Bereaved Spouses

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Comment by Virginia on May 23, 2010 at 8:42am
not a good day today on a rollercoaster, weather not helping. have had enough of the rain. virginia
Comment by Tom on May 23, 2010 at 2:59am
Dear Linda,
One of you did, that's why you were so great together !
Comment by BoLynn on May 23, 2010 at 2:36am
Bo and had had many misunderstandings about eating. Like you, I would get upset when he wouldn't eat and he would get upset with me because I didn't understand he had no appetite. How I regret these wasted moments. I SHOULD HAVE UNDERSTOOD!
Comment by Jennifer Preston on May 23, 2010 at 12:27am
Thanks Tom;for letting me know theres life after death.I'll always miss my Pete,but I know he lives in my heart.
Comment by Jennifer Preston on May 23, 2010 at 12:05am
Dear Tom,I thank you for helping me to get off my pity spell,Ithink Ihave a lot of them lately.I beleived I was getting better until this past week.I'm glad to know there are caring people out there like you. I just need to get past this guilt trip I've put myself on.I still know that Pete loved me.That should be enough,for the most part itis.Thanks for cheering me up Tom,your a sweet man.God Bless You.
Comment by Jennifer Preston on May 22, 2010 at 10:34pm
This is Jennifer Preston again something happened while I was typing.I'm going to finish.I wished I hadn't fussed at my Pete.I Just wanted him to eat so bad,Iwanted him to live.He was on dialysis,he had been on dialysis for over 7 years.Then he was in a bad car wreck in Dec..After the car wreck he just started going down hill.After the car wreck we found out he didn't have but 25 percent of his heart left.He was in,and out of the hospital after the wreck,he went to Rehab to get his strength back.He lived a little over 3 weeks after that.Pete went to sleep and didn't wake up.If Ihad of known that was going to be his last day on Earth I wouldn't have left htm for nothing in the world.
Comment by Jennifer Preston on May 22, 2010 at 10:02pm
Hi this is Jennifer again, I want to thank all who was so kind to write to me.You know it really does help to know there is people out there that knows how it feels to hurt all the time.I know its got to hurt when your seeing your loved one die with cancer,or seeing your loved one go into a coma.I can imagine how you feel.I can understand about getting your affairs inorder.The last day my husband Pete was alive I had a fuss with him,and it stays on my mind all the time.I wanted him to eat so bad,they had put a feeding tube in him. I tryed to feed him some soft food,and he kept spitting it out.I told him if he is going to keep spitting his food out that I I'm going home,and thats what I did is went home,and then they called me after 9PM,and told me he had died.I wished
Comment by Virginia on May 22, 2010 at 7:02am
Now I would like to share this. This morning I woke up to my husband telling me he was comming to get me,not sure what that meant but I haven't had a dream of him that I can remember since he passed. So I sat up in the bed and said I'm glad you came to me,BUT I can't go with you now, I just finished designing our headstone and need to see this thru not that I'm looking forward to going to the cemertary and see my name and picture on it lol and with what I'm spending on it I really would like to see it in person lol so I told him he will have to wait a bit, now I was always told that when you dream of the dead they are actually visiting you I'm not real sure but I'm thinking I might need to get things in order. I would like to hear others thought on it. Virginia Have a blessed day everyone((( hugs to all.)))
Comment by Virginia on May 22, 2010 at 6:49am
Hi Jennifer I'm so sorry for your loss I lost my husband a year ago last month and it is not any less painfull.Everyone on this site is right it will take a lifetime to deal with it,you will later on have good days then be smacked up side the face with something to make you feel it all just as new as day one. You are in my prayers Virginia
Comment by Tom on May 22, 2010 at 1:55am
I'm sure your family and friends mean well, and are giving you advice that they think will help you.
It's hard for them to know what it's like for you.
It's different for you than it is for them.
Keep your hudband close to your heart, and it will be easier for you in the long run. Only you can make any kind of difference in what your life will be like in the coming days and years. It will take as long as it takes for you. It's never to late to say good by, it's just different. My Loni told me good by, by biting my finger, and then smiling at me. She couldn't talk anymore. It was the last time I saw Loni awake.
I kissed her good by when I left the hospital and later she went into a comma and never woke back up.
I think about all the love that we had together, more than that last time we had together. It still makes me laugh though. It was Loni way of telling me she loves me. It's what all of our 11 cats would do with her ! Love transends all, and it's the only thing that does ! Talk to your husband and tell him what's on your mind when ever you feel like it. It's good for your soul ! Tom

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