Bereaved Spouses

A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.

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Grief so great it hurts

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Comment by Marsha H on January 31, 2019 at 8:41pm

My dear friend Diane ...  My deepest condolences on the loss of your precious mother.  I know exactly how you feel.  My own mother passed in 2004 after a long bought of Dementia complicated by diabetes.  It broke my heart that my mother didn't recognize my brother and I.  She was not eating or drinking and as you say they just don't look like our mothers.  I remember her saying to me the night before she passed when I tried to get her to eat something with an insulin pill that she could, but didn't want to and from there she was on her own private journey towards God.  It breaks our hearts, but one thing I did realize after the shock of her passing (she passed away in the early morning hours and we were not contacted before that) is that God has come to take them home where they will be out of pain and happy.  I honestly believe that and also we will see them again. 

Stay strong my friend and if you need to talk just post.  I'll be here tonight.

Love & Blessings


Comment by Diane C on January 31, 2019 at 5:38pm

Sorry to add to your list MaryJane, but I wanted to let everyone know that my beautiful 85 year old mom passed away on Monday afternoon. She had been in a nursing home and was slowly declining. The past week was terrible for her and me. She was in a lot of pain and Hospice was there to help her. Hospice gave us a wonderful nurse (Kathy) who was an angel and she happened to be with my mom when she passed. I was at work and Kathy called me at 1:00 to say she though it would be soon, within the next couple days. I said I would be there at 4:00, right after work. She said she would be there until 4:30. I was glad to be able to chat with Kathy as she had been off for the weekend. I left the office and was used to carrying my cell phone everywhere I went the past couple of weeks, 10 minutes later my phone rang and it was Kathy telling me that my mom had passed. A blessing for my mom,  she had been bedridden and slowly declining for the past several months. I had her funeral arrangements pre-planned, but they needed me to identify her at the funeral home as her body had undergone a huge change. She hadn't eaten in a couple weeks and no water for at least a week. The picture I had given them was from October and they could not be 100% that it was the same person. I completely understood as she did not resemble my mother any more. So that was a very hard thing to do. I do understand why it had to be done, just unfortunate I had to be the one. I just felt like I had to come here and let my friends know that she had passed..... Thanks for allowing me to do that. God Bless You Mom, I Love  YOU!!!

Comment by Mary. Jane on January 29, 2019 at 10:00pm

Ok..I know this is for bereaved partners/spouses...but the last few weeks, I have heard that so many people died...a friend was telling me last night at Bunko... that she knew 4 people that had passed since Christmas, two of them young,and suddenly...and .we were talking about one of our Bunko members, Jan, who was 82, but vital and active... who had been ill a few weeks,..and she died this morning. 

I cannot get it out of my head, as I admired her so much...she was 82, looked about 68...was still working asa hair dresser...and was energetic, and an inspiration to me...but she had been sick..and now she’s gone. 

Also, a young woman I worked with 14 years ago, we were friends, she got throat cancer and passed a week ago. She was only 35 had a hubby and 15 yr old daughter, andnever smoked, then gets cancer. A horrible cancer...she fought for a year. I just cannot wrap my head around HER death, and I am really going to miss Jan..the older woman. I makes me afraid, too. 

I just wanted to vent...thanks

Comment by Mary. Jane on January 23, 2019 at 6:00pm GO, Beard! That,s a lot nicer than what I wanted to post..but I restrained myself.

Comment by Chicago Beard on January 23, 2019 at 2:29pm

Brianna you are in the wrong group!

Comment by Brianna Owen on January 22, 2019 at 9:05pm

This year 2019 has been so blissful to me for God has given me a reason to live happily again after been heart broken for 3 months when my husband neglected me and went back to he's mistress. I suffered and went through all types of emotional tortures for i couldn't get any help to get my man back not until i was refereed to Lord Zakuza by my co-worker who gave me her full assurance about him that he can be of help to me. I got in touch with Lord Zakuza and i hearken to his words and followed the instructions given to me by him. Could you believe that my husband got back home within 12 to 16 hours as said by him and today, my marriage is restored & i'm so thankful, appreciative & grateful to God for using Lord Zakuza to get my man back after 3 months of broken marriage. Is there anyone out there who needs to get back to he's or her lover back or needs any help of any kind? Then, i suggest that you get in touch with Lord Zakuza now through his Email ID: OR you can WhatsApp him too on + 1 (740) 573–9483 for more information. God bless you sir. This Brianna Owen from the UK.

Comment by Marsha H on January 22, 2019 at 4:59pm

Jeanette ...  If you go to the top on here and over to the left you'll see 'Main' and click on that.  Then you'll see different groups on there and click on the first one which has a couple on there and the lady has a green top on.  Click on that and you'll come to this comment page.

Comment by Marsha H on January 22, 2019 at 4:56pm

Jeanette ...  I posted on your wall.  

Comment by Mary. Jane on January 22, 2019 at 10:11am

I can click n the email link for your post, but I cannot click on it from here. 

Comment by Mary. Jane on January 22, 2019 at 10:07am

I got an email for Bonny’s post..but I don,t know where she posted it...the responses seem to be from others who signed up to recieve emails.

i cannot click on your links, is probably just me...I have never figured out how to C&P on my IPad. 


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