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A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.
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This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.
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Jesse, I'm so sorry for loss that brought you to us. Unfortunately you're just beginning a long and arduous journey. Please don't put any pressure on yourself or set unrealistic timetables of where you should be in your grief at any point in time. You're just one month in and for me, one month was the equivalent of 5 minutes. I lost my husband Ken in Jan 16 so I'm just over the 2 year mark and I still can't believe he's gone. I think about him all day every day and miss him with every breath I take. I also still can't see a future without him. You've come to the right place, a place of people who truly understand. I hope you'll be able to find the comfort here that I did.
Jesse; so sorry for your loss. It is not a place any of us want to be... This site has been such a help to me, as the angels here know grieving like nobody who hasn't lost a spouse can. I don't post much, but I've been following everyone's journey for several years. After 37 years together, my wife died in 2014, not quite a year after she was diagnosed with brain cancer. Just as you describe, I was in a fog, just a bubble barely floating along - bursting at almost anything. I pretty much hid away, as I struggled to maintain composure. I get such comfort from reading the posts on this site, seeing that the symptoms I experience are typical. The first couple years I clung to the hope that some day I'd get out of the fog, knowing that others on this site have managed - and so grateful that they are sharing their journey. These angels will be helping you, too, you'll see.
THankyou Debora. Unfortunately, there are about 6 boxes left that we can,t do...we are physically and mentally done. They will have to wait until May, when she returns. Yes, I could have another relative help me, but these are private...and we don,t want anyone else going through them. They are our lives...and the most amazing thing..I was so afraid of SPIDERS..which is why we picked this time of year..in May there will b more insects...but I feel so cleansed..and now I have hope, and incentive to clear out more closets.
I also have SHREDDERS pain...from all the papers I shredded and there is still more..but it was SOOOOO worth it..I am babbling..
mary jane, you both have been working so hard, mentally and physically, its crazy what you can accumulate without even realizing it. But how exciting and scary to be making such a huge move, I wish you all the luck and best wishes on your new journey
P.S. the Goodwill is only 3 minutes away,thank God.
My daughter has been here all week helping me...we took all the boxes from the attic.it was HORRIFYING. There must have been 50-60 boxes..BOb was HUGE Hoarder. We have been unpacking each one, making trips to the Goodwill 2 times daily...we never threw anything out. There are boxes of paper we have to shred...pay stubs from the ‘60s even...she has been working SO HARD...it is so overwhelming.
Deborah..that is wonderful! You will never forget your first wonderful laugh in the middle of your grief. I remember mine..It was last summer.I was so stunned after I stopped laughing at something on TV that stuck me so funny ...it came out of nowhere..I remember I posted it here...and after my shock I felt HOPE! Then I cried, but it was a good cry...a cry a maybe it was possible to want to have a life again.
it wasn’t weird at all. You GO girl,
This is going to be a weird post but last night I was on the phone with my sister and we were just chatting about our craft rooms and I don't remember what was said but I laughed, I actually laughed a true real laugh not a half hearted one, and I didn't even realize it until I got off the phone. I didn't even feel guilty for it, it felt great and I want more laughs like that and I think Greg would be laughing with me and happy for me.Its weird to think a small thing like a laugh could ring you happiness, but in all of this pain I guess its the small moments that will bring us peace. love and laughs to all of you
Debra...you hit the nail on the head! That speaks volumes, it combines all our feelings. Thank you. Sara, thank you for the kind words. I too wish we could all actually meet in person. Yesterday I sold our camper. We bought it new march 2015 and planned to have it the rest of our lives. Well, we had it the rest of his life. He loved it and it was special to us. I cannot go in it without crying let alone go camping in it without him. The money will be kept as a nest egg. I know he understands and know if things were reversed he would do the same. All of these changes that are forced upon us!!!! I hate it!!! I pray every night for God to take me. Everyday is filled with such heartache. Bless us all.
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