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A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.
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This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.
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My dear brother Charles ...
I am so sorry it has taken some time for me to get back to you, but like you, there has been so many deaths I've been confronted with or terminal illness' although I am thankful at least these people are close enough for me to phone or go visit them. As you know my girlfriend's husband passed the very month and day Ernie passed away; April 27th. How strange that is! I am so sorry you are experiencing so many deaths in your own family or friends and it only reminds us how fragile life is. I hope you and Steve are doing well and I honestly do think of you often. I too wish that all of us could meet somewhere halfway just to put a face to each wonderful soul on here.
Love you back!
Your sis Marsha
Dear Sara ... What a wonderful surprise to see you post and I appreciate you being concerned about me when I know you must have times that aren't going that great for you either.
I guess the big question for me is I can't seem to find 'ME' and where I fit into things in my life. I still volunteer at the shelter and go to Bible Study; see some friends off and on and visit with my small immediate family, but I feel so alone and almost empty inside. I keep busy (painting my living room right now) but wonder 'what for?' Guess I'm having a pity party.
I'm still helping my girlfriend out who's husband passed away in April and even through the worst of it we manage to have some good laughs.
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I hope you have many happy days and when I don't see someone post I pray it's because they are getting on with their life and having more happier times than sad one.
Hi All......I think it's been about a month since I was last able to visit and check in with everyone. In that time, I must have automatically been logged out because I had to find my password and now my profile picture is not there. I couldn't find how to add that back. Does anyone know? I went to My Page and thought I could find a link but I must be missing something.
I haven't been able to read all the posts yet but did get to Marsha's from mid-August so I want to say I hope your brother and neighbor are doing better. I'm sorry you've had such a terrible time over the past few months. It's hard when there's so much to worry about and no one to worry with. I hope you know you have us :)
Chuck, well said on knowing how our friends and family feel and the pain they are going thru at the continues cycly of life we all go thru. After Greg passed away many of my friends no longer contacted me nor me them as I was hurt they were not there for me. This pass week one of these friends sister passed away, this is the only time she has had a loved one pass away, I have been reaching ut to her to let her know I am here to meet up for coffee or just to sit, she sent me a text saying how sorry she was that she wasn't there for me, she didn't realize the pain of losing a loved one, I replied with no problem. I understand you couldn't possibly know the pain as you had never felt it, she also said she didn't know what to say which I replied, sometimes there is nothing to say, just sitting quietly together is enough so for her to let me know when things slowed down and we could just sit together. She was always what I had categorized as a good time friend, someone you could have fun with but not someone you could talk to about life, so sad she is now experiencing life in a different form
Marsha, I have been meaning to comment since you wrote over a week ago - as always seems to happen I am now very late in saying that although I am so glad to hear that you are alright (I'm a worrier), I am also am sorry for all the things you have been dealing with. Please always know that you are never far from my thoughts. As usual I find myself cursing the vast distances that keep us all separated, but that's what this"family" site is all about - being together when we can't be together.
Mary Jane, I agree with Marsha that Bob is letting you know that being close to you now isn't a matter of locality anymore - where you are, so will he be. Just as Larry and Mark have let Steve and I know in 100 small ways that they both continue their loving watch over us.
This past week my uncle passed at age 101. I was unable to travel for his funeral, as was his youngest daughter because her husband was gravely ill. I just learned that he now has also passed after 37 years of marriage. Today, one week after Uncle John's funeral, cousin Mary and her family are having Tuan's funeral. Again I will be absent in body, but not in spirit. I know how this emptiness and loneliness with which we are all familiar will hit her. She is a sweet quiet woman who will I fear internalize much of her pain. I will write her over the next few days after the shock has begun to wear off a bit and attempt to offer whatever support or comfort I can from a distance.
I guess what I am really saying is that another part of my path now includes witnessing others I love confronting their loss as I had to face losing Larry and I am feeling helpless and powerless to prevent the pain and fear I know too well is approaching. Being physically distant probably is exacerbating these feelings - but still I see myself as if watching from through some veil as people I love experience sadness with no way to reach them.
I hope everyone is well and has a peaceful weekend - I send hugs to you all my dear family -
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Mary Jane ... I am so glad you had those experiences and I don't know if you remember before you moved that I told you that Bob would follow you no matter where you lived and apparently he's there! I hope you win the lottery so keep us posted. I do believe in your experiences especially the fortunate. Hope you are getting use to your new digs.
Hi kids..I want to share this dream I had of Bob Tuesday when I took an early nap. I have been in my new mobile home in S.F. Bay Area..for 10 weeks now, and I really haven,t felt him here..until Tuesday...I was on the bed,my,kitty Rudy had crawled in with me, he ALWAYS sleeps with me..and I fell into a light sleep. Rudy although asleep, was making constant kitty noises..something he never does..I dreamed Bob-and I were talking together, and I woke up and remembered he was gone. I HATE when that happens..but I .drifted into another VERY light sleep...Rudy was still cuddled with me, whimpering, and I couldn,t sleep deeper, as the closet doors kept REALLY rattling, must have been the wind? .and I had to use the bathroom, os I opened my eyes, but still lied there..with kitty asleep next to me..still making unusual noises...I was annoyed that the doors continued to rattle, when I noticed my Angel solar light was FLICKERING..continuously like Morse code...THE BATTERY HAD DIED THE WEEK BEFORE, AND I HADN,T CHARGED OR REPLACED IT...Ilied there,not moving for about 3 minutes, watching the light flicker, listening to the wind rattle the doors, but I had to use the restroom,so I sat up.
It was as if I had flicked a switch..everything STOPPED. All was quiet. I lied down again, thinking maybe it was my weight..but nothing. Rudy was QUIETLY sleeping...the lighted Angel was dark..andthe rattling was silent..no vibration.
Now I will tell u about the FORTUNE cookie fortune. A few weeks ago,I noticed there was a fortune lying on my bare dresser. ???? The back has numbers, and the fortune said THREE MONTHS FROM TODAY GOOD THINGS WILL HAPPEN TO YOU. I had dated it 6/13/19. So I took it, and checked the calendar...and 9/13/19 (TOMORROW) was 3 months..I circled the day, and put the fortune in a safe place. This just happens to be one day B4 my birthday.
When my daughter came over, The same day I had the dream... I showed her the tiny piece of paper, and we made plans to play LOTTO tomorrow. She left. And I straightened up the table, but didn,t see THE TINY PAPER anywhere! I looked all over for it, but figured it was so small, I had tossed it, and went to bed. The next morning, I felt a bit sad...as I hadn,t written the numbers down and since it was Friday the 13th we should just pick some random numbers. I walked into the dining room...and was STUNNED to see the little fortune had been placed NEATLY on the table..not randomly, but carefully. I took a picture of the placement of it, plus the numbers...and that is it.
sooo what do u all think? I think it was Bob who did all those things. The dream incident can be explained...maybe the wind caused the rattling..but I went outside, and there was NO wind right then...but a draft could have caused the light to flicker, and the doors to rattle..maybe Rudy was dreaming...but there is NO WAY that fortune could have accidentally been placed in such a precise manner, when the table had been clear the night before..so that’s it..thanks for reading my very long post.
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