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A continutaion of the "When a Spouse or Partner Dies" thread.
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This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.
Started by Chris Sky. Last reply by Mary. Jane on Sunday.
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Started by Sandfly. Last reply by Marsha H Jun 6.
I am on Facebook all the time. My band has a Facebook page, etc. I will probably look at and join the Facebook page but this site will still be my anchor.
What secret do you have about your principal? (Teasing you. I know you meant principle).
Dear Mary Jane,
I too don't blame you for wanting to get away from the potential for such devastating storms - as Marsha says, there seems to be such a change in weather patterns, and in my area the potential for flooding has increased dramatically, even being nowhere near the ocean or any lakes.
My father told me something when I was a child I have never forgotten. We were watching "The Wizard Of Oz" on TV (black&white back then) and I said I would love to see a real tornado up close. He got very serious and said "Believe me, you never want to be anywhere near a real tornado because they are unpredictable, scary, and can kill you." The look on his face scared me more than his words...I guess he had been close enough to one when growing up in the west that it convinced him to move East!
I also agree that is it a wonderful miracle that the animals were spared - truly a Divine intervention! Be safe, and keep watching the skies...
Mary.Jane ... That's one horrific storm and thank God, we don't get tornados in British Columbia (yet.) The weather all over the world seems to be strange. We have a lot of forest fires going on in the Interior of B.C. and people are being evacuated to other towns. Many will lose their homes and can't afford fire insurance.
It is a miracle that dog grooming place in the mall was untouched and I too believe God performs miracles. I don't blame you for wanting to get out of Dodge.
Be care, praying for you tonight.
For you and Joseph today...
Love and prayers always,
Trina.....I wish I could give you a big hug. I also wish I could say something helpful but since I feel as you do, I can't say anything that I don't believe in for myself. In fact, it helps me to see you post this as it makes me feel like I'm not the only one feeling this way. For me, it's been 18.5 months since I lost my soul mate. The way I view it, my life ended on 1/13/16 and my existence began. Like you, I count down the days until I can be with Ken again. I view him as my future as reuniting with him is my end game. Until then, I just make the best of it by filling up the time with work and the occasional outing with friends. I hope you'll find some help/hope in Marsha's post.
Big hugs to you.
Dearest Trina ... Your post brought tears to my eyes, yet I have to tell you that even after 3 years this is part of grief (chapters like in a book.) No one will ever replace your dear Joseph anymore than someone will replace my Ernie, but now, you are actually facing reality and even though it makes you feel emotionless, empty inside or interest in life and walking through your life like a ghost those are all normal feelings and I went through it and there are still times after 6 1/2 years I can have a few days of it again. Believe it or not Trina, this is the very beginning of a turning point in your life and that's getting to know yourself all over again. I figure out the puzzle to this and it's reaching back in time to who we were before we met our loving spouses. We had emotions, found a little love, but not as deep as we had with our spouses, had fun with family and friends or coworkers. We had purpose, youth and all was well with the world. When Joseph and Ernie came into our world it was like meeting someone that we'd known all our lives and everything seemed so right and it was. The most important thing to remember hon is the fact that Joseph and Ernie with all their wisdom, love, devotion, intelligence passed that onto us and instead of suppressing what we learned we need to carry that torch for them and enrich other's lives. For now you will think there is no future for yourself, but please trust in me that there is. I found working with others to help them as well as adopting deserted dogs out to better homes made me a better person. I saw things in people that were so sad and even through the pain of losing Ernie, I found that there was so many people with many other problems almost in comparison and so I help where I can. I get in touch with nature for a good reason and that is to remind me to relax, enjoy the wonders of nature and finds some peace in my life. You are getting there Trina even though I'm sure you feel like giving up. Never give up!
Take time out alone and be honest with yourself and ask yourself what Joseph would want you to do with your life and you will get an answer and then you have to work at it. No, this Chapter in our lives is not an easy one, but it is attainable. When your time comes and you meet Joseph I'm sure he will be very proud of you.
Here is a big hug from me to you my dear friend.
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