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Comment by Mary. Jane on December 24, 2022 at 5:20pm

Thanks! missed everyone here., Yes, I see a doctor once a month for pain California, ONLY a pain specilaist can prescribe optiods, and only a certain amout and strength.. I see him again on the 27th. Last month I told him these meds really aren't doing much, and he prescribed a pain patch wear one patch for a week..AND he said it was OK to wear in conjuction with me MEDS? Noo way.i did not do that.He's a new guy..but the HORRIBLE thing..I had a very scary and weird reaction to the was HORRIBLE!  for 4 hour i wore it..and I was SOOOO stoned! but it was a scary stone, couldn't walk straight, felt SUPER fuzzy, and complletly dosoriented and DRUNK!  i had NEVER felt like that.from a mediaction. Yes, I googled it, and many folks daid that had happened to them. .ICKY! (and I servived the late 60's) so I ripped it off, and threw the other patches in the garbage

The SAD thing.2 years ago, i recieved an INJECTION, done in their office. in my was an IV, and it was awesome. It lasted for a few MONTHS! .But California Dr.s are NOW under a corporation..PROVIDENCE..Soo, I had to go to the hospital, line up on a guerny with maybe 20 other patients, having the same procedure,,and it didn't work AT ALL! Soo, this is my life now. The BEST adice EVER was from a Dr in 2006 who said "Keep Moving" He was correct...nothing works if u sit all day..soo this is my life now. Thanks for your kind responses..its good to be back. MERRY CHRISTMAS everyone! 

Comment by Marsha H on December 24, 2022 at 4:37pm


Love all of you.



Comment by Marsha H on December 24, 2022 at 4:36pm

Chicago Beard ...

Congratulations and I'm so happy on your engagement.  It's about time!  LOL  I know you'll never forget your Rose, but know we have to make a future of our own now.  

Have a wonderful Christmas and the best in the New Year.


Marsha (give that lucky lady a hug from me too.)

Comment by Marsha H on December 24, 2022 at 4:34pm

Mary Jane ...

Don't panic!  Seriously, with the horrific weather we've been having here and making it difficult to travel and whether my brother will be picking me up for Christmas or not and other issues I'm going through right now I can have 'no recall' memory wise at times.  Our brain gets over-loaded.  Also, could be the medications you are on.  As far as loss of height you are NOT to young to have that happen.  I have lost an inch.  I use to be 5' 6" tall and now 5' 5" tall.  Don't worry about it.  All my girlfriends over the age of 60 have lost height in different variations.  

You're OK, but phone or see your doctor just so your mind is at rest.  

Have a wonderful Christmas my friend.

Love & Hugs


Comment by Chicago Beard on December 24, 2022 at 4:13pm

Mary Jane, so sorry to hear about your memory issues and loss of height. Check with your doctor sooner than later please. Have fun at your daughter-in-law's.

Comment by Mary. Jane on December 24, 2022 at 3:55pm

Ok, this isn’t very good news..something I NEVER expected to happen this soon, or at all..and, to me, it is TERRIFYING. I don,t have any instant recall Yes, it doesn’t SOUND scary..but it IS. Eventually, I CAN recall stuff..but it takes awhile to “click through the mental files” and remember..but this has never happened to me before. Hopefully it could be the MEDS I am on, I surely hope so, and will check with my doctor..I have also lost 2 inches off my height, making me 4’ 7”. I am only 76…too soon for this to happen.

I wish all of you a WONDERFUL holiday..we are driving to my daughters in laws celebrate the holidays..I wish everyone Joy and Happiness in the New Year. 

Comment by Mary. Jane on December 24, 2022 at 3:31pm

Ohh, thanks for the wishes..and Happy Holidays, and JOY  to everyone here. 

Comment by Mary. Jane on December 24, 2022 at 3:30pm

That is WONDERFUL! I wish you both happiness and joy!

Comment by Steve G. on December 24, 2022 at 2:34pm

Congratulations Chicago Beard!

Happy Holidays to one and all of our legacy family

Steve G

Comment by Charles E. Nelson on December 24, 2022 at 12:20pm

Hello Chicago Beard! How nice to hear from you and that you are engaged - congratulations. 

I also want to express my wishes for everyone that you all have happy holidays - may we remember and be remembered, may we feed others and be fed, may we provide shelter and be sheltered, and mostly may we love and be loved.

Happy New Year to all, and stay well and safe.

Love, Chuck and Steve


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