Bereaved Spouses

A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.

Members: 1368
Latest Conversations: 5 hours ago

This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.


Discussion Forum

Grief so great it hurts

Started by Bonny Jones. Last reply by Bonny Jones Jan 22. 12 Replies

Navigating Widow-hood

Started by Tim's Mom, Vickie. Last reply by Bonny Jones Jan 16. 4 Replies

New Member

Started by Susan. Last reply by Marsha H Sep 2, 2018. 5 Replies

Comment Wall


You need to be a member of Bereaved Spouses to add comments!

Comment by Walter Crowley on March 16, 2010 at 10:07am
I really wish people would READ! what I initially wrote. I'm not claiming to know the endall to the questions of what happens when one dies. If you read what I initially wrote, I essentially was asking a question???? I will try to put it a different way. Since I started my grieving process and not at all having any expereince with death and the hereafter, I have found myself confused as to what TO BELIEVE! On the one hand you have friends and loved ones come up to me and say things like "it's ok, she's in heaven now with God, a better place, no more suffering, etc. etc.. We are all familiar with it. Not being admittedly very religious, I turned to the bible as I,m sure many many others have, in an effort to find both comfort and some answers. What I got out of it was a completely different contex than what has been said by family and friends. The bible says something completely different than, " it's ok, their in heaven with God now smiling down on you. So unless I'm not quite understanding what I'm reading in the bible(which is entirely possible), I now find my self completely at a loss as to what to believe anymore. Yes I am looking for answers which I know I will never find in my LIFETIME, none the less I will keep looking. My original entry essentially said that. Has anyone else found themselves asking the same thing. I would bet tremedous sums of money that they are even at this very moment. As to the earlier comment that infered that this is not the appropriate place for this kind of discussion, where pray tell is it appropriate. And Tom I do very much appreciate your response, it deals with the question I was asking and certainly provides me with yet another piece of the eternal puzzel mankind continually seeks to answer. And as a more personal note, I too cry every day, I too talk to thin air, my heart is shattered beyond repair, I yearn to be rid of this life in the HOPE that maybe some of it is true. I miss my wife dearly!!!!!!!!!!!
Comment by Yvonne on March 16, 2010 at 7:19am
Hi Walter
First off let me say how sorry I am for you loss. It seems to me that right now you are mad at God for taking your wife. That is a very normal grief response and process. We are at all different stages of the grieving process and we try to find comfort where ever we can. We all have different beliefs and who is to say who is right or wrong. In grieving our lost loved ones there is no right or do what gets you through the day. We are all looking for answers. We come to this site for validation and support. Sometimes we come to just pour our hearts out. We don't come here to criticize each other. Everyone has their individual way of grieving. If yours is to question God and try to find answers in the be it that is your way. I hope you find peace and understanding and forgiveness. It is a very difficult journey with a long and winding road. I lost my husband of 38 years August 9, 2009. I miss him terribly and always will. I think you need a big hug ((((Walter)))).
Take care Yvonne
Comment by kathleen caylor on March 16, 2010 at 7:00am
As widows and widowers,we have enough gloom and doom in our lives.We did not come to this site to discuss religion.It is called " Grief Support".And that's all I have to say about it!
Comment by Walter Crowley on March 16, 2010 at 1:18am
You know Charles you obviously didn't read what I wrote and it would seem your actually angry. You don't have to preach to me, especially as some of the other readers are about easter bunnies santa claus and other foolish childrens fairly tales. I lost my wife of 10 years this past Dec. 24. I'm trying to sort things out in my own heart and mind and was simply relaying the perplexing situation I find my self in as it regards death, souls, heaven, etc.. No where in your somewhat attituded response do I see or hear one comment from you as to the reality of the situation. The easter bunny doesn't run heaven, God does. As for those of you who keep on beleiving such nonsense versus the reality of death and what the bible says, or should I say GOD SAYS, are going to find yourselves in a real spot come the judgement day. And finally Charles the question is " what does the bible say happens at the moment of death?" do you know Charles?
Comment by Yvonne on March 15, 2010 at 11:47pm
Nicely said Tom
Comment by Charles on March 15, 2010 at 7:32pm
No one like IreneParker..
What a sweetheart.
Thank you
Comment by Yvonne on March 15, 2010 at 4:54pm
Yes, thank you Charles.
Comment by kathleen caylor on March 15, 2010 at 3:48pm
Thank you,Charles
Comment by Charles on March 15, 2010 at 3:10pm
I have to ask what point you are making here?You made several statements but no real questions.
If its answers to all this death and grief you seek you know and we all know there are no answers that we can prove.None of us will know in this lifetime what happens at our passing.
I know for me I find peace and comfort in believing that my loved ones are in a better place watching over me until the day I to cross over to the other side and join them.I cannot prove this idea but no one can disprove this idea.
Most of us here are just heart broke and grieving over the loss of our soul mate and trying to get through each day as best we can.
The questions of death have been asked by millions for thousands of years and will continue to be asked.
Comment by Walter Crowley on March 15, 2010 at 1:09pm
And one more thing, please understand, I'm not trying to bust anyones bubble or deflat their dreams, I would love nothing more than to know my wife is in heaven safe with the Lord, that she knows I miss her and Love her. I'm just confus3ed and am trying to get real truthful answers.

Members (1368)


Latest Conversations

Community Guidelines

Please be respectful of others. For more information, read our Community Guidelines.

Follow Legacy

© 2019   Created by   Powered by

Badges  |  Report an Issue  |  Terms of Service