Bereaved Spouses

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Comment by Steve G. on February 17, 2022 at 4:46pm

Great to hear from everyone!  8 years have passed since Mark's passing, and I must add that on some days it seems like yesterday.  Those times have subsided, but it does not change or lesson the loss.  Time does help heal but it does not ever loose it's sting of that loss.  We move forward at a different pace than before and different to anyone else that has suffered a loss.  That is the thread that binds us all on this site, we all have a go to place when the sting hurts and take the time to share where they are and what they are feeling.  So grateful for each and every one of you.  I shudder to think what these last years would have been like had I not found you all.

Thank you and hugs to all.

Steve G.

Comment by Todd B. Goodrich on February 17, 2022 at 1:15pm

Big hugs for you Trina!


Comment by Trina Mamoon on February 16, 2022 at 3:54pm

Mary Jane, Charles, Sara, Todd, Marsha, and Steve and Everybody Else Who is reading This,

I wish you well and hope that Valentine's Day was not too sad for you. It was a hard day for me, but after reading the encouraging posts here, I found the courage to make it through the day without too many tears. Heeding Charles' advice, I shifted my focus to the good memories I shared with the love of my life Joseph.

Mary Jane, I couldn't agree with you more in what you say about feeling blessed for having known a great love. So many people have bad marriages and they feel resentment and anger towards their spouse/partner. But people on this site, we were the fortunate few, the blessed who had received the gift of true love. And this thought alone brings me comfort and a feeling of gratitude. Joseph and I only had 19 years together, but the memories from those 19 years are enough to see me through the rest of my life.

Mary Jane, you made me laugh by saying life isn't full of rainbows, kittens, hearts and flowers. LOL! Indeed, it is not! While Joseph and I were in love until the day he died, we had our fair share of disagreements and fights. We came from different countries, cultures, religions, and races, so it is no surprise that we sometimes had disagreements. But our love for each other was strong, and it endured through the bumpy days and differences in opinion over certain things. 

It was seven years ago last August that my old, happy life ended and that I started on my new, tough journey of life without Joseph at my side. But I am forever grateful for having had him in my life and for having known true love.

Sending you all much love and wishing you strength and courage as you face each new day and go through it with courage and kindness even when missing your beloved spouse. 

Comment by Mary. Jane on February 15, 2022 at 11:05pm

LOL, I HAVE to add..anyone reading my last post might think our 49 years together were full of rainbows, kittens, hearts & but life isn,t like that. Of COURSE we disagreed on a lot, it would have been boring!  Did we have arguments? Of course we did! U live,with someone that long, there are going to be a few weeds on the primrose lane..but that is life! I can honestly say, even if we were angry, it NEVER lasted until the next day. It would usually feel like a stupid argument, and we would laugh, and make up. Ironicly all these memories are flooding back to me, after 6 years of blocking everything out..and the are GOOD and make me smile. 

Comment by Mary. Jane on February 15, 2022 at 10:57pm

To everyone..I hope Valentines wasn,t too stressful for you. I wish you all good days, and wonderful, loving memories. 

I was talking to a few folks in the senior park I live in...and there are SOOO many people here, who had bad marriages, and divorces..they are angry. Yes, we may have lost our loved ones..but we were blessed to have had such love. I know I was, and even tho Bob isn,t here on THIS plain, I feel soo fortunate to have had the love I DID! This  soothes me, and diminishes alot of anger and pain of loss I might experience. 

My memories make me smile, and give me comfort...I hope your do, too.

Comment by Todd B. Goodrich on February 15, 2022 at 10:28am

Hi Sara.

Thank you so much! We both are at that six year mark, but sometimes it feels like only last year. I had a peaceful yet somber day, but blessed to have another day at all! Hugs and well wishes to you dear lady!


Comment by Sara Murphy on February 14, 2022 at 8:20pm

Hi Todd.....I've been thinking about you today.  I hope you were able to have a somewhat peaceful day remembering all the beautiful times you and Claudia shared.  Take care my friend.

Love, Sara

Comment by Todd B. Goodrich on February 14, 2022 at 1:23pm

Dear Chuck.

Thank you so much my brother! It's always tough. And having wonderful friends like you, sure makes it more accepting and comforting! Praises to all you angels here! Love ya,


Comment by Charles E. Nelson on February 14, 2022 at 12:37pm

Wishing everyone a calm peaceful Valentine's Day - this can be a rough day for us all here. Here's hoping we all can focus on pleasant memories of ways we expressed of love for our spouses and they for us.

Love, Chuck 

Comment by Charles E. Nelson on February 14, 2022 at 12:34pm

Dear Todd,

Thinking of you today and hoping you have a day of peaceful reflection.

Love, Chuck


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