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Comment by Mary. Jane on January 19, 2020 at 8:53pm

Ummm, you had the meltdown cuz it was his birthday! Or because you NEEDED one!  We tend to keep a lot bottled inside, until one day we just explode. It is AWESOME he sent you a feather yesterday. 

I have to tell you..I do not now, nor have I EVER understood why families desert their gay children, or other kin. What difference does it make? How can families just DO that?  (I won,t get started as it makes me very angry.). I am so very sorry. 

Bob had a brother who was gay..and he was NEVER EVER shunned, actually, as soon as he officially came was GREAT, cuz Bobs family got to stop speculating and wondering. I would like to think there are a lot of families who welcome their gay loved ones. 

Comment by Steve G. on January 19, 2020 at 3:27pm

Wow, today snuck up on me and I got angry and sad all of the roller coaster emotions we succumb to on our grief journey.  Yesterday I found a feather at the front door, just like the first one I found.  Today was Mark's 56th birthday, why today of all days would I have an emotional meltdown?  The more I thought the anger built up inside of me.  I wanted everyone to know my pain and hurt, I could not stop it, so out it came.  I found myself wondering does anyone in his family really care, after the way he was tossed aside because he was gay.  

I calmed down finally and now I feel tired, but also better.  I tend to keep my emotions pinned up; you'd think by now I should know not to...anyway, just needed to vent to those who understand and who really care.

Thank you dear family


Comment by Marsha H on January 14, 2020 at 6:45am

Dear Diane C ...  Thank you so much my friend.  We have set a date for Feb. 8th and hopefully the snow will have pooped itself out.  It's pretty here with the snow, but what a mess!  Lots of ice.  I had 3 inches of ice on the top of my car!  Thankfully one of my girlfriend's husbands came and got the ice and snow off the driveway and city walkway.  I am blessed.  Just have cabin fever!  LOL

Love ya more


Comment by Marsha H on January 14, 2020 at 6:43am

Dear Sara ...  Thank you so much and we have set a date for Feb. 8th when the snow stops.  Right now we have about 5 - 6 inches of snow and some ice and it's sure slippery out there.  I'm getting cabin fever!  LOL

I appreciate your kind wishes as I know you've been having a rough go of it.  Hang in there my friend as it does get better.



Comment by Diane C on January 13, 2020 at 11:25am
Happy Belated Birthday Marsha.... I hope you get out soon with the girls and have a fun time celebrating another year!!

Love ya!!
Comment by Sara Murphy on January 13, 2020 at 11:22am
Marsha....Belated Happy Birthday! I hope you were able to go out with your girlfriends and have a couple laughs.
Comment by Marsha H on January 12, 2020 at 5:44pm

My dear brother Steve G ...

You are so sweet and the best present I could get it that you make a speedy recovery.  Be a good boy and listen to Chuck.  LOL 

It snowed all night here and have to agree it is so peaceful and muffles the noises that are generally around.  It's been raining so it's pretty slippery out there right now and just staying in and tonight put the fireplace on and cuddle up with the dogs.  Can't get better than that.  We are in for more snow, but we take it as it comes.

I pray always for the both of you and so happy to hear your appetite is much better and you are healing well.  The worst is over my friend.  I think of both you all the time.

Hugs, Your Sister


Comment by Marsha H on January 12, 2020 at 5:40pm

Dear Deb ...  Thank you so much.  I've had so many cancellations for one thing or another so I was having a bit of a pity party all by myself, but it turned out to be a super evening and I feel blessed. 



Comment by Steve G. on January 12, 2020 at 10:41am


What a wonderful belated birthday!

By the way, Happy Birthday (belated), hugs and best wishes for a better new year.

We had tornado warnings Friday night, and then a cold front Saturday morning with snow flurries for about an peaceful to watch and calming!  Texas weather is so unpredictable.

I am resting and being good, my appetite has returned, each day I am healing.

Your brother


Comment by deborah peck on January 12, 2020 at 9:52am

Dear Marsha, I am so glad your evening went well after all, I think the point of a dinner is just to spend time with family or friends anyway and it sounds like it all worked out in the long run for you, love Deb


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