Bereaved Spouses

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This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.


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Comment by Marsha H on February 8, 2019 at 4:00am

Pete ...  I'm so sorry you are not well and you get better soon.  We miss you on here and hopefully you'll be posting soon again, but until then take good care of yourself and know we are thinking of you.


Comment by Pete Bronson on February 7, 2019 at 6:17pm

Hi Sara,

I have been ill off and on for a number of months but still alive. I read all the notifications in my email, I  just don't spend much time online lately. Thank you so much for asking. I hope everyone in the group is OK. Happy to help with the Hint/Tip.

Everyone be safe and take care of yourselves (Pete slips back into the shadows)


Comment by Sara Murphy on February 7, 2019 at 9:08am
I too thank you Pete for the info and have blocked her.
How have you been? Haven't heard from you in a while so I'm glad to see you on my screen.
Comment by Steve G. on February 7, 2019 at 8:09am

Thanks Pete, I have her blocked as well

Comment by Deb on February 6, 2019 at 6:41pm

Thank you Pete...I have now blocked Brianna. 

Comment by Pete Bronson on February 6, 2019 at 5:52pm

Click on her name to go to her profile. Scroll down under her picture to find block messages and click on it. If everyone in the group does that she no longer has an audience to send her spam to.

Comment by Mary. Jane on February 6, 2019 at 10:24am

I just sent Steve Cain a message to delete this “Briana” too.

Comment by Mary. Jane on February 6, 2019 at 9:58am

Thank you, Marsha  and Sara. You make wonderful points, and help my soul deal with this time in my life that never seems like it is going to be over. 

Your responses are the reason this site is so important in my life. Everyone here is such a comfort.

Except Brianna. Hahahahahahahahahahahaha....(I just HAD to say that. If I ever loose my sense of humor I may as well cash in my chips. LOL)

Comment by Sara Murphy on February 6, 2019 at 9:15am
Mary Jane....I too believe your daughter is just now grieving the loss of her father. Not only was she trying to be strong for you, but with her living in a different state, it was probably easy to pretend he wasn't gone.
Moving and having to discard Bob's belongings is a huge step and also a loss so it makes sense that you would grieve that loss as well. You're leaving the home you and Bob shared for a number of years and you can't take it all with you. I can't even stand the thought of having to discard Ken's belongings so believe me, you're doing ok. I agree with Marsha that once you settle into your new home and get a new routine going, it hopefully won't feel as bad as it seems now.
Comment by Marsha H on February 6, 2019 at 3:52am

Mary Jane ...  I also listened to your daughter's songs and she is very talented and I so enjoyed listening.  I joined and wanted to leave a message and get her name out there, but it wouldn't go through for some reason.  

I believe your daughter is finally grieving and it is her song writing and her voice that consoles her and get's her feelings out.  We all grieve differently.  I remember when my father passed away I was in my mid-20's and I felt I had to be strong for my mother as did my brother.  I did do my crying once back at my apartment.  Losing a first parent always seems the toughest because we've all not given it much thought that our parents would pass eventually.  Yes, I do also believe she is worried you will pass away as well and that's very normal.  

Leaving the life you had before is also a grief and starting a new life appears much more difficult than it is.  It could be an great adventure for you and your daughter.  You will get rolling when you need to and once settled in your new place I am sure within a couple of months it will feel like a home and more adventures to be had.  My words may seem easier than they are, but I have girlfriends who are widows and they have moved.  At first it's strange, but keeping busy is the key and getting out for a little entertainment every so often helps as well.  It wasn't long before they fell into their new life, made new and interesting friends.  I do pray for all on here and I know you're going to make out just fine my dear friend.




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