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A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.
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This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.
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I MISSED A MUSICAL???? OMG!!
THankyou, Chuck! I am a musical junkie..and am horrified I had never heard of INTO the WOODS..I didn,t see The Greatest Showman until this year..so I Googled the WOODS discovered it was 2014..that was the year I was bitten by a brown recluse spider, and contacted Epstein Barr Virus..which left me like a dish rag for two years..so I am SOOO EXCITED as I am going to watch it on Amazon Prime this weekend.YAAYYY. First I will listen to all the songs on YOUTUBE...so I can sing along.
Chuck you will be ok..we all will eventually. “AND THIS, TOO, SHALL PASS” the COVID19 thing..andlife will return to a less stressful reality..but VERY different..and better.
I marched for Black Lives in the 60’s, nothing much happened, but THIS time, people are paying attention..and there will be amazing results.
We try to keep the traditions we shared with our loved ones..and we DO, but just in a different manner.Larry knows you will always cherish and keep your them, and Steve approves..so please don,t worry. Even tho your traditions might alter a bit, they will always live in your heart, and be followed again after this nightmare is over.
Charles, so sorry you seem to be having a hard time lately, I think not being able to get out and about is probably partly to blame, or it is for me. I think staying home is giving you more time to miss Larry even more. Im so glad you have Steve who so gets what your going thru, its all the little things we did together and now cant even do at all is such a blow to our hearts and soul. Praying for you to find peace
Sunday was supposed to be the Tony Awards - Larry and I always, and I mean ALWAYS watched. The fact that it was cancelled this year was for me a very severe gut punch, partly because it again emphasized the serious ways our lives have been altered, but also because I felt like I was losing Larry all over again. Crazy, huh? I told Steve, kind-hearted long-suffering Steve, that it was going to be Broadway night come hell or high water, and we watched the movie version of "Kiss Of The Spider Woman", Bette Midler's "Gypsy", and then I watched "Into The Woods". The latter is one of my all-time favorites, and all Sondheim's plays contain lyrics that seem to speak directly to my deepest feelings and truths. NO, I'm not gay...not much. Couldn't be gayer if I farted rainbows and sequins. Anyway, in 2015 about 6 months after losing Larry I was on the couch - my permanent place by then - I wouldn't even consider sleeping in our bed so slept on the couch as well - and watched this filming of the play, superior to the Disney movie for me. When this song came near the ending I just totally lost it for about the 500th time since April 22nd. I apologize for being, I don't know - dramatic, theatrical, whatever, but I have all my life believed that music and art speak more truly to our humanity than words can - maybe because they transcend language, age, trends, and vibrate in our souls. Anyway, if you haven't seen this version of Into The Woods, and if you like Sondheim, then check it out. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lDXcGZHBiGoThe ways in which memories come and seem to both pierce and simultaneously warm my heart will forever be a puzzlement. Oops, another Broadway reference – I should quit before I burst into horrible off-key singing…Love, Chuck
You do not have to log in, it is my personal blog titled
"All the people in my life"
Just scroll down till you find his story
Look for story that Chuck wrote, titled
"What Am I Afraid Of"
To big for legacy.
Thank you Marsha,
I love that quote, you always lift me up.
To my wiser sister in Canada, I love you.
To all the Angels on Legacy, I love you one and all!
Dear Sara ... I know just how you feel about Ken and I the same about Ernie. Even after 9 years I still think of him often and all the special events we had celebrated together. Now when there is one I just make a special dinner, light candles, have a wine and sit in the living room where we preferred to dine and raise my glass to a wonderful man. I know these words don't help, but all of us here were so very lucky to have spouses we loved so deeply and deeper than the sea as so many people never experience that. I am thinking of you and I know Ken must be very proud of you.
Dear Steve ...
I was in tears my friend that you fear about the future. Remember, throughout history whether it be impending war, terrorism or the threat of diseases they do pass and there is still a future. So hold your head high, don't be afraid and when housebound I realize it's tough, but you are doing all the right things.
Here is another passage from this wise lady you quoted:
Thank you Trina for your words of truth and comfort.
I have to remind myself that there are so many people around our world that are suffering in so many different ways.
Love and hugs to all
As you write, many of us here on this forum are always engaged in trying to find ways to distract ourselves from constantly focusing on our past lives with our departed spouse/partner.
It will be six years in August that Joseph left this planet, but everyday as I open my eyes, the very first thoughts are about him, and the very last thoughts as I try to force myself to fall asleep in the early hours of the morning are also about him. Thoughts of Joseph and of my past life with him, what it would be like now had he been around, are all I am thinking about. It's as if he lives inside of me, is at one with me, inseparable. When we have experienced a love that endures through death and endures through the years, this is how it is.
On a different note, about people's reaction to the pandemic, I would like to say that the pandemic has brought out the best in human nature and it has also brought out the worst in human nature; funny how that works. We know of people who are going above and beyond to save lives and putting themselves at risk, and at the same time, we see the horrific images of people who lack basic human decency and are protesting against having to wear face masks and do social distancing. You would think that people would want to do their part in this national/global crisis, and try to keep the number of COVID patients and COVID deaths lower, but no, for those people their personal freedom is more important than other people's right to live and to be healthy. Sad and upsetting, to say the least. But I feel cheered by the acts of altruism and kindness that strangers are showing strangers every single day through this hard time. There is hope for human nature yet.
Sending love and good thoughts your way. Stay safe.
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