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This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.
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I quietly let my 37th anniversary with my Rose pass on Tuesday the 29th. I was difficult to get through but it past without major incident. I find by staying completely immersed in the challenges of the day helps keep me distracted enough to get through these type of days.
I have undergone several medical procedures and hospitalizations since being alone. It is tough when you are asked to have someone come with you or if anyone will be able to stay with you for a day or 2 and you have no one. It is even tougher when you can not drive yourself. I do not see well enough to drive any longer due to diabetes. But life goes on, there is always someone worse off than yourself, we just need to be thankful for what we had and currently have.
Hope everyone here finds some peace and happiness.Pete
Dear Mary Jane,
Thinking of you at this trying time as you face the procedure alone and the thought of what difficulties it might entail. Sending you encouraging thoughts and prayers for your speedy recovery.
Sending you healing vibes and thoughts on what would have been your 38th anniversary with Rose. It's wonderful that Rose played a prank on you to let you know that she was visiting you on this special day. I am sure it brought a huge smile to your face. Be well.
Warm wishes, Trina
Thank you for your kind reply ,Beard. It’s not the procedure I worry about, as I have had one b4..it is the problem of logistics, finding someone to take and stay with me for the procedure...and check on me later...I think they have improved in the last 10 years, so I shouldn,t b “out of it” after...but I don,t know...and I it scares me so much...and if it turns out to be bad I fear not being able to get the HE11 out of Oklahoma, and go back home to California.
i don,t want to die here. Hopefully everything will b ok...as I always have. ( NOTE...TMI coming....) problems from being constipated from the. Meds I have to take for my arthritis..and I think that is where/ how the blood came from. I hope so.
again I really am honored by your response, Beard.
Today would have been our 38th anniversary. My current lady is across country visiting her children so I had to deal with my memories alone. I believe my Rose was with me today and played a prank on me to let me know. I would say what happened but since it involved my ostomy bag details are not necessary. Be well everyone.
Having suffered with Ulcerative Colitis for over 10 years before I had my colon removed and have an Ileostomy I have had quite a few colonoscopies. The prep is much worse than the procedure because they sedate you for the procedure. However, the stuff they have you drink to clear yourself out had to have been created by a descendant of the Marquis de Sade! Hang in there. I dealt with all this while my Rose was dieing and after she passed. You can do this.
My daughter Melinda has been here a week...we are going thru all the boxes I moved here with 13 years ago...there were at least 70, full of stuff I had stashed away when we moved here. I am in shock at all the stuff, papers, etc.
Bob was a hoarder. A huge hoarder. He would bring stuff home, and I would just pack it in boxes and shove it in corners. We did the stuff in the attic in Feb, and I had NO IDEA there was so much stuff...a lot of it antiques, but I have reached a point where I just don,t care..it’s all being given to the goodwill. You see, yesterday I had some very unsettling news:
my Dr called with the results of a hemocult test I had taken last week...and it was positive. So I have been referred to someone for a colonoscopy...I tried phoning them yesterday, and only got recordings of wait on line...so now I have to find someone to take me for this procedure..Melinda is leaving Sun Morning..WHY NOW?? This threw my Epstein Barr into overdrive...it’s just all too much..I just want to lie down and die. But I won,t. I have worked too hard to not fight for at least 10 more years of life.
I don,t think any of us are crazy, feeling and interacting with our loved ones who are gone. Each day as I go about the house, and even when I leave the house, I feel BOb next to me all the time. Yes, it could b in my imagination, but it gives me comfort to think he is with me.
About the feather thing...I have found feathers, but when Melinda and I were on vacation we stayed in a hotel in Virginia Beach next to the ocean..I had never been IN the Atlantic, so I took off my shoes...and we climbed down the shallow stairs, to head for the water..but we paused on the stairs to just look at the swimmers, etc. As we were standing there, suddenly a LARGE FEATHER floated down inches from my face and body, and landed on my bare feet! It came out of nowhere, and rested on my toes. I was stunned! There was no mistaking that was meant just for me. Of course I kept it...
I totally believe in signs, my 1st husband used to freak me out by playfully pulling my covers off of my feet every morning when I was waking up, I know it sounds crazy but it was real and continued until one morning for some reason it really scared me and then it didn't happen any more, like he didn't want to scare me, then when my mom passed I had been her caretaker and had to give her her meds at the end and worried I had given her too much medicine which was moriphine and slows breathing, one night I was really upset after she had passed and begged for a sign to let me know if I did everything right, I asked her to do something with the lights while I was in the tub,, when I went into the laundry room after, the light literally made a sizzeling noise and flashed on and off it never happened before this or after so it gave me such peace, I know it was her
Thanks Marsha and Trina for your input. It helps to know I'm not alone in believing in signs. I've had other signs from Ken, more so in the first year, Marsha.....I too recall a couple of occasions when I was screaming out in pain for him and then the phone either rang or a friend dropped by unexpectedly. I have no doubt Ken sent them to help.
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