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Comment by Janice Jones on August 8, 2010 at 12:08pm
David, my husband (David) died in a car wreck 21/2 years ago and it is still painful. I have a grief doctor that I see and she has helped me so much. I still have bad days and nights but they do seem to be farther apart. We will never stop missing them but hopefully learn to cope. I know my David would not want me to greive so much. He loved life and I am trying to find some happiness. He will always be with me and I am trying to draw on his energy to move forward. Losing your soul-mate is the hardest thing to get through. Thought we would always be together and really thought that I would go first. He was such a strong man and was my whole life. A big part of me died on that day as I am sure did you and a lot of the others on here. My prayers go out to everyone and keep me in your prayers too. I still have a long way to go. Trying to figure out why God left me here. I know he has a plan and I pray that I will be able to reconize it. Love to all of you. Jan
Comment by Patricia L. Herrera on August 8, 2010 at 11:24am
Hello David,
Don't give up, your life will get better. Your wife wouldn't want you to be hurting like you are. I lost my husband on March 22, 2010. I don't have all the answers because I am hurting too but I have joined a support group through my local Hospice Organization and it is helping so much. You will be experiencing these feelings for a long time. We just won't heal overnight. I don't have all the answers myself but since going to Hospice I have been feeling much better and have been able to get through many days. Losing your spouse unexpectedly is such a shock yet I knew for five years that my husbands days were numbered and yet it was still a shock when he did leave because we hold onto hope with our love for one another. Try to get involved with a support group or your Church. Keep yourself busy as much as possible. Better days will come to you, it just doesn't feel that way right now. Also, this support group on Legacy will help get you through your rough days, please keep in touch with us whenever you feel lost and lonely. Until the next time, I will add you to my prayers and thoughts. God bless and Hugs to you.
Comment by Randolph L. Schrader on August 8, 2010 at 11:00am
To David, am so sorry for your loss. Its been over 16 months since my wife died suddenly and I still cant go forward much without going backwards or even just standing still like a zombie with no purpose. I cant give you any words of comfort except this. We all share with you and we all do understand. The good and the bad. Hopefully we can hope to inspire someone or be inspired ourselves.At least,we can vent our situations to people who truly understand.
Comment by Virginia on August 8, 2010 at 8:32am
i don't understand the double posting whats up with this lol,
Comment by Virginia on August 8, 2010 at 8:30am
David,I'm glad you had a few good days and yes sadley the bad ones do come back but like you said at least you had a couple good one god bless, and wishing you and everyone more good days.
Comment by Virginia on August 8, 2010 at 8:30am
David,I'm glad you had a few good days and yes sadley the bad ones do come back but like you said at least you had a couple good one god bless, and wishing you and everyone more good days.
Comment by Virginia on August 8, 2010 at 8:27am
Hi everyone, i hope you all will have a good day today, so far so good here except having to try and chace 2 big hawks try to steel my kittens outside they are walking in the yard and i was out there in my gown shoeing then away lol the mommy cat is ferce she jumps right up after the hawks but she keeps them hid and thankfully they listen to her and life goes on, have a blessed day.
Comment by Virginia on August 7, 2010 at 8:56pm
Randolph, how sweet and what a fitting song, HUGS to you
Comment by Randolph L. Schrader on August 7, 2010 at 1:31pm
Hi to all, a couple of days ago a member wanted me to tell them about LouAnn. Where do you start ? Then I remembered the info that I inputted into a "memory book" for the organ/tissue people. They make a book up at the end of the year for all the people who have been an organ donor. I would like to share this.
"LouAnn was a pizza maker,waitress and a data entry person for real estate.In her fifties,she worked in a factory and went to a Ozzy Osbourne festival and got a nice,neat sweatshirt from the "Ozz Fest". She was "cool". She loved to ride horses,sew,embroider and had a great singing voice. She was a loving wife,mother and grandmother. Balancing 4 kids,seven grandkids and a disabled husband(bad back) was quite a feat.She was able to balance things and put them into perspective."
Although, at the end, she had arthritus in her hands and got carpal tunnel. Her hands and fingers were useless. I sang for her and to her during kareoke night. I can best tell you what she was to me by an Elvis song, " The Wonder of You".
LouAnn Schrader
April 16,1946-
April 16,2009

Hugs to all. Hugs are good.
Comment by Randolph L. Schrader on August 7, 2010 at 1:13pm
Tom, just remember not to post on line 30.
 

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