Bereaved Spouses

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Comment by Marsha H on October 4, 2018 at 6:35am

Jeanette ...  Even though I live in Canada our laws are similar.  Since you husband left a Will (the Estate) it should be pretty simple and you would be left whatever your husband (and you) had.  Ernie left me a Will and it was plain and simple and I didn't need a lawyer.  Of course I don't know if your husband left everything to you, but I assuming so.  I suggest you get some help from your banking institution.  I didn't need a lawyer at all.  Everything went to me.  Your Attorney doesn't seem to have it together so if you feel you need one fire the one you have and ask family or friends if they have used a good Attorney.  If not then you can request one from the Bar Assoc.  I wish you luck and if you have any other issues please post them.  Also, when an Attorney bills you it should be completely itemized as to what you are paying for.  



Comment by Michael Smith on October 4, 2018 at 6:02am


When I saw the first commercial I said there is know way I could watch that show. I think it would stir up so many painful memories. 

Comment by Sara Murphy on October 3, 2018 at 8:52pm

Has anyone been brave enough to watch that new show, A Million Little Reasons (or something like that)?   Just the commercials is upsetting to me. 

Comment by Steve on October 2, 2018 at 7:58am

I have no experience with estate attorney's, however, in my world if I hire someone, I can fire them.  A friend of mine who was in the hospital years and years ago, fired his doctor based on the fact that he had been in the hospital and of course they asked him who his doctor was.  Days went by before his doctor even showed up to check on him, with an apology stating that he was very busy with other patients and had to prioritize them all including him.  I happened to be in the room when my friend told the doctor that he was fired.  The look on his face and the statement "you cannot fire me" lit a fuse to say the least.  The head nurse asked the doctor to leave and assured my friend that the hospital would assign a different doctor for him...

I do not know the ins and outs of estate attorneys and I would think that getting a 2nd opinion from a different attorney would be the same as getting a 2nd opinion from a doctor.

Comment by Jeanette McSherry on October 1, 2018 at 7:31pm

Since many of you have experience with this. my estate lawyer is giving me vague billing descriptions and bill for things like: - "the guy you referred me to tried to steal my financial team's account" or "do not do anything I will handle."  Can I fire him? I still have to do an inventory according to him even tho my husband had a will

Comment by Mary. Jane on September 30, 2018 at 12:13pm

Thank u true.

Comment by deborah peck on September 30, 2018 at 9:23am

this hit home

Comment by Mary. Jane on September 27, 2018 at 12:48pm

Never mind,,I see where u r from. 

Comment by Mary. Jane on September 27, 2018 at 12:45pm

Real estate, huh? LOL you aren’t in Northern California by chance..r u? 

My apologies for putting this on this site...please don,t kick me off, moderators. 

Comment by Sheri Dettman on September 27, 2018 at 10:51am

HI Mary Jane. The way I see it, there is no privacy really, so it doesn't bother me. I never post anything that I would care if anyone saw. Plus, my business, which is Real Estate, is based online with regards to all of my websites, I'm fully immersed in it and always have been. I do appreciate your concerns though. It's not paranoid if it's true!


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