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Comment by Sara Murphy on May 28, 2019 at 2:32pm
30 years ago today I received the greatest gift of my life when I became Ken's wife. This past 3 day weekend was such a long weekend knowing that we would have/should have been celebrating. We likely would have gone away for the weekend. I'm trying to think of today as if it were any other Tuesday but it's not working. It's been 3 years but I still can't believe he's not here.
Comment by Debbie R on May 28, 2019 at 2:18pm

Mary Jane - Following the latest on your weather down there for the past couple of weeks makes me so sad, it's incredible.  I'm so glad you and your kitty are ok but like others said, please see if you can't get someone to help you take her to the vet.  She's relying on you :)  I hope you find all the peace you deserve in California and I'm glad you have family there.  A definite plus when moving.

I hope anyone else living down there is safe and sound and stays that way.  I guess Steve and Chuck are down there?  I don't know since I only started reading here less than a year ago so I'm sort of in the dark.  Deb P, it sounds like you've had your share of horror with the flooding and I hope you and your family are all ok.

Aside from this disastrous weather I hope everyone is hanging in there as best they can.  Keeping you all in my prayers.

Comment by Sara Murphy on May 28, 2019 at 9:23am
Mary Jane...I can't imagine how scary it is with all the tornados and flooding around you. I'm so sorry you're going through this. I think heavy winds are the scariest part of any storm but tornados are a whole other ballgame. I pray that you and your home remain safe and that your home sells quickly. You'll feel so much better and safer when you're in California with your daughter.
I'll repeat what others have said.....no need to apologize for venting. I don't consider it venting, I think of it as talking to friends as you would it person. There may be some miles between us but we're here to help and share in your life.
Please keep us updated and let us know that you're safe. Same goes for Steve and Chuck as well as anyone else living in that area of the country.

Hugs,
Sara
Comment by Sara Murphy on May 28, 2019 at 9:14am
Hi All....Sorry I dropped off for a bit. We had an extremely busy quarter at work and I fell behind in reading the posts. Although I was reading them, I felt I was too far behind to comment on posts from 2 weeks prior. I have been thinking of all of you.

Steve......I remember you posting that poem previously. I've now printed it because when I read it, I can imagine Ken saying those words to me. Thanks for re-posting it.
Comment by deborah peck on May 27, 2019 at 11:24am

Mary Jane your life sounds truly chaotic right now, We have had numerous tornadoes hit done here in Missouri, thankfully none next to me but the sirens all the time and storm warnings are very scary here, the weather here is crazy too, they just took the barricades for flood water down on my street and now they are back up again. Moving across country is very intimidating but it sounds like its just about over for you, Im very proud of you for continuing with this quest of yours and am sure you will be much happier to be near your daughter mine are my life line. Life can get messy but you are doing it be PROUD,

Comment by Steve G. on May 27, 2019 at 8:06am

Mary.Jane,

OMG, that is enough to scare anyone of us.  Please never apologize for posting, we have all had to do that more than once.  For me, posting and venting is like a pressure valve, may not change things around us, but it does help to calm us.

North Texas and the pan handle have been in the sweep of all the tornadoes.  Where we live, some of the storms have been severe, but not anything like what we see happening to Tulsa and other states.  One night a few weeks back, we were under a Tornado watch, hail warning and possible flash flooding.  Chuck jumped up and went from room to room, I causally asked, what are you doing and he said "looking for my Ruby Slippers, we can't go to Kansas with them.  

Praying that your home sells fast so that you and Kitty can get back to California.

Hugs,

Steve 

 

Comment by Marsha H on May 27, 2019 at 5:22am

Mary. Jane. ...  Wow!  What a time you are having.  I feel so badly you have to go through this and where I live in B.C., we don't have anything like that ... yet!  Records for weather are being broken all over the world.  

I am so happy where you live you have been blessed, but it must be terrifying for you and your kitty to hear all that noise.  

I am so happy to hear that you found a house in California.  You must describe it in your next post.  At least they don't have tornadoes there.  

Mary, please ask a neighbor to drive you to the vets because anal glands that are infected are very serious.  Either that or see if a vet can come to your house (will cost you extra of course) but your kitty can't go on like that.  I know, one of my kitties had the same thing.  It's also very painful for them.  I was lucky at the time Ernie and I drove her to the vets.

Never apologize my friend for venting or long posts.  That's what we are here for and you're family so here I am!  LOL  

Big hugs

Marsha

Comment by Mary. Jane on May 26, 2019 at 10:48pm

Well I see it’s been very quiet here for a week! And, during this week...just unbelievable chaos has become my life. I dunno if y’all have seen the national weather the last week..but I live in Tulsa OK...and we’ve had tornadoes nearly every day/night. There was so much rain, the many lakes and rivers were at capacity..so they released the water behing held back with the dams. People that escaped the damage, are being moved from their homes, as they have to intentionally flood the areas. No one here has ever seen anything like this for 30 years or more.and never for such a long period of time, over and over. 

So far, the area I live in has been blessed..kitty and I have come very close, hiding in our shelter for hours, while winds, rain, sirens and cell phones scream around us. Next week is predicted more tornadoes..even a possible one tonight. 

And during all of this, just b4 the first tornado,  I listed my house for sale...besides the weather, people have been coming all week...and at the beginning of May, I found a place in California and made an offer. They accepted it. 

Bob died 3 years ago..and I have done nothing all that time..and now EVERYTHING is happening. And the topper was today, when kitty got an anal gland infection...and, remember I DON’T DRIVE! so I have pretty much “hit the wall”. Thankfully I have medication for him..but it is just so much to take in just one week. 

Thanks for letting me vent. Sorry for the long post.

Comment by Marsha H on May 21, 2019 at 3:17pm

Diane C ...  That was beautiful and oh so true.

Thanks my dear friend.

Love & Hugs

Marsha

Comment by Diane C on May 21, 2019 at 12:09pm

I thought this was very appropriate for all of us......

"Grief is like the ocean; it comes on waves ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is calm, and sometimes it is overwhelming. All we can do is learn to swim."

- Vicki Harrison

 

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