Bereaved Spouses

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Comment by Dotti on April 14, 2010 at 8:21pm
It will be 7 weeks Saturday and I cant even open his closet or dresser. In fact I cant remove his toothbrush from the holder. Donnie promised his brother his suits and clothes. I know I have to give them to him as this was Donnies wish but Im not ready. I feel so heartbroken and I really want to blame someone for the cancer that invaded his body. How unfair. It was our 38th anniversary just a week before he died. We were supposed to be on a cruise and obviously we didnt get to go. but the cruise company called me today to see how we enjoyed our cruise. Apparently no one told him we didnt go. Keep her things for as long as you need to. I am..
Comment by kathleen caylor on April 14, 2010 at 7:20am
Tom,Bless you.I can't get the courage to do that yet.What was it yesterday?First time I actually cried myself to sleep.Was hoping I was over that.Like Lois said 2-3 years of grieving to look forward to.
Comment by BoLynn on April 13, 2010 at 11:49pm
Tom, this to shall pass. She isn't in her shoes or her clothes, she is in your heart.
Comment by Donna on April 13, 2010 at 8:29pm
it has been one year i lost my friend, my sole mate and the love of my life.I have been married to such a wonderful man for 36 years I feel so alone in life. it has been two years since I lost my mom, both my Husband and Mom were wheel chair bound and I took care of both of them. In the last five years I was hit hard with the health issue they both had. but I wish I had them back in my life. I now live with my daughter and grandkids and it still does not fill the emptyness in my heart.
Comment by kathleen caylor on April 13, 2010 at 6:21pm
"I've seen fire and I've seen rain,but I always thought I'd see you again"The song rings so true!7 months for me today.
Comment by Peg Otley on April 13, 2010 at 5:41pm
Today is 4 months since I lost the love of my life. I am just walking around in a daze. The loss is devastating. Harry had just retired the year before and was in good health until he started getting back aches and refused to get it checked. 5 months later' he was diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer. The 6 months he lived afterwards were lived doing as much as he could with the family....especially the grandchildren. We were going to watch them grow up together and now I'm alone. It is just devastating.
Comment by kathleen caylor on April 13, 2010 at 12:52pm
What a blessing to have your parents and sons.Maybe that's why you are so kind!!
Comment by Yvonne on April 13, 2010 at 9:59am
Today I am going to my Mom and Dads to help Mom transplant seedlings in her greenhouse. New life and hope. Mom and Dad have been my rock. I am so grateful to them. Dad is 80 and Mom is 77, but look and act at least 20 years younger. When Larry passed away, Mom just took over our house and looked after us, now Dad is making plans and recruiting help for some projects that need to be done at the lodge. They are the only ones besides our sons that want to talk about Larry. I can never thank them enough and you know...they don't expect to be thanked, it's just how they are.
Comment by Sara on April 13, 2010 at 9:27am
I hate the word "widow" too!! I often think it's because I am only 41, and I NEVER thought I would be dealing with so much at my age as well as our daughters who are only 16,13, and 11..I just wish our life could go back to the way it was 8 months ago.
Comment by kathleen caylor on April 13, 2010 at 6:59am
Trust me Tom,I hate that term too!Sorry it conjured up such bad memories.I promise not to use that term again,MeCulpa!Glad you spoke to that old friend.Probably did both of you some good.

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