Bereaved Spouses

A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.

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Comment by Chris B on February 17, 2010 at 9:46pm
I don't know about anyone else, but for me there are times that I just need to say how I'm feeling, to an audience that might have a chance of understanding, because gods know my friends can't. And I wouldn't wish for them to. So I don't want to burden them with how miserable I'm feeling having lost the love of my life and the man I spent the past 17 years of my life with. I don't want to upset them about the days that it feels like there's a hole ripped in my heart that I doubt will ever be filled. I don't want them to try to imagine "what it feels like", because even if they do try to imagine it, it pales in comparison to the reality.

Only people who have been there can understand, and there are times I just need somewhere that I can post how much I'm hurting without feeling like I'm interfering with someone else's "happy ever after". For the most part, I restrict it to my blog, but sometimes I need to feel like someone's listening instead of just talking to empty air.
Comment by mary heinrich on February 17, 2010 at 4:27pm
Im new to this site. It will be my husbands 3 month anniv on friday the 19th. Im hoping that day goes better than valentines weekend. I miss him so much. we were married for 16 years . I was a caregiver for 10 years running him back and forth for chemo. He had 3 types of cancer . He was a fighter and never complained even up to the very end.
Comment by kathleen caylor on February 17, 2010 at 8:57am
Katy,You are absolutely right.It is a very depressing site.But here's the thing,we are all here for the same reasons,no matter what the circumstances are.I too have a hard time reading some of the horror stories.people with young children and horrific accidents.It breaks my heart.You see I've lived a pretty full life and have been blessed with a loving family.But I've never been alone.And when I want to voice my personal feelings,no one here judges you.So try to find a format similar to yours and share.You will see someone in a similar situation.And one day you can offer words of encouragement.You don't have to join in every day but sometimes there are subjects you can relate to.Sorry for your loss.I hope you find peace,I'm still waitng.
Comment by Katy on February 17, 2010 at 4:45am
Hi all,

I have a question for you, especially those of you who have been on this site for a longer period of time, though not necessarily.

I have been without Jim since Jan 5, not a very long time.

So, I come to this website, usually later at night or early a.m., and I am starting to feel more depressed, because all the comments and stories are (obviously!) from bereaved, just like myself. But, I find it more and more depressing, and I am finding more and more that I dont even want to come here anymore, because all this site has is sad, sad stories from sad, lonely, bereaved people. And I am finding myself not able to stand even this anymore. Am I alone in feeling this way? Is there something wrong with me?
Comment by Chris B on February 16, 2010 at 8:12pm
Felt gut-shot today when I was doing something at work and thought "I'll have to tell Dan about that when I get home". It's four weeks today that he died, and I am still trying to figure out how I'm supposed to live without him.
Comment by jeanette williams on February 16, 2010 at 12:10pm
Comment by JOANNE B on February 16, 2010 at 12:18am
Comment by Sally on February 15, 2010 at 8:30am
My husband passed away on March 7, 2009, so it is coming up on a year now next month. Yesterday, it was a hard Valentine's Day without him, he would always get me red roses, and I buy him a gift. I miss him very much, just wish he were with me.
Comment by BoLynn on February 14, 2010 at 9:58pm
Spent Valentines Day with my one and only love.
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Comment by Ana Rose on February 14, 2010 at 5:07pm
I miss him but I'm not hurt. I'm not crying anymore. Not today.

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