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Bereaved Spouses

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Comment by Mary. Jane on December 31, 2019 at 11:15pm

Happy New Year everyone...and Chuck our hearts will be with you...

M.J.

Comment by Steve Cain on December 31, 2019 at 11:59am

Steve,

Wow, not a fun way to start the year, surgery on just the 2nd day of the year! I know the feeling to some extent as my wife will be facing intestinal surgery sometime in February, after having just had hernia surgery August 30. 

Best wishes for a speedy recovery with as little pain as possible. Keep us informed how everything is going when you feel up to it.

Comment by Sara Murphy on December 31, 2019 at 11:39am
Steve.....I'm trying to catch up on my reading as I fell behind trying to deal with the holiday's and I see you're having surgery on Thursday. Sending my positive thoughts your way and will be praying for a speedy recovery. Chuck, I'll also be thinking of you on Thursday.
Happy New Year to everyone!
Love, Sara
Comment by Diane C on December 26, 2019 at 11:24am
Belated Merry Christmas to all my Legacy family and friends!! Started a new tradition this year. Rich and I have always hosted the holidays for our family. It's been 7 years since Rich's passing, and I still continued the tradition. Lost my Dad in 2014 and now my Mom in 2019. Just didn't have it in me this year. So when Katie (my daughter) suggested I come to her house this year and celebrate Christmas Eve with her boyfriend's family I accepted. It was so nice and I really enjoyed not having to go through the motions I have for the past 7 years. Then Katie came home with me and spent the night so we had our own little Christmas at my house Christmas morning and then she baked some cookies. It was very nice. I completely understand how everyone feels here. But so very thankful that we have this wonderful site to visit!!

I wish everyone a very Happy, Healthy New Year!!

Hugs!! ♥♥♥
Comment by Mary. Jane on December 25, 2019 at 11:43am

The first time I came to Legacy..I thought the story of how you two met was SPECTACULAR!!  Like a love story for the ages! I am serious. Something in the stars, that was MEANT to be! I believe You were meant to be together, and if this had been a different time, with no internet, you STILL somehow would have found each other. Your meeting is something that only a higher power could have created.. after all the pain each of your endured with loosing your partners, the odds must have been STAGGERING..and yet, you DID find each other...and I don,t think it was chance...there is so much we don,t, nor are we meant to...I also think, in the moments each person dies, we get the answers to all the questions we ever had..but are not allowed to remember them. I believe in past lives...and each of us spends eternity with people we loved in different times, or places. You and Chuck are truly blessed. 

Comment by Michele on December 25, 2019 at 11:43am

I haven't posted in awhile.  Simply here with a broken heart and a wish for a peaceful Christmas and New Year to all.  

Comment by Steve G. on December 25, 2019 at 11:06am

I guess it is at this time of the year we find ourselves pondering about where our life has taken us from childhood to today while wondering what the future may or may not bring.
There are lots of points in my life that were good and some not so good, the one day that still stands out the most is November 30, 2014. On this fateful date I would lose the love of my life. We knew that this day would come for each of us, but not now - maybe tomorrow or sometime in the future.
This was not to be. I could not begin to explain the depth of loneliness nor the sheer shock of what was happening in my life. Like most folks I saw my future as bleak and full of sorrow and sadness, for my life was over, my reason for being had lost its luster.
It is at just such times that we lose ourselves in grief and anger, and yet we continue to go through the motions of each day’s tasks, not caring for any tomorrows and feeling so hurt inside knowing that everyone around you did not understand, most feeling helpless not knowing what to say.
I found this site online a few months after Mark’s passing. I joined and then waited for the email to let me become a member. It came the next day and I spent several hours trying to write my first post and then I sat there, tears streaming down my face, afraid to hit the comment button. Once I did I closed my laptop and cried myself to sleep. The next morning, my phone started dinging with alerts from Legacy, so I opened one up and began to read the responses. Each one began to lead me out of my darkness - suddenly I was not alone and not just drifting into each day.
Little did I know that this site would bring together two people who were so opposite and yet feeling as if we were long lost friends at the same time. “Crazy” is what I thought - too soon to burden myself with actual feelings for a total stranger and yet could it be right, no it did not feel right. At first my thought was to lay low and not comment on his posts until one day a very dear friend on this site commented “there is another gay person on this site, should he want to make himself known". I was struck with laughter and suddenly embarrassed that I was just reading his posts and not commenting. So, I took the leap and replied to his latest post. I was careful with what I said - in fact I do not remember what I posted. His response to me was quite a surprise, his writing and expression of words knocked me down. I was more intrigued than ever. I checked each day to see what he said, and that, dear friends, is how we found each other. I do not believe in chance or luck, so there was something bigger working to cause our paths to cross and to become the same path.
I call it a miracle, that two strangers could find each other that needed each other to lean on, to help each other and most of all to understand each other with acceptance and love. Our journey together continues, each day we both face challenges from our pasts and each day we support each other with trust, understanding and knowing that all the while, the human heart can be broken, but also the human heart has room for more love than one can imagine.
I still miss Mark and Chuck still misses Larry, we both agree that they had a hand in our finding each other and that in of itself is a wonderful feeling.
Life continues for each one of us - we all have challenges and we all manage to greet each new day given to us with the understanding that this life is just a temporary moment in time. Wishing one and all a better New Year and a very peaceful Christmas Day.

Comment by Sara Murphy on December 25, 2019 at 9:46am

Thinking of my Legacy family and wishing you all a peaceful Christmas and healthy New Year.

Chicago....so happy you found love again.  Same for Chuck and Steve.  You all give me the inspiration that I can hope to maybe find love again someday and not feel guilty about it.

Love to you all,

Sara 

Comment by Chicago Beard on December 25, 2019 at 12:51am

Mary Jane. you are so right, I have been blessed. Twice blessed. Something I wish for everyone here! Thank you!

Comment by Mary. Jane on December 25, 2019 at 12:47am

Chicago..now you know your TRUE friends...they care enough about you to accept who YOU care about too. Rose will always be in your heart...but life goes on..and it is wonderful you found s new love. If I were to meet someone, I cared for, why not?  Just because we lost someone we cared for deeply, doesn,t mean we have to die when they do..I figure this new person was “meant to be”  and you still have many years left. Don,t feel guilty..you,ve been blessed! You were put here to live your best life...So rejoice, and enjoy your holidays.   

 

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