Bereaved Spouses

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Comment by Charles E. Nelson on June 1, 2022 at 7:49pm

Dear Chicago Beard,

I have some life-long friends with whom I keep in touch, although sometimes literally years pass between conversations. When we do touch base, we always say the time doesn't matter, because we pick up where we left off. 

Seeing your name attached to a post on Legacy in my inbox gives me the same feeling - that it's always good to hear from an old friend. I can't add anything better than what Steve and Trina said, so I only add that I'm glad you shared here with us and wish you peace on this important day in your life. No matter the time elapsed, nor the reasons, seeing any of my Legacy family here is always a special reminder of what brought us together in the first place, and how our love and support for each other has no expiration date, just as is true of our love for and longing for our lost loves. 

Love to you Chicago, and to all of you reading this -


Comment by Trina Mamoon on June 1, 2022 at 4:55pm

Dear Chicago Beard,

Reading your post about what would have been your 42nd anniversary brought tears to my eyes. Steve put it eloquently that our departed loved one will forever remain in our hearts until our time comes to leave this planet.

Your consolation, if there ever can be one, is that you experienced a great love that very few are fortunate to have known. So no matter how much time passes since your beloved wife left this world, she will remain in your heart and be a part of you.

Sending you good thoughts as you contemplate on your anniversary and may the good memories bring you some amount of peace.

Best regards, Trina

Comment by Steve G. on June 1, 2022 at 3:34pm

Hey there Chicago Beard,

I am constantly surprised how certain dates will forever be with us and the impact they had on our lives while our loved ones were still with us and how sad we are now to lookback and remember the happy times and not so happy times.  For me the sadness is remembering that they are gone (but not forgotten) the tears are there because we loved them so and were an integral part of our very souls.  I think it is good to remember and think on these dates, not so much for healing, but a reminder that they will be with us until our time to leave this world has come.  They are our angels always looking after us.

Great to hear from you!


Comment by Chicago Beard on June 1, 2022 at 3:14pm

Hi everyone! I know I do not post much.

Today would have been our 42nd anniversary. It just hit me at the gym and I started crying while working out. No one noticed but that would not matter to me anyway. Hope everyone has a great day.

Comment by Charles E. Nelson on April 28, 2022 at 10:01am

Hi Marsha,

I just want to add my wishes that you continue finding ways to keep busy, and that I completely agree that you never forget the day you lose your spouse. For me it was April 22nd, at 7:00 pm. This was the 7th anniversary for me, and there is so much going on with Steve and myself that the only feelings I had were repeatedly pausing in my mind to ask Larry to watch over us and keep me strong and stable through everything. I will write more later about all this, but for now just know that I send big hugs and as always much love


Comment by Marsha H on April 28, 2022 at 5:53am

Hi DJ ...  Thanks so much for remembering.  Can't believe it's been 11 years since Ernie passed away.  Yes, I cried my eyes out as if it was the first year he passed away, but then slapped myself silly and got busy and then took the dogs for a walk and kept busy once home.  I heard on the TV that the first thing you forget about your spouse is their voice and I find that true, but one thing we never forget is the day they passed away.

I hope you are doing well my friend and enjoying life and staying healthy.

Love & Hugs


Comment by DJ on April 27, 2022 at 3:40pm

Marsha, 11 years now?

Comment by Steve G. on April 10, 2022 at 5:34pm

Thank you Trina,

I saw this on FB and felt I should share; it is spot on for all of us.  Just wish those that are family and friends understood this.

Good to hear from you always,



Comment by Trina Mamoon on April 10, 2022 at 5:20pm

Dear Steve,

Your post about the nature of grief is so very apt! It is stated simply, but it is so very true. There is no closure to grief; you just deal with the loss as best as you can for the rest of your life.

Hope you and Charles are doing well.

Take care. Hugs, Trina

Comment by Steve G. on April 8, 2022 at 10:03am


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