Grief support groups, condolence advice, funeral etiquette and more
A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.
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This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.
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Deborah P. ... Thank you so much for that lovely poem and I like to think that every day.
Mary.Jane ... Well said. They say eventually in grief groups that saying the word 'D' put's things into reality and that's when we realize our loved one isn't coming back. I may have used the 'D" word myself and if so apologize, but generally I use 'passed away.' This, for some reason sounds softer and not to caustic.
I can certainly understand how you feel thing he would come in after parking the car. For 2 years I would look at the driveway from the kitchen window at 4:30 PM sharp and had myself believing Ernie would be coming up that driveway swinging his lunch bucket and would tease me when the dogs would meet him at the door wagging their tails all excited to see him and his favorite line with a smile on his face would be, 'Now why don't you meet me at the door like that?' I just tell him I didn't have tail! LOL
It is hard when we really begin to see our home for the first time after going through shock of our deceased loved one and for some reason everything looks different. I call this part of grief 'the awakening.' Moving to another city and home is not easy no matter how long you have been grieving even if you have come to terms with it. I may well have to sell my own home come spring and it's gnawing away at me. I have no idea where I'll go and that scares the delights out of me, but for now I put it in the back of the recesses of my mind and will deal with it when it happens.
You're going to do just fine Mary and I think when we make traumatic changes such as moving it's a new start in our lives and I do believe no matter where one moves our spouses know where we are.
Chicago Beard ... Thanks for that and I will I had let the dog loose! LOL Just goes to show you how low some human beings can go.
Grief is a process and we handle it different ways at different times. It is OK to use the "D" word if you need to. Venting is always good and doing it here is the safest place to do so.
thought I would share this poem
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