Bereaved Spouses

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Comment by Sara Murphy on January 14, 2022 at 8:35pm

Thanks everyone.  Jan 13th will always be a day which marks the passage of time.  On the 1 yr anniversary I took the day off from work and vowed I would take every Jan 13th off to reflect and honor Ken.  I did take the day off the 2nd year as well but by the 3rd year, I decided I needed to treat the day like any other.  I miss him on the 12th and 14th (and every other day) as much as the 13th so it's best if I work and make the day as "normal" as possible.  It also happens to be a busy time at work so it's not good for me to take a day.  That's what I did and then made one of Ken's favorite meals for dinner. 

Todd....Claudia was beautiful.  You're a lucky man to have her watching over you.  I'll be thinking about you on Feb 14.

Mary can attach your pic by clicking either the image or file icon.  Look forward to seeing it.

Sending hugs your way


Comment by Mary. Jane on January 14, 2022 at 12:52am

Ok I have a picture, I just have to figure out how to post it here.

Comment by Mary. Jane on January 13, 2022 at 8:58pm

I am going to ask my daughter,if she has any pictures of Bob and I as a couple. I didn,t have a digital camera or cell phone until after he died..and all our pictures are still packed away. I just haven’t had the mental strength to,open any of those boxes yet..but I MUST have some, maybe on a disc...I will start a search. 

Comment by Mary. Jane on January 13, 2022 at 8:53pm

What the hell happened in Feb 2016? This is REALLY strange! 

Comment by Todd B. Goodrich on January 13, 2022 at 4:51pm

Dear Sara & Mary. Jane,

I am right there with you. This upcoming Valentine's Day will also be the sixth year anniversary of Claudia's passing. Holy cow! 

My prayers and love to you both! Hugs as well :-)

We are here for you both!



P.S. Awesome picture! 

Here is one of my favorites.... 

Comment by Charles E. Nelson on January 13, 2022 at 3:14pm

Dear Sara,

As today brings to you afresh the memories of your life with your beloved Ken, and time plays its bizarre tricks of making the past present, I know Ken is staying close and loving you as he always will. He'll see you through today, and tomorrow, and all the days until you are reunited. 

Peace to you dear friend - 

Love, Chuck

Comment by Mary. Jane on January 12, 2022 at 7:20pm

Ohhh Sara,,what a lovely picture of you two! Thanks for sharing it! 

Ironically, Bob has been gone for 6 years, also, next month. 

Comment by Sara Murphy on January 12, 2022 at 7:05pm

Hi Mary Jane….Glad you're doing well.  I actually don't lose stuff often, but I have heard that happening.  The few times I have misplaced something these past few years, I have asked Ken for help.  I eventually do find it although not in a place I've already looked.  He promised he would watch over me and he always comes through.  I usually ask for help when a situation beyond my ability comes up and he sends just the right person my way. 

Comment by Sara Murphy on January 12, 2022 at 6:56pm

Hi Chuck and Steve...I'm so sorry to hear you've both been sick.  I hope you're feeling much better now.  I understand your friend being tired of Covid….we all are....but you're right to say Covid is not done with us.  It's about finding the right balance of living life and keeping ourselves and our family safe.  Maybe after some time passes, your friend will come around.  Be well my friends.

Love, Sara

Comment by Sara Murphy on January 12, 2022 at 6:52pm

Tomorrow is the 6 yr anniversary of Ken's death.  I can't even believe 6 yrs have passed.  It seems like just yesterday and an eternity all at once.  Here's a pic from our happy place....the White Mountains in New Hampshire


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