Bereaved Spouses

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Grief so great it hurts

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Comment by Jeanette McSherry on January 22, 2019 at 9:52am

I have had a friend for several decades who has been thru it all with my family. He cared for my husband when he was ill and for my children (and me). The first thing I noticed about him when we first met was how kind he was. The thing is - I'm not ready to jump on the hamster wheel again. He has let me know that he is interested and honestly I enjoy his companionship immensely and don't want to discourage him. Yes I have told him this but he doesn't back off for more than a week or two. All I can focus on is how many problems there would be in beginning a new relationship right now. I already have most of the benefits so I haven't had to go it alone like so many of you. When I am alone I don't do well. When he is around it keeps the anxiety and depression away........but I realize I am very vulnerable. Afraid to make a bad decision because I am so needy. Anyone else in this circumstance?

Comment by Jeanette McSherry on January 22, 2019 at 9:46am

I cannot seem to paste into the comment box and I have never quite figured this site out. The other one you refer to Steve is not as secure - but easy to use.

Comment by Steve G. on January 22, 2019 at 9:03am

Hopefully I  took out the hyperlinks,,,the second one is for Steve Cain's group

Comment by Steve G. on January 22, 2019 at 8:59am

there is a difference between the two links, and you cannot toggle between the two, you get locked into the one you choose.

Comment by Steve G. on January 22, 2019 at 8:43am

I have noticed that this site has been quiet, a new person posted and I clicked on the link.  It took me to their post, however, it appears to be Legacy Connect, the difference was, I noticed that Mary Jane responded and one other person Peter.  I did not received notices of either of their responses.  I did notice that the missing link was that this new discussion was not on Bereaved Spouses
Created by Steve Cain.  So not sure what is happening.

Comment by Marsha H on January 14, 2019 at 5:22am

Sara ...  so happy that you do that on your anniversary.  I also do it Valentine's Day.  I'm sorry you can't go to his favorite place, but the backyard is just as good and all the memories for both of you were there.  Believe he is with you because he is.

Comment by Sara Murphy on January 13, 2019 at 5:58pm

Marsha.......I do the balloon thing on our wedding anniversary.  I started it the first anniversary after he passed from your suggestion.   I can't go to his favorite place however since that would be New England Dragway but I release it from our backyard and watch it sail to the heavens.

Comment by Marsha H on January 12, 2019 at 5:07pm

Hey there Mary Jane ...  No kicking up heels until Feb. 2nd because my b/d is on a Tuesday; people work and it's difficult to get together.  I did go out for a nice dinner with girlfriends and we did kick up our heels.  The waiter thought we were on Marijuana!  LOL  Lots of laughs and it sure felt good.



Comment by Marsha H on January 12, 2019 at 5:06pm

Sara ...  I know just how you feel since Ken passed.  Grief is so strange and it seems the years go by quickly, but at the same time so slow when we live from day to day.  It will be 8 years since Ernie passed and I miss him every day, but the heartache is a little less.  May I suggest buying a helium balloon, printing love notes on it and going to Ken and your favorite place and let the balloon sail up to heaven.  I do that and it makes one feel better.  I like to think they are up there ready to catch that balloon.   Chin up my dear friend and I'm thinking of you.



Comment by Marsha H on January 12, 2019 at 5:00pm

Sara ,,,  Thank you so much for the belated b/d wishes.  I'm at that age where I kiss the ground I made it another year.  Older than dirt!  LOL  Don't feel it and people say I don't look it.  Good gene pool.  Because my birthday was on a Tuesday my girlfriends and I are kicking up our heels Feb. 2nd instead.  I'm for that!  LOL


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