Grief support groups, condolence advice, funeral etiquette and more
A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.
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This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.
Started by Susan. Last reply by Marsha H Sep 2.
Started by Mary Clough. Last reply by Marsha H Sep 2.
Started by denise. Last reply by Jeanette McSherry Aug 31.
Mary Jane....I too am just waiting to die. Yes every day is the same and today I'm not doing anything with my hair,etc. Still don't sleep in the bed. A positive attitude helps to get you well,so it's been said. Well,my attitude sucks. I've been told I've come a long way. Maybe. I still want to join my Marshall and I hope the cancer comes back so I can be with him sooner than later. I feel it is my saving grace. Being without my love will never get better. May 1 will be 6 months.I feel like a robot. I feel like the only time I have any peace is when I'm in church. I don't know how we all do it. All I hear is "one day at a time". I see more therapist on Thursday. Night terrors and spasms are getting worse. Still cry while driving which makes me nervous. I don't want to hurt anyone and with my luck I'd end up a vegetable! On that note....the dog needs out...Bless you all.
Patty, I'm so sorry you are now in this group but you've found a good "family" to be in and everyone can help you try to deal with it, this May will be 1 year for me and I still feel like I'm in a fog all the time and just when I think Ive got a grasp on it all I sink again, everyones journey is different as everyone griefs differently but Ive gotten a lot of good advice on here. so hang on and just concentrate on a day at a tome
Mary Jane I'm so sorry you are having such a hard time right now, it seems to never stop doesn't it, I check on here every morning and night so please post if you need to, I will be here.
Patty - Sorry, that last post had an unfinished thought. I meant to say that finding a safe place...certainly saved my sanity, and possibly my life.
I am so very sorry for your loss of your beloved husband. Three weeks is such a short time - I am thinking back to that point after I lost my Larry after 32 years, and remember feeling very much all the things you describe. I sadly did not have the comfort of finding this site until 6 months later. As you say, finding a safe and understanding place to pour out my heart without anyone judging, criticizing, or telling me to "get over it". I am glad you found this family -
Steve and I are sending our thoughts and prayers your way , and know how right you are about never forgetting our spouses - we never stop loving them with all our hearts. I apologize for being a day late in acknowledging your 7th anniversary of your loss of Ernie - yesterday Steve was scheduled for a medical procedure to take place quite early in the AM, and preparation for that began on Thursday (yes, that procedure) - and once we got home Friday we both were kind of worn out, so I never connected the date with my intentions to write you. I just this morning finally got onto my computer and started reading my emails. Everything went well for Steve, and he is fine thank God.
It is good that you keep yourself busy , and I am so sorry for the other stresses you are going through that I'm sure make this time more difficult for you. You have been, and continue to be such a constant and reliable source of support and compassion for everyone in this special family, and I feel justified in saying we all love you and are extremely grateful for all you do.
God Bless You, and wishing you a peaceful weekend -
Ok, kids, I am curious about what is going on on our Facebook page..so I think I will visit there tomorrow and see what broken hearted people can possibly receive from that site. I will have to rejoin...but curiosity makes me want to see..so I will let y’all know.
In my mind, Facebook in general is a very creepy,public place, where everyone knows your business, and other personal information...and I am curious to see how they can possibly pour out their pain and loss on such a public forum. I quit after a few visits, as I DIDN,t like the idea of our pictures being posted for all to see...as I never authorized that..maybe I am wrong...and maybe there are people there who aren’t comfortable with that either..and maybe they don,t know what a wonderful place THIS is.
the last week along with being sick, each morning I wake up I feel enormously sad. I am starting to remember my dreams, and I wake up with an enormous sense of loss, as as soon as I open my eyes,I realize BOb is really gone, and never returning and I figure what is the point of getting out of bed? I am remembering each morning that he isn,t lying next to me, and I dream of our former life together,but when I wake up even tho he is in my dreams now, it was almost better than when I actually thought my life was a dream, and when I woke up he would be there.
but the worst part is I am so afraid of life I am frozen and can only manage to sit And wait for the day to end...and each day is a repeat of the previous, where I am sure that if I am not vigilant,I will be unable to protect my loved ones from dying. I couldn’t stop Bobs death,so how Can I stop anyone else from dying? So that is what my life has become..I am merely nothing but a bundle of terror, powerless to stop the train of fear that has become my life.
Thanks for understanding.
Deb,,I am pretty sure that thinking we are crazy, makes us very normal. I don’t think people with REAL mental challenges would refer to them self’s in that manner :)
Marsha, you are our heart..you always have such clarity and compassion. You are so unselfish, always comforting, even when you are in pain..you think of us first. SARA you are so kind and considerate.and never forget important dates....Chuck and Steve..you are my brothers..your bravery to find each other and take such important steps with newfound love and also step in with comfort for others. Is unsurpassed..
Christine, you have come a very long way since you first came here..bravely continuing on when all you wanted to do was die is commendable..and t all the others who haven’t posted in awhile...together this is the most special group of people ever...tragedy first brought us all here, but the compassion and caring of what was initially a place that was foreign to all of us is what makes us keep coming back.
Patti...this is the wonderful place you have come to. It is a place none of us wanted to be , but this is where life has taken us. Together we hold each other up...with support, kindness and all things good. Patti, welcome. I wish I could tell you it gets better...but I can,t. I CAN tell you the good thing is you aren’t alone in your grief anymore..we r here for your journey. Some days will be better, some days you will want to lie in bed and wait to die...but you won,t. We are the ones who are left to carry on, and share our memories, our pain, our FEARS...to somehow forge new lives for ourself..and we do that with the caring we receive from everyone here. We understand , when those close to us personally can’t or seem to think there is a time limit to grief. There isn,t. But we have peace in knowing we are not alone...so welcome to our safe place.
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