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A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.
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This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.
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That is the most beautiful thing I have ever heard. THankyou..
It is personal, Mary Jane, but I'm not afraid to share it: it was a Divine visitation, I was at the lowest point in my life; I prayed, I cried,.I called out for help, and then there He was, all aglow in ethereal white, standing only a few feet away from me. I will never forget the pure unconditional love that He emanated. He was real; He is real - I'll never forget it , The love...
David, I. would love to hear about your experience, if you wish to share. But, I also know that it is a completely personal thing, and perhaps should stay that way.
Thank you, all for your sweet comments. I wish with all my heart that you all would receive a visit. I am so happy to have been so fortunate..I only wish we could have spoken. I have been praying for this since he died.
Oddly, I don,t remember much of any of my dreams that occur at night and I am wondering if medication I take at night could have blocked any dreams that I might have received earlier..I don,t seem to have trouble dreaming or remembering my dreams during an afternoon nap..
Mary Jane, how very fortunate you are! Even if we never have an experience like you have had we should all be encouraged that we will be with our loved ones in heaven! Your experience gave me some peace! Thank you so much for sharing! I can't wait to be with my Marshall! Thank you thank you!
Mary Jane, I think on here everyone should feel free to express their feelings, that is what this sight is for, not to be judged,
David! Thank u so much for responding. It was the first thing I read this morning, as I got up at 6am for a Dr visit, and opened my iPad to see if anyone would/had, as the silence of no response was devastating..The people here and their feedback at Legacy means so much to me. In a sense, that experience was almost like loosing him again...and the inability to communicate was horrible. But I know he is ok...but the sadness in his eyes...I expected joy, and calm...ok I am rattling on again...
but the thoughts and suggestions and support of everyone at Legacy is my lifeline, and I thank you again for your response.
You were not unable to relate, Mary Jane. You verbalized your feelings as you experienced them. No matter what anyone may think or say, it was real. I had a similar experience. Mary Jane, do you realize what a breakthrough this was for you personally? Most of us can only wish, hope and pray to see our loved ones again.
And you did not overstep any boundaries here. You have been very fortunate. It should help you to reconcile your loss of Bob
I guess I should have kept that to myself..but I had to tell it, as a catharsis. I wish all of you contact with your loved ones who are gone..and the inability of me to verbalize my feelings or know his, was a huge disappointment. I know I am blessed to have been able to see him, to know he was ok...but it was so different than I ever expected, I DIDN,t know what to think, and was hoping someone here had a similar experience, and could share.
I think I may have overstepped some boundary here..and for that I apologize.
Ok...sorry if this is difficult to follow..and also, I made one mistake in the telling. I DIDN,t walk to the dining room table, one second I was looking out the front door, the next I was standing there, looking down at the table..it is nine steps from the door to the table, but I never walked...I was transported there..yes sooo weird.
LAST PART OF SEEING BOB:
As I stood there, I heard the front door open...I looked up, and Bob had opened the door, and walked in. I can not describe the absolute SHOCK and JOY I felt! He was younger, thinner, no grey hair..and his eyes were a deeper blue...BOB WAS HERE! After praying for a visit for 2 years..HE WAS HERE!! I tired to speak, but was totally unable to...the shock had taken away my voice and all I could do was GASP..over and over during the entire episode...one gasp per second..I wanted to tell him how much I missed him, loved him...etc, but all I could do was suck in my breath over and over. I wanted to walk over and hug him, but I was frozen to the floor and couldn,t move...so he walked over to me...to b closer...he tried to talk to me....but his speech was like a 78 record played at 45 speed..so slow I couldn,t understand what he was saying. I was SOOOO frustrated, and I wanted to hold him...but I was paralyzed. By then, he was at arms length so I tried to lift my LEFT ARM to hug him...but I couldn,t...BECAUSE MY ARM WAS ACTUALLY INSIDE THE FABRIC HOUSE, and my CAT was weighing down my arm...I could feel the fur, and softness and warmth of my kitty as I stood there trying to hold BOb but wasn,t able to do so.
His eyes were filled with love, and SADNESS...and I got the message he was trying to tell me he was sorry he had to die, and leave me. MEANWHILE I could still feel myself lying in bed...and as the seconds ticked on...the dining room began to fade...and the bedroom became more real...I was coming out of what ever dimension I was in...but HE HUGGED ME as the entire thing faded...and I was fully back under the blanket, with Rudy still sleeping on my arm.
I started crying...still gasping for air...but calmer now.
i got the feeling his message was to reassure me that he was ok..thankfully, as that is what I really wanted to know, that he would always love me.. and that it had taken great effort on his part to connect with me in that way.
It WASN’T a dream...we would have been able to speak in a dream. Ok, maybe some of it like the beginning was sort of a dream...but also so much more.
My daughter said it sounded like an OUT of BODY experience...but I never “floated” anywhere.. I KNOW it was Bob!
I used to wish for and dream of this happening...but this was so strange, and upsetting, but comforting..as I now know he is ok, and was sad he died and left me...but I have done nothing but ponder this..for 3 Days...and it has made me wanting so much MORE.
Also, if something like this happens to anyone else here..Don,t GOOGLE it! Stick to any mental message you received and not what lame authors suggest messages might b. I was so afraid I would loose the contact of feeling him here after this...but I still feel he is here with me. Again, my stupid fears almost ruined this wonderful thing.
Thanks for reading this...and if anything like this happens or HAS happened, please let us know. I guess we all have different experiences...and I will pray for another visit where we can communicate better. This kinda left me unsatisfied, and wanting more...I wanted to TELL him so much...but couldn,t.
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