Bereaved Spouses

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Comment by Donna Bills on April 16, 2010 at 9:32pm
I lost my husband in 2007 I'm still grieving life is so hard to go without him I can't drive any more or do much of any thing else life is just so hard. He was only 63 years old and we were only married 4 years. Why does it have to hurt so much?
Comment by heather on April 16, 2010 at 2:41pm
It's been three weeks since my spouse Jim passed away I'm still so sad and I miss my husband and best friend 15 years we spent together, I wanted to grow old with him but God had other plans. I love you sweetheart wait for me we will join each other someday I love you
Comment by BoLynn on April 16, 2010 at 2:42am
Loni was a very lucky lady, Tom. We were all so lucky to have been blessed with a great love.
Comment by Diane on April 16, 2010 at 2:41am
Tom, your 11 little ones are so cute! What ages are they , and what breed ? My husband & I had no children, but we have 4 cats, & I thank God for them because they are keeping me going, and I also can't sleep ...Dianel
Comment by BoLynn on April 16, 2010 at 1:16am
It is night. I hate night time. I miss him most at night. It was our relaxing time together. Have a good dinner, watch some tv, go to bed.......together. I hate the night.
Comment by BoLynn on April 15, 2010 at 9:24pm
Beautiful pictures, Tom. Loni reading to Pandy is priceless!
Comment by Dotti on April 15, 2010 at 7:05pm
I can see how torn you are, I would be too. It's only been 7 weeks for me. I beg Donnie everyday to give me a sign he is ok. I just want to know he is without pain. My heart is so broken. I feel like I have this giant hole in my chest. One day this has to get a little easier, hasnt happened yet. I want to remember the happy times we had. He was such a practical joker. I think I miss that the most. He could always make me laugh. Loni was such a beautiful woman. I can see you are very proud to be her husband. If one day you are interested in seeing someone, that person will appear just when you least expect it.
Comment by Peg Otley on April 14, 2010 at 10:09pm
Today is my birthday. The first I have had to deal with since my love of my life passed 4 months ago yesterday. I have a wonderful family but we didn't do anything.....My Harry used to take me out to dinner on my birthday. Today, I went to the hospital to visit my dad, who later was able to come home...this is another entire story. Came home and watched 3 of my 8 grandchildren so my son could go to the first playoff game between the Pittsburgh Penguins and the Ottawa Senators. At 10:30p.m., my son came and took the kids home and that was my birthday. I surely did miss my Harry more than ever today. I don't know HOW I will handle what would have been our 37th anniversary in October. Why does it pain us as if we really were being stabbed in the heart? We had a wonderful life together and maybe I am being selfish but I didn't ever want it to end. Harry was never sick, never went to the doctor, and had just retired just over a year. He ahd a back ache for 5 mos. before I finally made him see a doctor and when he did, the diagnosis was stage 4 pancreatic cancer. He lived 6 more months. He passed away Dec. 13th 2009 just 5 days after his 61st birthday. He was at home with me and now he is at home with God. I miss him terribly. The hurt never stops.
Comment by Dotti on April 14, 2010 at 8:21pm
It will be 7 weeks Saturday and I cant even open his closet or dresser. In fact I cant remove his toothbrush from the holder. Donnie promised his brother his suits and clothes. I know I have to give them to him as this was Donnies wish but Im not ready. I feel so heartbroken and I really want to blame someone for the cancer that invaded his body. How unfair. It was our 38th anniversary just a week before he died. We were supposed to be on a cruise and obviously we didnt get to go. but the cruise company called me today to see how we enjoyed our cruise. Apparently no one told him we didnt go. Keep her things for as long as you need to. I am..
Comment by kathleen caylor on April 14, 2010 at 7:20am
Tom,Bless you.I can't get the courage to do that yet.What was it yesterday?First time I actually cried myself to sleep.Was hoping I was over that.Like Lois said 2-3 years of grieving to look forward to.

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