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Bereaved Spouses

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Comment by Mary. Jane on December 12, 2018 at 10:12pm

Ok, this is for those of you who have lost yr partner for over 3 years or more, and uprooted your life to a new location. Is this normal, or am I going nuts?   I returned from CA a week ago..after looking at senior parks and mobile homes. Now, instead of sorting, discarding, packing, I haveen,t  been able to barely FUNCTION.

I sit here all day, online, or watching mindless TV..procrastinating not doing ANYTHING. I have done useless stuff,shopping on Amazon, or trying to pick an outfit for next Monday’s Bunko party..sent a few Christmas cards...I can,t even watch a movie I have wanted to see on Netflix! And the time just keeps passing, but really slowly. My house is in total chaos, and somehow I have to get it ready to SELL hahahahaha..and yet I don,t do anything. It has been like this all week. 

My brain has lost all function...this morning I slept until 10:45!!! 

But the real shock was when  I saw a spider on the kitchen floor, and DIDN,t even freak out! I calmly picked up the phone book and dropped it on the spider, waited a few mins, then picked it up with a tissue and disposed of it. (The spider, not the book) 

i am DEATHLY afraid of spiders..and usually I would still be terrified and really unrealistically stressed, worried his friends were going to crawl in..(no joke) but today, and the last 3 times I have seen a spider, there has been a weird DETATCHMENT like I am a robot. 

I am thinking, when Bob died...he was gone, but I was still here..nothing else changed...my WORLD changed but my surroundings remained the same. And underneath it all, I am TERRIFIED of this invasion INTO my world, and having to leave my home. Am I loosing  it? Did anyone else experience this? 

Comment by Mary. Jane on December 12, 2018 at 8:22pm

Yes, that is my daughter singing.

Comment by DJ on December 12, 2018 at 12:18pm

Mary Jane I love Melinda's music! Thanks for posting that link.
Marsha, glad you are okay; I'm a creature of habit, so when your pattern changed...
Sheri: yay! Will you be updating your blog stronglikebull.love?
Steve: it’s gratifying to hear good things happening to good people!
Debora, Chicago, Sara, Trina, Georgia, Charles, Pete, … and all you other regulars past & present / frequent or sporadic – thanks for sharing, thanks for caring.
Great to see good news this past little while, to see there is light at the end of the tunnel – especially for those who will be, sadly, joining our ranks.

Comment by Marsha H on December 12, 2018 at 6:24am

Sheri ...  I am so happy you have found someone to be in your life and you deserve it.  It's been 7 years for me and I have found no one ...  spinach in my teeth?  LOL

Marsha

Comment by Marsha H on December 12, 2018 at 6:21am

Steve ...  I am so happy to hear you are finished with your treatments and doing much better.  I pray for all of us each night without fail so there are miracles helping!  Just keep getting stronger and know that we miss you.  Wish I could hug you in person and celebrate!  

Your Sis

Marsha

xxxx

Comment by Marsha H on December 12, 2018 at 6:19am

Mary Jane ...  the songs absolutely beautiful and quite different which is refreshing.  Quite a talented young lady.  Hope she keeps it up.  Is that her singing?

Comment by Marsha H on December 12, 2018 at 6:18am

So sorry I haven't been on here for quite sometime.  Thanks DJ and Mary Jane.  Didn't mean to cause anyone to worry about me.  I have been busy with all sorts of things and also, two of my girlfriends have cancer and I'm helping where I can.  Yup, makes life seem worth living when I find good homes for homeless dogs.  I've been out with friends as well and now preparing for the holidays.  Having 2 buffets in December and gee, I think I forget how to cook for more than one person.  LOL

Bless you all, you are in my thoughts and heart always.

Marsha 

Comment by Mary. Jane on December 11, 2018 at 11:23am

OMG, Steve, that is awesome news. YAAAYYYYYYY!!!!!

In my heart of hearts, I always believed you would be ok.

Thanks for the opinion of my daughters song. SheDOES have a wonderful voice...always has. She used to have her own band, when in her 20’s, with her husband and a friend...they always played at clubs and social events..but as she got older, life takes over, and that ship sailed. Too bad. I used to sing a lot, entered shows on cruise ships, got a standing ovation once..but age, time and smoking have ruined my voice...but the dreams were nice to imagine.

i hope you and Chuck go out and celebrate life tonight.u deserve it.

Comment by Todd B. Goodrich on December 11, 2018 at 10:14am

Steve,

That is wonderful! Congratulations! 

Todd

Comment by Steve G. on December 11, 2018 at 6:41am

Good news, I completed my radiation treatments.  No more long drives daily (60 miles round trip).  My blood test came back for PSA as 0.03 (in layman terms ZERO) the cancer cells are gone.  I will still be taking a hormone shot once every 3 months for about another year plus keeping an eye on my blood work...just in case.

Each day I feel a little stronger and each day I count as a new beginning and a blessing.  Thank you one and all for your prayers and positive thoughts...plus all the hugs!

Mary Jane, thank you for sharing your daughter's song.
Wow, very moving and she has a beautiful voice. Thanks again for sharing with us.

 

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