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A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.
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This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.
Started by Susan. Last reply by Marsha H Sep 2.
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My husband died late June and my daughter’s husband was deployed for 13 months. She’s a basket case. Last night she broke down, I broke down, we both said things we didn’t mean. This morning we both apologized but we realized that family members can’t lean on eachother after a loss like this. It’s like a line of dominoes. One falls and they all fall. Most churches only seem to offer the workbook griefshare which I don’t feel would do much good. Even in big cities like Houston I cannot find anything else. Add to that having just had surgery and not being able to take care of myself and I’m developing a bad case of the “it’s all about me.” I need people like all of you to keep me grounded and realize many of you have it so much worse. I pray for all of you.
Mary Jane - I can't even figure out how to reply. The people here are so loving I wish I could figure this out. I am going to try doing what Steve does and see if it works.
I never seem to have trouble posting any length ..but I post from an IPad. Horrifically, Ipads don’tnhave anything like WORD...so I am unable to compose a letter on this thing, so I have to go to my old computer if I want to write a letter..but here I can post as long as I want..LOL which I guess Y’all know. I DO know that regardless of which post I might b replying to, on this site, we have to post “in a row” even tho we might be responding to someone’s post on page 3...I almost gave up posting when I first arrived here..I just DIDN,t get it. And, no, I did NOT buy an IPad cuz I had extra $$$$$ to,spend...this Ipad was actually a GIFT from my daughters BOSS, so my daughter and Bob could FACETIME each other while he was in hospice. I have never received such a generous gift. The woman who gave it to me, had used an IPad to keep in touch with HER father who was in a cancer facility, to communicate with her dad across the miles, and was kind enough to mail me this Ipad so my daughter, Melinda could talk to her dad. Sadly and ironically, I had no idea how this thing worked the afternoon I received it...so Melinda was going to walk us thru how to use it the evening after it came in the mail. Unfortunately, BOb died the very next morning.less than 12 hours after recieving this wonderful instrument of communication, and they never got to “SEE” each other again.
I always write mine in Word, then copy and paste into the comment box. If I get a message telling me it exceeds the limit, then I will copy half and post then post the other half right after that one...labeling them as part one and part 2 respectively.
I cannot get the hang of this. It always tells me I am writing too much. Yet the comments I see are much longer. I am not sure where to write.
Chuck...You and Steve certainly have you hands full with what seem like almost daily appts. I'm so grateful for Steve's positive prognosis but so sad that you both have to deal with this again. I can almost feel the terror that you must feel but I want you to take a breath. With Larry and Mark watching over you both, you got this.
Susan.....What a surprise to find out you live so close. We could definitely meet sometime. I work in Wilmington so many of my co-workers live in Lawrence, Andover and North Andover. In fact, 3 of my staff were evacuated although thankfully their homes were spared.
I agree with you Mary Jane. My husband's oncologist knew that the second chemo my husband got only had a 10% chance of extending his life only 6 months. But he encouraged my husband to try it. It was that chemo that gave him a fatal lung injury, cutting off the 4 or so months he would have had left had he not tried it. He was just another number to them while filling their pockets.
Why would a drug that causes cancer be approved? I think there is only one reason...they WANT cancer patients. I KNOW THAT IS TRUE. When Bob was seeing his Drs daily, I actually said to one, “they don,t want a cure for cancer.. it is a 3 billion dollar per year Proffit!”. His response was very surprising..he looked at me and EXCLAIMED “Yes we do!!” But the way he said it, was very surprising..like a little kid caught with his hand in the cookie jar. It is not my imagination...corporations are making BILLIONS off of this horrible illness, and the people who are dying are dismissed as colateral damage. If it was heart disease, people die sooner,or instantly...but cancer can last a very long time...which makes huge profits for Big Pharma, chemical companies, the Cancer Society, and a multitude of other industries. It is the perfect money making disease...no one dies instantly..it can return at anytime, and so many types of businesses are making billions...sure,there are some honest medical people out there, but CANCER IS AN INDUSTRY..
i don,t think it started out like this..when I was growing up, cancer was very rare...then it seems like it exploded, .ok, I will stop my rant now...
Hi Sarah, I too live about 20 miles north of Boston and was glued to the tv last night. My son works in Lawrence and hadn't heard about the explosions until I texted him at 5pm. He thankfully left work immediately and made it home safely. His fiancee's parents live in Lawrence but not in the affected area. It was frightening.
To Steve, I am sorry about your cancer and it's relation to humira. I work for a rheumatologist and we have so many patients on these biologics. Far too many of them get cancer. It's a known side effect but I think it is downplayed in the prescribing process. Plus people just want to feel better so they agree to go on the drugs. I think the patient should be presented with some statistics before agreeing to go on the drugs. We have very few patients who turn down the drug.
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