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Comment by Mary. Jane on March 20, 2019 at 10:56pm

Hi Diane,..no everyone is probably busy, happy or so overwhelmed they can,t even think of posting. (I am the last one)..Yes, I HATE the slow times...especially when I feel I need someone to be here..but this is cheesy, if you post it, they will come. Pun INTENDED. So if u r having a tough time just post.

Comment by Diane C on March 20, 2019 at 11:32am

Just checking in to see where everyone went. Its been a few weeks since there has been much activity here. Just wondered if you are doing ok. I know there was a lot of nasty weather for a couple weeks. But I hope that is over now. I hope everyone is doing ok. Miss reading everyone's  comments. Even though I don't comment much, your comments sure help others including myself more than you will ever know. Miss you all!! ♥

Comment by Diane C on March 12, 2019 at 11:35am
Mary.Jane,

I feel so bad for you!! We had some very windy, rainy weather here too. I had a tree fall on the house in 2012 and I am scared to death when the wind blows that bad. I do understand what you are saying about pets feeding off us. My dog does the same thing. I lost power for the entire day Sunday, but all is better now. I wear one of those hats with the flashlight built in too. Works very well when you have no power. I am sorry to hear you are in so much pain. It would be nice if we could wave a wand and get all the things done we need. Can't believe all the problems you are having trying to sell the items on ebay. Hardly worth all your trouble. I hope you feel better soon and you and Rudy are able to calm down and get yourselves comfortable again. It is so hard to do this on our own. I wish we all lived in the same community and could help each other out. That would be wonderful for all of us. Take care MaryJane! And don't get me started on this damn time change.... you said it all!!
Comment by Mary. Jane on March 11, 2019 at 3:05pm

Oh, Diane...when I read your post, I burst into tears. Thank you. This past week or two has been a nightmare in most every way. The one GOOD thing, is that I have felt Bob here with me, trying to comfort me ..yeah I know that sounds nuts, but it is true.

Friday I spent the day preparing for storms and tornados, repacked my backpack that holds Rudy’s food, (my cat) and some essentials,  vacuumed out the shelter..it was expected to start at midnight...at 3am giant hail, and screeching winds were shaking the house so badly, that Rudy is STILL terrified... us of the storms, and my stress..animals feed off our emotions, he has been going from room to room for 3 days...over and over...Hasn’t slept like usual..I sort of got sick Sat while grocery shopping, I had to sit on a bench..got home and actually thought I was dying..lied down and waited...couldn,t eat for 3 days, Melinda  sent me a pic of them bleaching the wooden floors of their cabin..with a mask and miners light on her head..I am trying to get this house ready to sell...my meds are making me sick...cuz I have been in so much pain from lifting and hauling stuff..last night was the final straw..I had listed some stuff on EBay..only two were from th U.S. so I had to cancel their bids...and one still hasn’t,t paid..so I removed ALL my listings..and I am DONE with selling. I had a bunch of Kirks Folly stuff for sale...so I took the items that I canceled and put them in a box with the one necklace that DID sell, and I am GIFTING it to the nice lady that paid right away. Why not? It is just stuff, and doesn,t make any difference. 

Wow, when I read this back, it seems SOOO TRIVIAL...but every little thing seems to set me off...and the cherry on top is DAYLIGHT SAVINGS.  OMG why? No one likes it! The farms are gone..let’s leave the clocks the same all year!

OK I feel better now..not really, I am just overwhelmed. Thanks for that, Diane. I wish someone would hug me and somehow I would feel better.  I DO realize how fortunate I really am..I just wanna whine about it.

Comment by Diane C on March 11, 2019 at 1:17pm

I read this posted on a Daily Grief Support Email I receive...  "One day someone is going to hug you so tight, that all of your broken pieces will stick back together" - Anonymous

Give someone a hug. It is good for your soul, and makes you feel connected. Hope everyone is ok...

Comment by Mary. Jane on March 5, 2019 at 11:32am

Wow..3 months! Ironic how the bad times don’t dominate our memories..but we never forget the good times.Thank you for sharing that. 

Comment by deborah peck on March 5, 2019 at 11:01am

Mary Jane I totally forgot that in 1993 when the Midwest was hit with historical flooding we were flooded out of our home for 3 months. when it happened we were in Orlando with our girls and got the call from my family. Luckily we had my family to stay with while we waited to be able to check our house out. we were one of the lucky ones and while we had to replace all the flooring and everything in the garage was destroyed all our personal belongings were intact, my neighbors weren't so lucky, most of their homes filled with water so sad and my heart knows what your daughter is feeling but she will get what needs to be done, done

Comment by Mary. Jane on March 4, 2019 at 10:39pm

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8WEfX95orrY

Hey guys...sorry I seem to be monopolizing this board..but I just heard a song that dropped me to my knees...and I found it, and listened to it, and it made me cry...and I thought it was such a powerful song that I wanted to share it.

(I heard it playing on The Good Doctor, so I searched for what lyrics I remembered and finally found it)

Adendum to the Calif floods...we saw some homes in a Senior park we liked in CA in December...the park FLOODED last week. (sigh)

Scratch THAT park off the list. Now I am afraid for myself as well as my family. 

Comment by Mary. Jane on March 4, 2019 at 5:18pm

Thank you all so much. You are all such a comfort to me in every situation. Melinda and hubby (Doug) are taking this a lot better than I would have..working together, cleaning up the mess...bonding with neighbors as they are all in the same boat (so to speak..PUN INTENDED)

The local tiny store set up an area in their parking lot that is such a nice thing..they provided separate areas where flood victims can bring the ruined items that you are not allowed to put in the dumpsters the county provides....they provided places to dispose of ruined electronics, hazards materials, and other things like that, which really took the load off the flood victims. I never realized the population of her “town” is only 400 people.

But here is a humorous bit of irony.as I feel humor can be found in a lot of situations, that don,t involve loss of life...a few days b4 this all happened, Mel was trying to get hubby to finally go thru all his stuff, and toss a lot of it out...clothes he’d had since high school in 1986, boxes and boxes of papers..etc..she was bemoaning the lack,of space..but he just wouldn,t part with anything.

Well..be careful what you wish for...LOL...that,s not a problem anymore. They sounded so happy the last week..cuz they were so grateful to be alive..but now the destruction is sinking in..and they are scared...but in the big scale of things, as long as the people, and the animals re ok...life,like Debrahs daughters experience, life has a way of working out...

Now I just need to get off my a$$ and MOVE back home to CA! 

Comment by deborah peck on March 4, 2019 at 11:59am

Mary Jane, my daughter just went thru the same thing in North Carolina, destroyed there home , they had a farm, had to relocate all the animals before it flooded, now have a new home with 5 acres that they love so tell them it will get better, to have patience

 

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