Bereaved Spouses

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Comment by Mary. Jane on January 31, 2022 at 10:46pm

 To “loose it” Hello,everyone...I FINALLY figured out how to get here on my IPAD...this is huge. 

I want to ask y’ Feb, it will be the beginning of the 7th year since Bob died. Soo.6 full years have passed at the end of that month...and I am much better..than I was...but lately, a strange thing has been happening. I will be doing something “mundane” like making the bed..etc..and I will hear a “suggestion” in my if Bob is talking to I fluff the pillow, my brain begins TALKING to him..stuff like “is this fluffy enough” or, “should I put the pillow down so u can rest your head on it.” Or  (from HIM,“maybe you should move over a bit..u r kind of crowding the bed”..STUFF LIKE THAT. Am I loosing my mind? This is a VERY new development..maybe because I have lived in this new home for almost 3 years, and he is finally HERE? 

Omg, as I type this, I can feel him SMILING at me! As if he finds this very humorous. OMG, I am not ready to LOOSE IT yet.

Comment by Sara Murphy on January 14, 2022 at 8:35pm

Thanks everyone.  Jan 13th will always be a day which marks the passage of time.  On the 1 yr anniversary I took the day off from work and vowed I would take every Jan 13th off to reflect and honor Ken.  I did take the day off the 2nd year as well but by the 3rd year, I decided I needed to treat the day like any other.  I miss him on the 12th and 14th (and every other day) as much as the 13th so it's best if I work and make the day as "normal" as possible.  It also happens to be a busy time at work so it's not good for me to take a day.  That's what I did and then made one of Ken's favorite meals for dinner. 

Todd....Claudia was beautiful.  You're a lucky man to have her watching over you.  I'll be thinking about you on Feb 14.

Mary can attach your pic by clicking either the image or file icon.  Look forward to seeing it.

Sending hugs your way


Comment by Mary. Jane on January 14, 2022 at 12:52am

Ok I have a picture, I just have to figure out how to post it here.

Comment by Mary. Jane on January 13, 2022 at 8:58pm

I am going to ask my daughter,if she has any pictures of Bob and I as a couple. I didn,t have a digital camera or cell phone until after he died..and all our pictures are still packed away. I just haven’t had the mental strength to,open any of those boxes yet..but I MUST have some, maybe on a disc...I will start a search. 

Comment by Mary. Jane on January 13, 2022 at 8:53pm

What the hell happened in Feb 2016? This is REALLY strange! 

Comment by Todd B. Goodrich on January 13, 2022 at 4:51pm

Dear Sara & Mary. Jane,

I am right there with you. This upcoming Valentine's Day will also be the sixth year anniversary of Claudia's passing. Holy cow! 

My prayers and love to you both! Hugs as well :-)

We are here for you both!



P.S. Awesome picture! 

Here is one of my favorites.... 

Comment by Charles E. Nelson on January 13, 2022 at 3:14pm

Dear Sara,

As today brings to you afresh the memories of your life with your beloved Ken, and time plays its bizarre tricks of making the past present, I know Ken is staying close and loving you as he always will. He'll see you through today, and tomorrow, and all the days until you are reunited. 

Peace to you dear friend - 

Love, Chuck

Comment by Mary. Jane on January 12, 2022 at 7:20pm

Ohhh Sara,,what a lovely picture of you two! Thanks for sharing it! 

Ironically, Bob has been gone for 6 years, also, next month. 

Comment by Sara Murphy on January 12, 2022 at 7:05pm

Hi Mary Jane….Glad you're doing well.  I actually don't lose stuff often, but I have heard that happening.  The few times I have misplaced something these past few years, I have asked Ken for help.  I eventually do find it although not in a place I've already looked.  He promised he would watch over me and he always comes through.  I usually ask for help when a situation beyond my ability comes up and he sends just the right person my way. 

Comment by Sara Murphy on January 12, 2022 at 6:56pm

Hi Chuck and Steve...I'm so sorry to hear you've both been sick.  I hope you're feeling much better now.  I understand your friend being tired of Covid….we all are....but you're right to say Covid is not done with us.  It's about finding the right balance of living life and keeping ourselves and our family safe.  Maybe after some time passes, your friend will come around.  Be well my friends.

Love, Sara


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