen...I hope you all enjoy it...thanks, Marsha

Comment by Mary. Jane on December 22, 2017 at 9:24am

Patti?.i know exactly why this anniversary is worse than last year. This Feb it will be 2 years that BOb died. Last year we had a little memorial for him..and I was fine. This year I kinda “woke up” and realized he was really gone, which is why this year is so hard. It is delayed grief. That might b what YOU are having now. I know I am. All we can do is suck it up, sleep through it, or self medicate until it is over.

I DIDN,t have to make any Christmas cookies...that I was so upset about making..I got a gift from God..something called a Gaglion cyst. On my wrist, and couldn,t stir a bowl of soup, let alone cookie dough. The relief that is wasn,t something horrible, and a vitamin shot from my Dr made me feel a lot better. 

We will all be ok. We will all meet here Christmas Eve, and help each other get through it. 

I am supposed to go out to lunch with my two,angel friends today and Winter arrived this morning. All this time it has been almost 70 degrees here in Tulsa..I don,t even know where my warm coat is lol

i hope everyone is done with their shopping and stays safe on the roads.

Comment by David Heggi on December 21, 2017 at 12:37pm

I'm sorry, Mary Jane.

This time of year is so very hard.

Baking cookies, shopping - doing whatever you feel obliged

to do for the Holidays is not relevant now.  You need to

take care of yourself.  Your beloved may be in a wonderful

place, but you are not.

I'm sorry that your body hurts all the time; it's rough having  

to deal with that too.

Have your pity party, Mary Jane - you need to feel some-

thing for yourself.

We'll talk again, Hon

Your friend,

David H

Comment by deborah peck on December 21, 2017 at 9:33am

Dear Patti, anniversary dates are so hard, its all the remembering of it all that makes it so hard, especially for you with the holidays too. There is no time limit on grieving as you know by now. This is my 1st Christmas without my husband and I too wish it would just go away, I cant imagine having the anniversary mixed in with holidays too. My thoughts and prayers are with you, your friend Debbie

Comment by Patti on December 21, 2017 at 9:06am

Good Morning friends....I'm two days away from the 2nd Anniversary of Joe's death.  I haven't slept in days....why has this second anniversary suddenly become more difficult then last year.  I'm so far behind from doing anything horrible is it to just wish the rest of December away.  Good god....I'm such a mess. 


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