Grief support groups, condolence advice, funeral etiquette and more
A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.
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This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.
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Hi All...….checking in to see how everyone is doing. I'm doing ok, trying to remain covid free which isn't easy.
My mother has been in and out of the hospital the past few weeks which keeps my siblings and I a little extra busy. She's currently in again and will be there at least a few more days. She's allowed 1 visitor/day for 2 hours so at least we get to see her. The challenging part for me is that she's at MGH in Boston which was like a second home to me and the place where Ken died. I was hoping to never have to step foot in that building again but now I have to suck it up and walk past all the memories. It's been 5 years since I was last there but feels like yesterday as nothing's changed.
That's all that's going on here. Hope you're all doing well.
A friend and coworker of mine just passed away from covid, she leaves behind a 19, 18, and 8 year old with nor parents as her husband passed away when the baby was 6 months old. such a terrible story and it did indeed make me realize we all have a responsibility to everyone else to help protect everyone else. so I will be getting the shot when its available again. I figure I am now 65 so if there are effects in the long run on my health well I will be old anyway. that being said I do believe you have to do what you feel is right and not listen to anyone else opinion.
just a foot note to what Chuck said...
My arthritis doctor's office sent me a bulletin update about different medications and those that could potentially enter act with the vaccine badly...
Long story short, he has all my medications on file, I sent an email through his portal asking this very question, his response was quick and to the point. The day I get my shot(s); withhold my methotrexate for one week post the vaccination.
So wish is that everyone that decides to take the vaccine, please, please reach out to your doctors...they know more about drug interactions than any of us could research on our own.
Hugs and love to one and all.
Thank you for your kind words and for thinking of us - it was indeed an ordeal here in Texas, and as Steve said we were very lucky in that we only lost power for two brief periods the first night. I was still awake, and with the dire weather forecast and warnings of rolling or permanent power outages I was very anxious that night. The next morning we had power, but learned of the extensive outages and water failures throughout all of Texas. We were fortunate to be able to invite friends to ride it out here. Steve and I had to make a decision - masking indoors for the four of us seemed almost pointless, so we decided we'd leave ourselves in God's hands, as we had both been doing individually and together in so many decisions we faced since losing Larry and Mark.
Steve has already explained our status waiting for appointments to get vaccinated, so I will just say this. It is indeed every person's personal choice whether to get vaccinated against this deadly virus, whatever reasons one has for deciding either way. I do believe however that our decisions go far beyond our own well being and the risk to our own lives we may be taking. How would any of us feel if we became infected after exposure and then infected someone else - or many other people. Perhaps we wouldn't become ill at all, or would only have mild symptoms and a quick recovery. Would that be sufficient consolation for knowing that the lady in the store whose identity we would never know ended up in the hospital and finally left her husband grieving and searching out this very group for support and understanding? To how many people might we bring illness and pain? Don't we all know enough about loss and grief to want to do anything we possibly can to spare other's from having to share our sad experience unnecessarily?
My point is simple - our decision isn't just about us - and just like the moment when Steve and I agreed that taking in our friends in an emergency was more important than our fear of the virus, so too is our desire to think of the health and lives of others in making our decision to vaccinate, and leave ourselves once more in God's hands regarding the outcome.
I send a hug and my love to everyone here, along with my sincere hope that you all stay well and find peace and maybe even a little joy in your days every now and then.
HI All......First I want to say I'm glad Chuck and Steve are safe. I was thinking about you both quite a bit. I can't believe what I was seeing on the news.
As far as the vaccine, I'll be in the very last phase so it'll still be a couple months before I'm even eligible. I work from home so I'm fine with it. My mother got her first shot and was fine afterwards. She gets her second shot next week so we shall see. My opinion on the vaccine is that it's really meant to avoid severe illness and death so a couple days of side effects is a small price to pay to stay out of the hospital off ventilators and to live. That being said, I do think about long term effects as there's no data on that yet and won't be for some time. I will however get the shot when I become eligible As it's been said, it's a personal decision where existing health issues/medications do have to be considered.
Sending my love to you all
Deborah P ... I know just how you feel. Very frustrating. I'm sorry that I wasn't on board as of yet for the vaccine, but I just wanted to be honest on what news we are getting in Canada re the Covid vaccines and what some doctors and scientists have said. Many have yet to receive their shots and mask up; sanitize well and so far so good.
Don't let anyone pressure or make you feel guilty ias to what you want to do as it's your body. Here is Canada we have 'our bubble' and so far no one has gotten ill. Wait a bit more and keep on top of the news re the vaccine and then if you feel right about it please get the shot. I certainly can see people with compromized immune systems getting the shot and they should.
Canada was not hit as hard because Health Canada was right on it with the masks and sanitizing from day 1. I know the U.S. was hit very hard and I keep my thumb on that as well. Let's say I pray a lot from the family on here and whatever choice they make I back 100%.
Chuck and I got an update on our reservations for our first shot yesterday from the county web site. Looks like with the additional new shipments the rest of us (some 450,000) will get treated sometime in March... good news for us. We want to get vaccinated not only for our own protection, but from the latest news, we will help in protection of others. Especially those in the medical field which we still have to see for follow up visits, blood work, etc...
Still it is very personal and we get it...I view it as necessary as wearing a mask, especially here in the US where we are hearing more and more about the variants and high loss to those that lost their battle with the virus.
Even the most conservative parts of my family are onboard getting the vaccine...they all want to be able to protect themselves and their families.
Certainly a wide controversy on do or don't the vaccine, all of my siblings have had at least the first one, my brother had both, he was in bed all weekend but still considers it worth it, my daughter who is a nurse says not to get it yet, too new for safety , so its definitely a personal choice , just interesting to hear the different views, thank you all for your input, have a great week
I am sorry I haven't put the website on here as promised, but unfortunately, the Physcians and Surgeons website took it off. MMMM???? I managed to get this one for you to explain things a little more and it all boils down to the fact these vaccines came way to fast without testing on humans longer. REMEMBER, WE ARE ALL DIFFERENT AND SOME MAY DO WELL ON IT AND OTHERS NOT.
Also, be prepared if you decide to get it to have someone else with you for a day or so and don't go to work for a day or so according to doctors who insist on people taking the vaccine. Side effects that are common is headaches; extremely tired and aches and pains. The first shot doesn't appear to have these symptoms according to doctors, but the second one certainly does and what does our Health Canada say about that ... mainly suck it up! Nice!
Again I stress that if you don't feel right about it at the moment take your time to decide. Many people in Canada are waiting to see. I have had 3 friends who have had their 2 shots and 2 of them couldn't get out of bed for 2 days as they were so drained and tired with a headache, yet my other friend was fine. What some doctors don't realize is each individual is different and also don't take into consideration medications that person may be on or what type of illness they may have. Some doctors are very wary of who to give the vaccine too.
I'm not trying to scare anyone, but this is what is reported here in Canada and some of the U.S.
You will know when the time is right. For those like Steve and Chuck I'm happy they have had their shot and doing well.
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