Bereaved Spouses

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Comment by BoLynn on May 27, 2010 at 11:44pm
A cry baby zombie, that's a good description of me.
Comment by judy on May 27, 2010 at 11:39pm
After reading my comment back I also noticed I can't spell.
Comment by judy on May 27, 2010 at 11:35pm
My birain is not functioning well either. I went all over the house yesterday looking for the car keys I was clutching in my hand. I have to really concentrate on paying bills and doing other routine tasks. Also every thing takes tremendous effort. When I finish something I am exhausted. It consumes mountains of energy just to focus. Yesterday it had been four months and it was an extremely griefy day.
Comment by Randolph L. Schrader on May 27, 2010 at 9:29pm
Tom, I cant answer you as to when does your mind start functioning again. I'm a zombie too. Thirteen months plus and still not functioning properly. Life sure is differant now. Hang in there.
Comment by BoLynn on May 27, 2010 at 6:40pm
"Linda,Oh thank God,I'm not the only one!!I've been doing that too.If anyone else heard me they'd think I was nuts.Maybe we're finally on a good plain.Acceptance!"
kathleen, our dog gets a confused look on his face and looks around for the person I'm, talking too. I have to be careful not to say the word "daddy" in front of him because he goes looking for Bo.
Comment by kathleen caylor on May 27, 2010 at 6:29pm
Linda,Oh thank God,I'm not the only one!!I've been doing that too.If anyone else heard me they'd think I was nuts.Maybe we're finally on a good plain.Acceptance!
Comment by BoLynn on May 27, 2010 at 3:37pm
I think I have gone insane. I go round the house or when I'm in the yard, talking to Bo. "Hon remember when you fixed this darn window? Or.."Remember when we used to come out at night to look at the full moon?" I do that constantly, whenever I'm not concentrating on something else, I talk to him.
Comment by Randolph L. Schrader on May 27, 2010 at 9:04am
Joan, absentmindeness is one of the problems of grieving. After 13 months I still am doing crazy things. I actually keep laughing at myself everytime 'cause THATS NOT ME and WHY am I doing goofy things. There is a lot of emotions so just "go with the flow". Thats all you can do. Hug to you and to everyone.
Comment by Joan on May 26, 2010 at 11:29pm
To Kathy: I was looking for my wine opener today and I couldn't find it anywhere. I knew I had used it just the day before, but it was not in my drawer, nor did it fall between the drawers. I searched and searched and assumed I threw it out. I put on disposable gloves and searched through my garbage. Nothing there. I went to bevearement group and came home and wanted to take out the garbage. I took out the garbage I compiled from the original one and took it out. I just happened to see something of a metal piece sticking out through the plastic bag, and I pulled it out. It was the wine opener. I threw it out without even knowing that I was doing this. The moon is a full moon tonight and I had to laugh to myself that I threw it out without knowing I had done so. My grieving is out of control right now and I am vulnerable and unable to focus or think about what I'm doing during the course of the day. But there was a little bit of laughter at myself for being so absorbed in my grieving that I couldn't remember what I had done. Has anyone experienced this loss of what you're doing when you're grieving?
Comment by mischell on May 26, 2010 at 5:57pm
kathy ask your doc about melatonin.its suposed to be a natural sleep aid.i dont know. ive never tried it because i take ambien and it works great for me but my kids were put on melatonin after we lost their dad it seemsto work pretty well for them and there are different doses not to mention its inexpencive

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