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Bereaved Spouses

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Comment by Charles E. Nelson on April 24, 2018 at 8:06pm

Hi Dianne C, and everyone,

Someone once said "Be careful when you shake the tree... you never know what will fall out!" I guess you shook the tree for me, and I too am glad to hear from you. As officially now an older member I suppose (2 1/2 years) I also think of the people who were posting often when I was newer.

I believe Marsha must be correct about Facebook, but I don't use that either.

I want to especially thank Sara for remembering my three year anniversary of losing Larry, and Mary Jane - both of your wishes are more appreciated than you could imagine. For the days leading up to Sunday the 15th, I was trying to occupy myself with simple plans for Steve's 71st birthday on the 20th, but in the background my edginess and trouble sleeping should have tipped me off to the fact that the date was looming large nevertheless. I said to Steve I didn't know what was the matter with me, to which he calmly replied that I was like this last April also, and it's perfectly normal and to be expected. I was wondering if I would be able to attend our church Sunday, which is small and intimate. I feel like I have friends there, but they don't all know my circumstances, and I was afraid of getting emotional during the service and making everyone uncomfortable. That morning after dressing and gathering my things, Steve gently said we could stay home if I wanted. I said no, I needed a good dose of God's help today. As we entered the lobby of the building, our pastor quickly nabbed us and introduced us to a gentleman who just moved to Dallas from Phoenix, and had also lost his husband just last July after 22 years together. Pastor Bob asked us to "take him under our wings", and I felt the most beautiful sense of God's presence telling me this is why I needed to come today - to help someone else, just like we do for each other here on Legacy. I think he was moved and comforted to find two guys who instantly understood his situation having gone through it ourselves, and I hope he returns next week.

Anyway, I got through the day without too much "damage" emotionally, and although it still feels like I am a stranger in a strange (very strange sometimes indeed) land, I am doing well, as is Steve - life has it's challenges for us both, but like the song says, we're still standing!

Diane, you are sweet to worry about us old-timers - I am a bit of a mother hen myself (ask Steve), and yet I now have faith that our silent members are busy with the good things that arrive with the gradual healing for which we all pray - for ourselves and for each other. If anyone can feel the vibes I'm sending out to them , they know they are not and never will be forgotten - they all played a tremendous role in my own finding strength and peace with the help of this loving family. I especially pray that the newer members, whose painful journey is just begun, know that there is light ahead for them - something we who are further along on our own paths can assure them.

Love to all, and God Bless Everyone,

Chuck

Comment by Marsha H on April 24, 2018 at 3:33pm

Dear Deb C ...  It's great to see you post.  Since Legacy has introduced Facebook most of the newer members seem to go there (I don't and a few others don't ...  us older members.)  I have my ups and downs trying to figure out my new life, but it's not all bad.  Been cleaning out cupboards, closets, drawers, the garage and finally we're getting some sunshine so busy out in the garden as well. 

I hope you are well and I do think of you often.  I miss the old crowd.  

Hugs

Marsha

Comment by Diane C on April 24, 2018 at 11:25am

Hello to all,

Just wondering what happened to everyone. It has been so quiet here for quite a while. I hope everyone is doing ok. Just worried about all the people that are normally on this site.....

Comment by Mary. Jane on April 21, 2018 at 8:59pm

Oh Sara..thank you for posting that for Chuck. (I am deplorable at remembering important days)

That is so thoughtful..I would like to add my good hopes that the days passes with only wonderful memories of Larry. 

Comment by Sara Murphy on April 21, 2018 at 8:50pm

Chuck.....thinking of you tonight.  I know tomorrow is the 3 yr anniversary of Larry's passing.  Hope you and Steve are well.

Comment by Mary. Jane on April 18, 2018 at 9:38pm

As Sara said...we will be here for you.

Comment by Sara Murphy on April 15, 2018 at 8:42pm

Deb.....It will definitely be a transition again when your brother moves.  Too bad it couldn't be at the end of May since it's going to be such a tough month.  We're here for you to lean on.

Comment by deborah peck on April 15, 2018 at 12:59pm

So my brother has been staying here for the past three months after relocating, next weekend he moves into his new apartment and while he will only be on the other side of the highway its going to be soooo quiet again, not looking forward to that, I know I will be fine but May will be a bad month for me. Gregs birthday on  the 2nd then the anniversary of his death on the 12th plus two graduations of our grandkids that he wont be there to attend, going to be a long hard month

Comment by Sara Murphy on April 14, 2018 at 9:21pm

Deborah......that was not an easy thing to pack Greg's clothes.  Although it may seem like a baby step, it's really not.  Every "little" thing we do is really a big deal because it's so hard.  I'm proud of you.

Comment by Lisa Hamilton on April 14, 2018 at 7:33pm

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https://www.thinplacepodcast.com/episodes/

 

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