Bereaved Spouses

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Comment by Dixie Olson on December 29, 2012 at 11:46am

father god* i pray for Diane and all others who are in pain, I know pain and have asked GOD* for healing for yrs, it never came. so my husband said why not ask GOD* to be with you in the pain and help you through it, and cross my heart when my leg swells or I get to ralphing I ask G0d and his angels to help me and it works! So I am praying GOD* will heal all who are in pain, if he does not, at least ask him to stand with you in it>lv too all

Comment by stacey on December 29, 2012 at 10:58am

marsha- some days id like to tape both the dog and the baby to the wall or ceiling. i do have a lot of offers to help me move so i think im gonna take advantage of that. Oh more features i didnt see when i looked the 1st time it has a lazy susan cabinet and a garbage disposal more stuff to spoil me lol.

Comment by Marsha H on December 29, 2012 at 4:53am

Diane ...  Cell phones don't work if there is a power outage.  Landlines do so that is why I keep mine, but I found Telus Phone Company and got a better rate so you might try that.



Comment by Marsha H on December 29, 2012 at 3:42am

Diane C ... I have experienced different things happening when paying bills and don't owe anything, yet was getting charged from one company and I had a good go at them.  I thnk landlines are important and I'd rather give something else up and keep it because of an emergency.  I understand those bad days of nothing working out.  Hang in there girl as it will get better.



Comment by Marsha H on December 29, 2012 at 3:36am

Stacey ... I'm getting excited about your big move and getting your apartment keys in 4 days and I'm not even there!  LOL  You deserve the breaks hon.  It's too bad your mom wasn't staying with you longer to help you out.  Perhaps a friend or friends could help you move.  Perhaps a girlfriend could look after your wee boy while you pack.  I am happy to hear that you got a bigger Christmas tree too.  I just love mine, but had to pay full price and you're luck to get one for 1/2 price off.  Don't forget the dog!  LOL  Don't forget to get those plugs for the wall outlets for you little guy.

Please keep me informed as to how things are going. 



Comment by Marsha H on December 29, 2012 at 3:33am

Diane C ....  So glad that you got a kick out of Dixie's and my stories.  You can bet anyone with pets will have stepped in dog poo.  Laughter is the best medicine at times. 

Hope you are feeling a little better Diane.  It's time we all got a break and I do hope 2013 will be a better one for us.



Comment by stacey on December 28, 2012 at 8:05pm

marsha-   soooooooooooooooooooooo close to moving in to new aprtment just waiting for keys should get them around the 4th and to pack the entire house ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh thats gonna be a long process with my little one. my mom leaves tomorrow morning im gonna miss her. but i call her like 3 times a day. i just took down xmas tree and yesterday bought a big one for next year for more then half off it'll be our first big tree. i go to look tomorrow to see what else i need to babyproof the house and tie up the dog in the yard. im so excited!

Comment by Frank Andrews on December 28, 2012 at 7:17pm


 You are right in having back surgery as the LAST option. As I said before, my son had the surgery and it only made the pain worse. He was eventually addicted to prescribed oxycontin and has had years of turmoil in his life because of it.  He is off the strong pain pills and is doing better on his own.  He considered having a pain pump put in but decided not to. You have a difficult time ahead with back pain and with the loss of your beloved husband and I will say a prayer for you to get better.

  I also do not know where or what I am going to do on New Years.

So difficult with the "first's".  Hope everyone is getting a little better each day.  Hugs to all.

Comment by Diane C on December 28, 2012 at 6:55pm

Hi Carol Kayser,

I hope I do have good luck with anything but surgery. Thanks for wishing me luck with that. I'll just bet your sister Diane is a great person too.... I hope so that is. My Mom's name is Carol, how funny is that???

You celebrated a New Years Anniversary, that is cool. I was only married 25 years, but wish we would have met each other many years ago. I would have given anything to have met him young and spent many more years together. That is my only regret in life. I wish to have spent many more years with the greatest husband on this earth. I know we ALL had the greatest husband/wife on earth. I wish you best on New Years Eve celebrating the best of times with your husband!!!

Comment by Carol Kayser on December 28, 2012 at 6:38pm

Hi Diane C.  That's good news that you will try all other things...I bet you have GOOD luck with that! 

Yes, well my husband was also a severe diabetic and when his blood sugar went low and he had worked a night shift, well it wasn't a good combination.  He did wean himself off a lot of the drugs and I was very proud of him for that:)


Well New Year's - guess what Diane (I have a sister Diane too)..this will be my husband's and I's 40th wedding anniversary!  So I like to spend it with him, communing if you will:) just remembering and doing a little of the things we liked to do.  I've been invited out so I will go to a friend's (only for dinner and a movie) and then home.  So try not to be too alone.




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