Bereaved Spouses

A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.

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This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.


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Comment by Yvonne on May 31, 2010 at 10:28am
Patricia I am so sorry for you loss. We are all on a journey that we never wanted to take. You have come to the right place. Here you will find people that understand your feelings, because they are experiencing the same thing or something very similar. Take care and keep coming back
Comment by Yvonne on May 31, 2010 at 10:24am
I am so sorry you feel like you are right back at the beginning of your loss. I remember what it was like at the 5 month mark. I was so lost and alone. That would have been January and I cried the entire month away sitting in front of the TV. I didn't sleep much and was really miserable. I found this site at the end of January and it really helped me a lot to be able to put down in words how I was feeling. What I am saying Tom is that you helped me a lot and I thank you for that. I didn't know at that time that you loss was so new. I know you miss Loni terribly. She sounds like a super lady and someone I would have enjoyed meeting.
Tom I hope for brighter days ahead for you and all of us here. Together we can all make it.
Take care Yvonne
Comment by Patricia L. Herrera on May 31, 2010 at 7:55am
Hello all.....I am all new into this website and also a new widow. My husband died March 22, 2010. We were married 34 years and have a beautiful marriage. I am 67 years old and my guy was nine years older than me, he was 75. I am missing him so much and my life seems so empty. I do have 2 grown children and 3 grandsons but they have lives of their own and I don't want to bother anyone. My house seems so big and empty and my life seems so meaningless. People tell me to go out, why?? I don't want to be crying in front of others and make them feel uncomfortable. I need to do something but I just don't know what. I found this website through my local newspaper. I keep praying and asking God for the strength to get me through this journey of life.
Comment by Virginia on May 30, 2010 at 5:19pm
Tom, I'm glad your feeling better today.Tom I wonder if maybe you were in denile, I know how it is to be a caregiver for someone whose dying before your eyes every day.When you have to be strong for everyone else and get used to holding in what your feeling. I did that with my husband we knew he was dying but, didn't talk about it,so when he had the massive heart attack I truelly didn't expect him to dye like that but I'm glad is was fast and he didn't suffer the last stage of the emphysema. people don't want to talk about it so we keep it inside and that cathes up with you well need to go now see you later Virginia
Comment by Virginia on May 30, 2010 at 8:45am
Hey Tom, I hope you are ok , I don't know what to say except I'll keep you in my prayers you are so full of info and understanding and I look forward to reading your writings. lets all climb this ladder together Virginia
Comment by BoLynn on May 29, 2010 at 10:36pm
Posting just to let my feelings out. I'm angry, sad and jealous today. My sister and her HUSBAND just left for a 10 day trip to Japan. Bo and I were their traveling companions.
Comment by Virginia on May 29, 2010 at 7:38am
Hi All, Today is 13 months since I lost my husband, I am going through the everyday motions of life but, I still cry every day for him at one point or another and being home ( retired ) really stinks.I am disabled so I can't go find a job to fill part of my day and I'm not much for the computer so everyday is a long lonely day but when I am going or doing something I can't wait to get back to my prison. We use to have big cook outs that stopped some years ago,so this year we are having a big one and calling it a family reunion, my sister said she is tired of just getting together when there is a death so and truelly that usally is when we see each other. I am looking forward to it hopefully it will be a joyous day as all my family is nuts and we always have a good time when we are together. I wish for everyone on here a happy holiday and remember our loved ones with a laugh and bunch of wonderfull memories. Virginia
Comment by Jennifer Preston on May 28, 2010 at 11:52pm
Hi this is Jennifer Preston,I wrote last night about I went to my husbands grave on my page,it's hard just knowing that I'm left by myself.I don't have MY PETE to talk to anymore,I talk to him,but it's not the same.I'm left here on Earth without my soul mate.They say time will heal you.I'm only 48 years old,this just seems like a bad dream.I loved my husband so much.MY PETE was taken from me to fast.These last few days I've had a hard time dealing with things.I've got to start dealing with reality.MY PETE would want me to face life,and deal with it.I'm fixing to go to bed,I haven't slept to well lately,so good night,and GOD BLESS YOU ALL.
Comment by lindarunion on May 28, 2010 at 6:39pm
i'am glad to know i'am not the only one whose brain has turuned tomush
Comment by Yaca Attwood on May 28, 2010 at 12:52pm
I feel like a rock in the middle of a rushing stream - everyone and everything rushes by, intent upon getting to somewhere, while I remain frozen, in and others ask me, "Oh, what are you doing Memorial Day?"

Many of them are going to friends' or relatives' homes - having barbecues, picnics, beginning their summer. Some will remember those who gave their lives for their country.

I have no answer for this question....I am seriously thinking about going back to a place that I have avoided since last November - my husband's office in Corona.

Right after he died - I had to go there - to clean things up, to clear things out - I remember the forty (40) bags of material I got together for the shredder guy (but I had to get them to where the truck would come - and they were HEAVY), the one Sunday that I filled an entire dumpster by myself with things out of his office, the phone calls, the arrangements, the letters to get his office shut down, the, "what part of _dead_ do these (bank, phone company, alarm service, exterminator, City of Corona) people not get?????"

I was so relieved to have all of that behind me, and I have studiously avoided going anywhere near the place. However, since he was cremated and his ashes scattered over the Pacific near San Diego, and I don't feel like going down to San Diego, since Corona is only 10 minutes away - I thought I would go to his old office, the place that he spent so many long hours in, and perhaps I will let myself in (I still have a key, and I don't think the landlady has done anything (she lives in the High Desert) - and look around.

Or perhaps, I'll just park in the parking lot - I do not know.

Anyway - my wish is that we all have a healing, bearable and grace-filled Memorial Day, and that those around us will not flinch from our tears and our grief

Yaca Attwood Perkins

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