Bereaved Spouses

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Comment by Randolph L. Schrader on June 7, 2010 at 8:44am
To Tom, about how the telephone works BOTH ways. I understood what you meant about nobody calling because they "are giving us time" or "not knowing what to say". But I have to say that I cant call for the reason that "what is there to say"? I lost my wife, my pal, am alone ,sad,useless and want to die. Besides I have no one to relate to. So I guess we are back at square one about us not getting any telephone calls. The 3 hour tour on the boat The Minnow, my luck terrorists would take it over and I would probably be killed. Was sorta a nice idea though. Hugs to all.
Comment by Randolph L. Schrader on June 7, 2010 at 8:35am
To Steve Cain, I would like to comment on "the wedding ring". I wear my wifes wedding ring on a chain around my neck. After 13 and a half months of her death I still wear it. I have no plans to do otherwise. She had beautiful small hands,fingers and feet.I kept losing my wedding rings. Everytime we went swimming my ring would slide off into the water and be lost. After losing 3 of them I stopped wearing them.Later in our marriage of 44 years she decided to buy me a silver one and I'll be doggone if I wasn't allergic to silver and couldnt wear it. That has disappeared somehow.I will never be a man again nor much of a human being. So be it as I have no friends of my own. Her friends and family disappeared when she died. I hate my new life and will always wear her ring around my neck. Hugs to all.
Comment by Virginia on June 7, 2010 at 8:13am
Hi Everyone, I hope all are doing ok I truelly haven't had it in me to post the last few days, but am catching up on reading here today. God Bless all. Virgina
Comment by Virginia on June 7, 2010 at 8:09am
Hi Randolph,I just went to your page and my message is there lol must have gotten lost in the syber mail. Virginia
Comment by Connie on June 6, 2010 at 9:51pm
I don't know if anyone knows, or would even be interested, that for a small fee, you can have a flag flown over the U.S. Capitol building in Washington D.C. in honor of your spouse. I am having a flag flown for my husband for his birthday and the anniversary of his death. I am also doing this for a very close friend who passed 11 years ago. In order to do this, you need to go on the website of your U.S. Senator and there is a link to click on. After the flag has been flown, it is packed and sent to you, or who ever you designate, with a certificate of authenticity. I don't know whether or not anyone would be interested but I have sent for masses for my husband and wanted to do something else to honor him and found about this and decided it might be a good thing to do.
Comment by lindarunion on June 6, 2010 at 2:43pm
its been amomth since i lost my red i've been cring for the last 3days how does anyone elese cope with this
Comment by Tracy van der Schyff on June 6, 2010 at 12:31pm
In my dreams I revisit
All the bonds that we once knew
I wake with empty feelings
A void that’s left from missing you
There is no end to what I’d give
...If I could hear you say my name,
and ask me as you would
Just how was my day
Was I hungry , Was I cold
Was there needs that you could meet ,
And if there was through all your pain
A smile replaced your grief
To feel your touch or warm embrace
“I love you” whispered in my ear
No sweeter words could there be spoken
Than these words I hold dear
I see you in the evening shadows
Feel you gently in the wind
Smell you in the flowers fragrance
Your life for me will never end
I hear your laughter and singing softly
Relive the memories from your past
To me you were the dearest love
Your leaving’s more than I can grasp
Yet no bitter feeling linger
Only wishes which can’t come true
I play back all that I can remember
From the love of my youth.
- William Mae
Comment by Randolph L. Schrader on June 5, 2010 at 1:30pm
Virgina, I got an e-mail saying that you commented on a message that I had sent but I cant find your message that you had sent. Can you resend it ? Thanks.
Comment by Randolph L. Schrader on June 5, 2010 at 1:19pm
Connie, thank you for the hug. I am sorry for your pain and everyone else's pain. At least we can relate here on this site. I nothing to comfort anybody except, a hug and that we all are going thru our various stages of our NEW life. We do have an ear to hear each others stories and share our experiences.
Comment by Connie on June 4, 2010 at 11:07pm
Randolph, Thanks for the hugs. They sure are nice. My husband and I were married for 46 years. Our anniversary was October 16th and he passed on November 9th. I love him so very much and my heart is breaking. Today is an exceptionally bad day and I don't know why this day is worse than others. I have been crying all day. My daughter and I met a little while ago at a diner near our homes just for coffee. I needed to get out of this house. Sometimes I think I am going mad. My husband, too, was my sweetheart, my companion, and my very best friend in the whole world. I feel like someone just tore my heart out of my body. I don't know what to do or how to do it. I am trying to keep busy but my doctor wants me to sit with my legs elevated because of a serious arthritic problem that I have with my foot. I cannot sit. I just feel like I have to keep moving. Randolph, I feel your pain because I have the same pain for my sweetheart. I was only 18 when we married and I loved him then and love him even more now. It is so unfair to have him taken away from me.
Randolph, consider yourself hugged.

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