Bereaved Spouses

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Comment by Virginia on July 9, 2010 at 8:38am
Sandra,I truely am sorry for your loss,we are here for you and the things your feeling are normal for what you are going through we don't like the word normal but it is all part of the grieving process and yours is so raw so new. I to thought I was going crazy and loosing my mind it is such a huge adjustment that we must adapt to you, will never get use to being alone that is the hardest, comming home to an empty house. Each person grieves differently and some can move on and some can't and everyone moves thru the process at a different time frame there is not a set time to each step in the process. Please take a little time to read some post here you will find you are not crazy and the only one going thru this, we pretty much all feel the same and are at different phases in the grieving process,stay with us on the site it truelly does help. you can write me any time. May god be with you and give you the strenth you need to take it one minute, or one day at a time. also you will have moments at work just do the best you can don't be embarresed hopefully you have someone there you can talk to honestaly be open about how your feeling some will ungerstand and some won't just don't let anyone tell you to get over it and move on you will know when you are ready for that and if they haven't been thru the loss of a spouse they don't have a clue. God Bless.Virginia
Comment by Sandra on July 8, 2010 at 9:25pm
I lost my husband, Tim on June 27th, 2010. His death was sudden, tragic and senseless! I am trying to keep my anger in check and yet I am still waiting to hear the garage door open, or let him in the front door because he forgot his garage remote and look across the room and see him sitting at the computer.......I am so lost and not sure what to do. The pain at times is so overwhelming that I truly think I will lose my sanity and it happens out of nowhere! One minute coping, the next minute bent over screaming. I am going back to work Monday but afraid these breakdowns will occur at work!
Comment by Virginia on July 8, 2010 at 4:57pm
Leia, I'm sorry you are having a bad day staying in the house makes it worse but what are we to do when you just don't have it in ya to get dressed and go, then where is there to go by yourself the pain might ease but the lonelyness never goes away hope tommorow is a better day for you
Comment by Virginia on July 8, 2010 at 4:46pm
tom I know what you mean my cats are also spoiled rotten I've gotten my 1 begger to finally wait till I get done then he can eat but boy he sits and watches every bite lol spoiled brats lol glad you were able to go see the train
Comment by Leia Wright on July 8, 2010 at 4:22pm
Rotten day today. I just stayed home. I hate these days. I'll do fare for several days and then all the sudden it hits! I hope it gets better. I know the pain is lessened, but it is still there every day. Tomorrow I have already made plans to get out of the house. It will be a better day.
Comment by Randolph L. Schrader on July 8, 2010 at 1:51pm
To Tom, hang in there friend. I have gone to the E.R. twice in the last 7 months for bad stomach pain. They couldnt find anything and gave me meds. It never helped and I guess it eventually passed.My family told the E.R. doc, its the grief from the loss of his wife. He said, no, it wasnt. Yeah right, the family knew.
We lived in Denver for ten years and went up to see their train museum. It was pretty cool. Glad you did that. It must have been something you will never forget. I hope you can find some peace amid the grief that exists. We all share this with you and understand.
Comment by Tom on July 8, 2010 at 10:56am
The next day I came down very sick and almost called 911 to get an ambulance for myself.
I was hurting that bad. Stomach pain.
Instead I just waited it out and haven't eaten for three days. I'm feeling better today without any pain and will eat something . Seeing the train in all it's glory and running was very exciting !
Comment by Tom on July 8, 2010 at 10:52am
Hello Virginia,
i did make it to see the train come down the tracks and go through the banner two women held in front of it, dressed in period costumes. I got some very good pictures, and one of a kind. There where a lot of people there taking pictures straight ahead on the tracks as it came towards them. I went over to the other side of the tracks so i would have the train station and all the people waiting to board in the picture as well as the train as it went through the banner. It came out wonderful ! If I can ever figure out how to get them posted on here I will do so.
Comment by Virginia on July 8, 2010 at 8:58am
Tom, how was your train outing. I hope you were able to enjoy it a little. God Bless
Comment by kathleen caylor on July 8, 2010 at 8:17am
I have to say YES!!!In the middle of the night or your darkest days,you can write what you're feeling and vent when you need to.Sometimes you can't turn to family or friends,this is the place to come to.No judging or criticising.On my lowest of days,when no one was here ,I know this site is here.And yes it has helped.

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