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A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.
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This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.
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Mary Jane; its great that memories which make you smile are back!
Hello everyone. Today is TUESDAY .Feb 23 2021.
Five years ago on this exact date, it was ALSO a Tuesday...when,@ 1:51 PM, my beloved Bob, gave up his fight, with Brain cancer, and died.It was wonderful he was HOME, with myself, and our kitty Rudy. Rudy is 12 years old now..That night, Rudy hoped up on our bed, (Bob was in a hospital bed. ) and, has slept there ever since. This year has been harder, as my long forgotten memories have returned. Yes, I am healing, I can remember everything now...peoples names, thing we did together ..I KNEW these memories would return, and they make me smile. We had 48 years, and 8 months.,and I will always love you, Bob. Always.
has anyone on here gotten the covid vaccine and what are your thoughts on it? I get my 1st one tomorrow so am curious
I am finally reading the piece you shared about life being like a train ride. I too find it to be a very pleasant way to view our time here. I also thank you, and all of my Legacy family, for being on my train, or rather for saving me a seat on yours. I am especially sensitive to the imagery and message put forth in this piece because of something that triggered a series of events this past week.
It started with an inquiry from a cousin about a cemetery in Stephentown, NY where most of my mother's family are buried going back several generations. Her brother has expressed a desire to be buried there and she was asking if I had contact information for the nearby funeral home so he could inquire about pre-arrangements. He has battled schizophrenia his entire adult life and has lived in group homes or institutions. He has been alone and I believe very lonely, finding comfort in his Catholic faith and contact with family. I said I would look for the paperwork from my brother's burial there in 2009. I didn't find contact information, but did find the folder in which I had all the printed email exchanges we had over the last 7 months of his life before passing from liver cancer. The last one was just before July 4th weekend, and he had planned to drive to visit Larry and I that weekend if he was feeling well enough, saying he wanted to get away from his apartment and all things associated with his hospitalizations and illness. That visit never happened. He stepped off the train without my knowing until his friend called to tell me July 2nd.
I've been in kind of a state since finding this folder, and somehow the arrival of Valentine's Day has gotten all mixed up with thoughts of graves and funerals, lost opportunities to say goodbye, and reminders that this year there will be thousands of spouses and families who have lost someone to the pandemic and will be in such pain this weekend.
So, like Deborah, I will be in my craft room/studio when I'm not watching some weepy movie of napping. Steve has been so thoughtful and supportive, giving me space to go off and be "crazy Chuck" for awhile while he reads and follows his own footsteps down the path of memories and grieving. It's surprisingly very cold here, and keeping warm and isolated indoors with little outside contact we can almost imagine we are on our own little planet where there's no disease, no cruelty, no hatred...then I switch channels to the news. *sigh*
Everybody be warm, stay safe, and I pray that the weekend is for you peaceful, bearable, and most of all lets the train carry you along with the comfort of the fact that the seat beside you isn't really empty - it just looks that way.
Love to you all and a big hug from both Steve and I
Deborah ... I'm doing much the same as you are. This may sound crazy, but I do have Ernie's ashes here and every special holiday I get him a card. I find Valentine's Day the most difficult seeing men and women buying cards or gifts for their spouses. It doesn't hurt as bad as it use to. Just getting Ernie that card makes me feel a little better. Whatever it takes! I'm putting the fireplace on and cuddling up with my two little dogs and may eat myself sick on sweets. LOL It's frigid weather here too with a wind chill factor and way to cold to go anywhere.
Hope you and your daughter have a fun time.
what is everyone doing for Valentines day? I am working in my craft room, my favorite thig to do and just pretending its any other day. My daughter asked me to go to dinner but with this covid thing I don't like to eat out, maybe delivery would be good, hope you all have a good weekend, supposed to have frigid temps here so staying inside
Sara, love your post
Sara ... That was beautiful! Thank you for sharing.
I saw this post on Facebook today and think it's a beautiful way of looking at our life's journey. Thank you all for being on my train. Although I may not be able to see you, I know you're there
Hi Sara ... So nice to hear from you and I know some people are busy.
Sorry to hear you've had snowstorms. It's going to be -12 C here in lower mainland British Columbia as an Arctic front has come in and of course threats of snow. Right now making the best of it and bundling up the dogs and going for walks; meeting some great people and being outside at least you can have a conversation.
Working from home can be great, but I think most employees miss seeing most of the coworkers so I happy to hear you nip in every so often. I don't think most people enjoyed the Christmas holidays that much and I admit it was a strange one for me. I was able to go to my brother's house and have Christmas dinner there and felt blessed I had that. I didn't have my usual pre-Christmas buffet because of Covid and of course restricted to no more that 7 people in 'you bubble.' Even after 11 years years coming up of Ernie's passing I still miss him and have to admit no holiday is a good one without him. I just try to make the best of it. Like you I can hardly wait until the spring comes and love gardening and of course meet friends at parks or sometimes if there are just 2 - 4 of us we have a BBQ's or a visit. Much more freedom during the summer if you want to call it that.
Everyone wants this Covid to go away, but with the virus from Africa and the up and down stats on cases of Covid and deaths it looks like summer will be just as restricted as last year. Some people same, 'this is the new normal' and it makes me want to tear their lips off! I go grocery shopping and some other things I need I order online.
I'm doing fairly well. I get to see my next door neighbor and my sister-in-law visits me every 2nd Saturday (sees her sister the other Saturdays) and for that I feel blessed. Also get lots of phone calls or emails. I am remodeling a couple of rooms in my house and that keeps me busy and of course the dog walks help. I am retired so it's difficult to be home so much. They had to shut-down the adoption center for dogs that I volunteer at and I really miss that.
I too hope everyone here is healthy and staying that way.
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