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A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.
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This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.
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Sheri....That's great. I wish you much happiness!
Very happy for you! Enjoy!
Hello all, I haven't been posting much because, a miracle! I started dating someone 2 months ago and it's very serious. It has been almost 2 1/2 years since I lost Bill, so I'm due. My new guy had just received the all clear on his PSA after going through prostate cancer surgery in late August. So he's due too. At any rate, I had made peace with the fact that if I never met anyone that I wanted to share my life with, at least I had the great love of my late husband for 11 years. And now I have a new chance and it's pretty darn awesome. So don't give up if you are seeking the same! It can happen.
Thank you so much. I told my daughter about your warm post, and she said thank you.This is weird, only going for a few days...I have to pack completely differently...and stick my cos,ethics in a smaller bag, etc. Rudy the wonder kitty keeps trying to get into the suitcase. I wish I could take him! Lol. My daughter is doing a bit better today, but still stunned. They will have to do an autopsy, so I won,t be there for the funeral...he was really depressed and lonely (not everyone knew that, but Melinda was his confidant...and She briefly wondered if he took his own life) I have tried to assure her, that he is out of pain now..and probably happy..... But the front door was unlocked, and he was lying about 12 feet from the door...he was sooo young! Ok, my ride arrives in 2 hours, and looking this gorgeous takes awhile, so I should go. LOL
Laughter is the best gift God gives us..even when things seem impossible, and horrible, finding humor in your day makes the bad stuff better. Thank you, Steve..I am so happy your treatments are over and u can live to be 106! Yay! Hello to Chuck and Bella..bye.
Don't be afraid Mary Jane, Bob will be with you.
Mark has been with me each day of my treatments, which by the way my last one is Monday. Even in a big city like Dallas just driving there was a 45 min drive each way. Some weeks the rain was coming down fast and winds were gusty. But, we made it ( Chuck and I), we also met a lot of nice people each of them with their own illness.
I will actually miss seeing them all, each day humbled me and each day everyone would smile and just nod or say hello.
Go be with your daughter, focus on her, everything else will fall into place.
THankyou. That was a lovely post. Now I have another fear...I am flying out in 6 hours, and the horrible Oklahoma wind is 30 miles an hour..so send a few prayers that my plane doesn,t crash.
About Kevin’s death..he had been dead about 3 days when they found him..which, ironically was the same time Melinda was listening to her dads phone messages after almost 3 years. I don,t think that was a coincidence. Kevin could have been with her at that time. I know that sounds nuts, but I have had too many strange things happen. Also, last night, she went to shut his office door last night after the few people left in the building were done crying, etc..and the SUN was streaming through the window..a single stream of sun...and the weird thing..is the company had just put a shade in his window..that is the business...they make and sell window shades..but after the shade was installed 2 days ago,.they realized that was the only example of that brand new shade, so the took it down to photograph, and the window was unshaded. Otherwise, there would have been no sunlight. This was NOT a coincidence.
Ok, kids, I am back to scared..imdon,t want to die in an airplane today...if u have ever been in Oklahoma, u will know how bad the winds can get. There were tornadoes last night..lots of damage in different parts of the state..lots of destruction...I know planes fly outndaily, but I don,t want to die..I have a daughter who needs me. And I need her...and a kitty who would b homeless if I die.
Your daughter Melinda will be in all of our prayers, as well as you dear sister. None of us are ever ready for what life can through at us, and yet, we all find our way to where we need to be, and especially the people that come into our life.
“There will always be a reason why you meet people. Either you need them to change your life or you’re the one that will change theirs”.
Angel Flonis Harefa
Love and hugs for a safe trip.
It is unbelievable how in just one hour, since my last post, life can turn on a dime. There I was, frantically running around, trying to pack, tornado warnings, and severe thunderstorms all around me now...but non of it seems important now.
When Bob died, my daughter seemed to take it well...I worried about her not grieving...it’s been 2 1/2 years...but today the other father figure in her life, died. He was the president of the company she works for...but they weee close..as 18 years ago, it was a small company...so they would talk, he would help her do things like buy the best car, confide in her about his failed marriage, multitude of things brought them close...and lthough they DIDN,t have deep conversations like before, as the years passed..she worked her way up to what would be considered the COO of the company...but he would still confide in her...he was a friend, but more distanced as she rose higher in the company...and more people were hired...the closeness was altered. But they always had a special connection.
for 3 days, he didn,t come to workm or answer phone calls or texts so today 3 of the top employees went to his home, as they were very worried...and found he had died...lying on his floor...near his door...cause of death unknown at this time,...she is glad she DIDN,t have to see him like that...but she is so upset...first her dad, now the man who had been like a second dad to her...when she called me with this information I was so shocked...hopefully he didn,t take his own life, but no one knows yet,,,he was very lonely and not as open as he once had been.he was only 58, and seemed like a very nice man.....and my frantic mood and rush to,pack has altered because of her deep pain. First her dad, and now Kevin.
Ironically on Monday, they are going to have a special meeting and she wants me to go with her, and support her that day. I have met him several times, and really liked him..but he had so much trouble finding love...and was extremely lonely...but he always took time out from “being the CEO” tomhave their special talks..and now it is too late..death is the great equalizer. It could have been heart problems, and both of us are so glad that she DIDN,t go along when they went to his home, and found him,,as it had been a few days, lying on that floor.
Imam supposed to fly there tomorrow, and she wants me there when they break the news to the rest of the company..on Monday.they are planing vhaving an impromtommeeting, and she is very greatful I will be by her side as she faces yet another death by someone she though of as a father.
Ironically, just a few days ago she was finally able to listen to the messages still on her phone about when her dad was dying..now this happens. It seems a million years agonot a few hours, I was running around my house trying to pack for this trip..which in an instant turned into something completely different, they are not kidding when they say life can turn on a dime. One persons death caused everyone who knew him to re-evaluate their daily life, and put what is really important into prospective. It is so sad. Thanks for reading this, and pray for my little girl to give her some piece and clarity. Her name is Melinda and she is the reason I get up in the morning,
I thought it had been a longer time that no one else posted...but I read everything today, and I guess it is just me. My life is in complete chaos now...plumbing backyard pipe crushed..in next door neighbors yard...trying to get rid of so much stuff...and tomorrow I am flying to CA to look at mobile homes..actually, I am not nNEARLY ready yet, but we want to “get a feel” for a possible senior park...then we have to clean up THIS place...but the catalyst was last nite...a neighbor mention a friend who’s husband had died...at where I usually grab a pen and paper and jot down THIS website. (Like YOU do, Beard..I always refer people..but b4 I could, I remembered how slow things have been, and was afraid the person wouldn’t, see any postings, and leave...so I DIDN,t.
i am so scared of life right now..but ironically, BOB has been here ALOT! I have never felt him this strongly. He has helped me a number of times...things so weird, and timely, I KNOW he is here. Things I start to do one way, but then I sort of get a feeling, that maybe I should do it a different way...it is too complicated to explain here...but this is the strongest I have ever felt him. There is so much more I want to write about, but I am in FRANTIC mode..I don,t like leaving my kitty....but he loves my friend who cares for him, and it is only for a few days...I know it is BAD to be so attatched to a pet,but he is so much more...and he isn,t young any more...so I have asked God we both live at least another 10 years! It could happen! My brother has a cat who is 23!
ok, time to go...but it is so good to hear from all of you.
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