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Comment by Marsha H on July 25, 2019 at 5:23pm

My dear family ...  Here is a good article for introverted people and it explains how you should handle it (feel comfortable in your own skin) but other helpful hints.  I hope it helps as those who are grieving and introverted it's a tougher journey.

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/grieving-when-youre-an-introvert_b_9...

Much love

Marsha

Comment by Marsha H on July 25, 2019 at 4:54pm

My dear family ...  Here is a good article for introverted people and it explains how you should handle it (feel comfortable in your own skin) but other helpful hints.  I hope it helps as those who are grieving and introverted it's a tougher journey.

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/grieving-when-youre-an-introvert_b_9...

Much love

Marsha

Comment by Marsha H on July 25, 2019 at 4:25pm

Deborah ...  My husband Ernie was more introverted while I'm very extroverted and some of it rubbed off on him.  It's OK to be an introvert if that is what makes you comfortable and no one should EVER judge you for that.  That being said, I would suggest you try your best and look at those around you and choose someone you may think will converse with you.  It's a start and you can still be introverted, but take the chance of talking to one or two people you are comfortable with.  I know it's not easy and as extroverted as I am it's as if I'm Typhoid Mary.  One thing on my side though is if I ask someone to go for coffee and they look at me as if I wanted to rip their tongue out. LOL  I just smile and it seems to ease the idea of going and sometimes it works and other times not.  I keep trying and here is a story for you:

Since it hasn't been easy to find new friends (women are the worst I must admit to get to know) I was helping out at the dog shelter and this lady came in to adopt a dog.  It was surreal because she came directly to me and we talked like we'd known each other before.  We exchanged phone numbers and emails.  I am so use to being ignored and hurt and my attitude is, 'It could happen, don't hold your breath and move on.'  Lo and behold she did phone me and we're meeting for lunch next Tuesday.  In our conversation she admitted being introverted, but felt comfortable around me and as we laughed and talked we did have some things in common.  So there is hope!  Even if it's one friend that's all one needs.  I do enjoy my own company, yet I do like being around others every so often.

I've be shocked to find though that now in widowhood how cruel old friends can be or even some family members that seem to disappear and reappear in my life.  Because of it I have become extremely independent and not bending to their ways.  The solace of it all is one day they unfortunately, will be where we are.  Just do what you are comfortable with and you know we love ya on here!

Hugs

Marcy   

Comment by Steve G. on July 24, 2019 at 7:49pm

Deborah,

All of us on this site have been the subject of well meaning friends and family " assessment" of a myriad of thing's we should do and how we should be living our lives.  Bottom line, each one of us gets to choose what we can do or not do.  Give yourself time to adjust, grief is the cruelest emotion I have had to deal with.  Maybe because I am older, I have learned that it is ok to walk away from certain people and it is also ok to live my life as I see fit.

Here we are one family, here, we can vent as each one of us struggles getting thru one day at a time.

Sending hugs

Comment by Diamond on July 24, 2019 at 11:16am

Hi Deborah we are told even in the Bible not to judge. We are all individuals with different personalities and preference. I am an introvert and I embraced that aspect of my personality. It is a gift which allows me to be very discerning and compassionate toward the human race as a whole. Those that judge allow me to,see the window of their heart and keep me aware of their energy and the caution to take in forming relationships with those who cast judgment.

Comment by deborah peck on July 24, 2019 at 10:35am

Francis, I too am more of an introvert, my husband talked to anyone, I have a much harder time, its getting in the way of me doing volunteer work or getting a job to keep myself busy so I totally get it, none of us want to be judged but also think about the fact that the people that are judging others must leave a very pathetic life to have to sit in judgement of others, everyone has the right to be themselves as long as it isn't harming anyone else, I hope you find the church or whatever peace you are looking for

Comment by Frances C Younger on July 23, 2019 at 9:18am

Been taking grand sons to VBS.  There is a lesson for adults, and I have enjoyed them.  However, I find myself not sure who to talk to.  I have no program teaching to a group, but find being uncoupled a challenge.  Vaughn was social, I am an introvert.  I am trying to come to the zone Marsha is in- acceptance.  I do see the need for connecting to others - but at the samr time, uncomfortable a little about church.  I was raised in church, and have attended many faiths .lol - seeking, I guess.  I just want to live life on my own terms and not be judged.

Comment by Marsha H on July 22, 2019 at 5:13am

Dear Deborah P ...  I was in tears reading your post and I do know exactly how you feel.  Even though it's been 8 years since Ernie passed away many of my friends are having fun together as couples, going on vacation and making plans telling me all about it and I have to admit sometimes I feel angry that Ernie isn't here so we could do all those things and also envious of those that can.  Thankfully as time goes on I've learned to accept it and it does get easier, but every so often I tear-up, frustrated and wondering what my life is all about.

Big hugs

Marsha

Comment by Mary. Jane on July 22, 2019 at 12:05am

Oh Deb..I totally get it.  I am so sorry.

i have kinda the same thing...in my new house, I now have all my belongings..al it in hundreds of boxes...but one HUGE thing is missing. Bob.  All his stuff is here..but he will never be here with us again. It seems incomplete...and I don,t think it will ever seem normal. 

Comment by Frances C Younger on July 21, 2019 at 12:47pm

Deborah, I am tearing up with you.  It is not fair, and we all know your pain.  It has been hard for me this week because a neighbor died, and I have been involved with his Mom setting up etc.  It is 6 months for me, and just too soon to revisit that pain.  After a good cry, you can handle this better.  They do not know the pain we feel yet - Thank God.  In fact, as positive as   I try to be, sometimes a little depression does seep in.  I am sending you a huge, and I mean huge cyber hug.

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