Bereaved Spouses

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Comment by Deb on December 24, 2019 at 6:13pm

Merry Christmas to all on here and all the best for a happy and healthy 2020. 

Love, Deb

Comment by Marsha H on December 24, 2019 at 3:54pm

A Merry Christmas to my dear family.  I wish you all peace and as much joy as possible and praying 2020 will be a much better year for all of you.  

Much Love



Comment by Chicago Beard on December 24, 2019 at 3:12pm

Just stopping by to wish my legacy family a joyous holiday season. Times like this are tough on all of us. Fortunately for me the friends Rose and I had did not abandon me and have accepted the lady I am with now. Hoping everyone can get through this time and still enjoy themselves with family and friends. 

Comment by Mary. Jane on December 24, 2019 at 11:14am

I want to echo everyone’s Christmas greetings...and say how very grateful I am for all of the wonderful people here. I am so happy we all started posting again.

Melinda, her hubby and I aren,t really doing anything today, or tomorrow..they are kind of humbug people, jaded by the bullsh*t of Christmas...they live 40 minutes from me, in the Redwood Forest, but we ARE having a family celebration on the 26th, driving 3 hours to the gold country.for 3 days..hubbys parents are getting RE-Married on their 50th anniversary, about 25 out of town guests staying at one nice hotel....but it should b fun..and YES I am bringing my KITTY..but will have to keep him in his giant covered play pen in the room that I will sneak him in..while I am not in the room..after the Kincaid fire episode, I will NOT leave him alone..

Today, I am delivering small  boxes of Sees candy to 5 of my closest neighbors, to thank them for all their help since I moved here...and on Christmas Day Melinda is coming over, and we r watching The Greatest Showman... she got me the DVD for Christmas and has never seen it.WONDERFUL MOVIE!!! 

There is a wonderful song called THIS IS ME from the movie which I have adopted as my personal anthem..about making no apologies for who you are.

So that’s it for now, kids. Wishing you all the happiest holiday every...bye for now

Comment by Steve G. on December 24, 2019 at 10:23am

"Legends say that hummingbirds float free of time, carrying our hopes for love, joy and celebration. The hummingbird's delicate grace reminds us that life is rich, beauty is everywhere, every personal connection has meaning and that laughter is life's sweetest creation".

A special wish for a merry Christmas and a wonderful New Year to all our Legacy family of very special friends.

Steve and Chuck

Comment by deborah peck on December 24, 2019 at 10:16am

I just wanted to tell everyone Merry Christmas and pray that everyone has a good day, love and hugs to all of you

Comment by Marsha H on December 21, 2019 at 6:08am

Dear Deborah P ...

You never have to apologize for the way you feel.  Christmas in itself is emotional and all that you have been through it is understandable you feel so sad.  The funeral is  sad in itself so how can you or anyone in the family expect to feel upbeat for the Christmas Holidays.  May I suggest that you just do what you said you would do; go shopping, wrap gifts and if there are little ones in the family make Christmas about them.  Keep it low key and a peaceful as possible if you can.  You and your family will support each other and all any of us can do is be thankful for the family we have left.  I am not saying not to grieve and you have every right to.  It's so wonderful you and your family are still getting together and I hope your sister will manage to come as well.

My father passed away December 14, 1973 and my brother and his wife and Ernie and I went to her home and we just made it a short and peaceful evening.  It did help heal the heart to an extent, but my father was on our minds.  We didn't even sit in HIS chair. 

Just keep coming on and posting and please let us know how you and your sister are doing.

Big hugs


Comment by Mary. Jane on December 20, 2019 at 11:39am

Oh Deb, I am so sorry you are having to go thru all of this..I didn,t have  a funeral for Bob..his wish was to be cremated then have his ashes scattered at a place near a cliff in California, on the beach at an ancient Indian shell mound. It is still on our  “to do” list, as the shell mound was purchased by the state of CA just b4 he died..(which he knew b4 he died) so we don,t know if this is possible, but one day now that I am back in CA we will attempt to do. In a way it is a blessing as it will now preserve that land from tourists and commercialism. It is an ancient site of the Olhone Indians...and I am not sure if I can climb down the cliff like Did in the past, so his remains remain safe here with me, until later.

Enough about will get thru this, and Christmas, in reality, is just a day on the calendar..when we all think we r supposed to be happy. This might surprise you, and be a somewhat nice time...with your family talking about all the good things about your brother. HE knows u r doing your best..please don,t feel guilty. 

I am not a big Bible person, but in bad times, I think of a phrase I THINK is from the Bible.and it helps me: “AND THIS, TOO, SHALL PASS”. We are here for you, my friend.

Comment by Steve G. on December 20, 2019 at 9:26am

Deborah P

Any funeral seems too long, some of the things we do as humans do seem to draw out and drag our emotions to new heights.  Life does go on and we adapt, for me my sadness goes and goes when I remember my sister, my dad, my mother, grandmother and grandfather.   I look up and I have one Aunt and Uncle left and a handful of cousins, most of whom I only see on FB.

Like you, I have my favorite Christmas movies and for a while my thoughts are lifted.  One of my most favorite of all is "Mame", there is one song  called "we need a little Christmas" always make me happy and yes I usually am wiping a few happy tears away.  Sounds silly to some, but I am a fan of any movie that has a happy ending.

You need not apologize to any of us for feeling down, give yourself some attention, watch your movies, even give yourself a present.

We are all here for you, nothing you can say will upset or offend any of us.

Take of yourself first, the rest will fall into place.

Much love and many hugs to you!


Comment by deborah peck on December 20, 2019 at 9:10am

Although my family will all be here for Christmas day I just want it all over with, Ive tried really hard to get into the Christmas spirit this year but instead just feel this overwhelming sadness, I know I am truly blessed to have family all around me when some have No one. today we lay my brother in law to rest, two weeks after the funeral. Jefferson Barricks military cemetary finally gave the go ahead, seems like it just never ends with this death, my parents and my first husband are all laid to rest at this cematary  so I will be putting pointsettas on all their graves, maybe after this is done I will feel more like celebrating, we will see . Don't mean to sound so down, its just been the longest funeral Ive ever known and now the holidays are here . So tonight I am going to do some shopping, coming home to wrap presents and watch Christmas movies which I love but seems so wrong when I know what my sis is going thru, but as we know life goes on.


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